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teacher stating that he was interupting and did not keep his hands to himself...Is it to early in the school year to be getting notes sent home?Shouldn't a kindergarten teacher have more patience with her students?

2006-08-16 16:17:56 · 43 answers · asked by lighthouse_22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting Grade-Schooler

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It is not a question of a teacher having patience. Teachers realize, especially in this politically correct day and age, that they can only do so much to correct your child's behavior. The rest is up to you. So how about, instead of arguing with her and giving her more problems, you help her out by disciplining your child?? Just a thought.

2006-08-16 17:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 3 0

No, I don't think they should have more patience. Why would it be ok for your child not to keep his hands to himself? If someone were harassing your child would it still be ok? Or is it just ok because it's your child? I've spent hundreds of hours in classrooms. If that was my son he'd be in trouble and he knows it. Do you even realize what the teachers have to teach in a school year??? It used to be that Kindergarten was for social interaction. Nope, now they have to learn to read by the end of the school year, they have to know how to count past 100, and they learn very simple math! Cut that teacher some slack. Your child should know by now that his hands should be kept to himself. He's stopping the class from learning! Why would any parent condone that?? If my son were in that class I'd be a bit upset because some other child was taking class time from him. Kindergarten isn't about fun and games any more, it's about fundamentals. All children deserve and have a right to an equal education. When one child distrupts that it's not fair to the rest.
Now, that being said my eldest child was much like yours! Probably worse because he could not/would not sit still. I told him the same things as I am telling you. It's not right. You are cheating the rest of the kids out of time that is rightfully theres. Of course, that didn't work and we had to become more interactive with him and his teachers. I went into his class and he would behave very well. Maybe that's something you should think about. He knows mommy isn't there to take care of it. He MAY think he can do whatever he wants to.

2006-08-18 08:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0 0

She should have waited until she could see whether his behavior is a pattern or was just part of the whole kindergarten thing's being new for him.

I got the call from the kindergarten about three weeks in because (even though it was clear he could do this at home) my son
didn't properly identify a color. When I got to the school the teacher made a giant issue, started to talk about learning problems, didn't believe me when I said he knew his colors, and said he "also appears to be an introvert because he won't join a group uninvited" (well, neither will I). This was a long time ago, but my son paid for that teacher's singling him out dearly; and if I knew then what I know now I would have pulled him out of her class after that first visit. Instead, I politely considered that she may know what she was talking about (even though it was clear to me she didn't).

Be careful, and don't give this teacher too much time if she seems a little too overzealous and over-critical too often.

2006-08-17 17:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0 1

What is wrong with that teacher?? wow, you would think that the teacher would understand that they are in kinder garden and only a few days into the school year...that there would be some of this!! WOW...I'd talk to the teacher and find out what is exactly going on and why she is sending a note home already!! If you can get anywhere that route then I'd start talking to the Principal and maybe get his teacher changed!

You might also want to have a little talk with your son about not interrupting and keeping his hands to himself....nothing major and definitely no punishment for it....but just a little "you know its really nice to listen when other people are talking...you shouldn't interrupt them.....and you should keep your hands to yourself"

Good luck..

2006-08-17 10:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by itsjustme 2 · 1 1

Could this child have ADD/ADHD? Or just a short attention span? He may be too young to enter school? I entered K when I was 5...it was too early for me...I was still "too immature".

Kindergarten is for teaching children how to behave in school and public.

It is also for learning the basics that will be used in the coming years.

There is a time for play, but also a time for STRUCTURE. As in life there are RULES that everyone has to learn and live by.

Is this the mother of this child a stayhome mom? Usually if this child has gone to daycare then he should know some of the rules of the classroom.

Yes, the teacher should be more patient with the child, but also, if she is constantly having to stop what she is doing/teaching to correct him...it is not fair to her nor to the other children.

Start at home by teaching him that if someone else is talking, that he must wait his turn...maybe raise his hand if he has something to say...I still do this and I'm 40...

As far as the keeping his hands to himself...tell him to keep his hands in his lap?
Good luck...

2006-08-17 03:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by sheila m 1 · 1 0

Sorry to hear about such a bad start to your school year! It is a little early for bad news but it is just a teachers way of asking for help. Try some good report bribes. Write back to the teacher or call. Ask her to let you know on a weekly basis how he is doing. At the end of the week of a good report do something special with him. Remind him of the pending reward daily before school so it is fresh in his head. Our teacher last year had a marble jar. Every time her class received a compliment from another staff member or helper they added another marble to the jar. Once the jar was full the class got a pizza party. The bit was so successful they had 3 parties! It works at home too.

2006-08-16 18:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

OH MY GOD!!! I'm a Kindergarten teacher and either your sons Kindergarten teacher is new to this grade or to teaching or is a complete idiot. You pretty much expect all kids to be interrupting and touching everybody and everything at this point. I honestly dread the first month of school because it is so difficult, but at the same time, I know why the children are acting the way they are and that first month we go over how we behave in school and why we behave certain ways in school. The only phone calls or notes I've ever sent home this early was when the child was either endangering himself or others (I had a boy who tried to stab everybody with scissors and pencils.) I think you need to talk to this Kindergarten teacher and let her know you'd be willing to help in anyway you can, but at the same time, let her know that 5 year olds are just learning what school is all about and are too excited to learn to raise their hand at this time. I almost want to talk with this teacher to give her some ideas of how these kids will behave because she obviously doesn't have a clue and ways to teach them how to behave. It's all about positive reinforcement at this age.

2006-08-17 12:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by Serena 5 · 0 1

I seem to have a different view than the others but that may be because I teach older kids (4th/5th graders). I see no problem with the teacher sending home a note about behavior (good or bad) this early.

It's important to keep the lines of communication open! The teacher, student and parents are a team that work together for the child's education, both academic and social. I applaud the teacher for the quick communication. Wouldn't you want to know how your child is doing? Wouldn't you want to know what you could do to help reinforce lessons (academic, behavioral, and social) and rules that are learned and expected in school?

Be sure to talk to your child's teacher to help him/her know your child's personality, behavior, abilities etc. This can only help your child's teacher be a better teacher for your child.

2006-08-16 18:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by maxma327 4 · 2 0

I would not complain. She is just communicating with you about what is going on at school. That's GOOD. The two of you are supposed to be a team here. How can it possibly be "too early" for her to communicate with you about your child? Some KG teachers send a behaviour report home with EVERY child EVERY day.

This is the beginning of the KG year of school. Your child is just starting to learn the rules at school. She is trying to get you on her side so that you will help reinforce at home what his behaviour is supposed to be like at school. This is the part where you back her up by reminding him in the mornings before he leaves, "OK son.....remember that......" and you restate the rules for him. You set him up to succeed.

I'm sure she DOES have plenty of patience with her students. KG teachers must have more patience than any other teachers out there! But it's also YOUR job as the parent to know what is going on at school and to help prepare your child to succeed.

2006-08-17 12:23:12 · answer #9 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0 0

I am having the same problem. I do think we need to trust the teacher. At first I wanted to blame the teacher, but I realized that
I better listen before I have bigger problems down the road. I spoke to the school principal and felt a lot better afterwards. I at first thought "oh my gosh I have a problem child"...but I learned that kindergarten students are in a more structured environment
and it takes some adjusting on the childs part, and some take longer. Give it time, but be firm. He will be ok...

2006-08-17 09:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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