Isn't going to the wedding enough? Not reallly interested in the shower, but must I attend it too?
2006-08-16 16:11:50 · 26 answers · asked by renie51 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I agree with you! Some expect a gift at the shower and then again at the wedding.....I DON'T THINK SO.
I just recently went through this and didn't go to the shower. I hate showers anyway. They'll get my gift when I'm at the wedding. One or the other, I say. And let's say you can't make the wedding, I still do not think that makes you obligated to go to the shower. Sending a gift is just as nice.
2006-08-16 16:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to attend a shower. It's optional. If you are going to the wedding just say you already have an event planned on the day of the shower and bring your gift to the wedding!
2006-08-16 16:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Annie Oakley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - you aren't obligated to attend either, and going to one does not mean you have to go to the other. Just decline the invite to the shower - maybe send her a card, or even a gift if you're close enough to her, but you're not really obligated to send her anything in that case. I can't stand showers, myself. I usually always decline.
2006-08-16 16:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all ...like the post said before just for presents is all the shower is ...go to wedding and take a gift
2006-08-16 16:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the couple. If they are relatives then I think you should consider attending both functions. If you go to the shower, I would buy the bride lingerie or something intimate that she can use either on her honeymoon or when she goes to bed. If you attend the wedding, you can always but nice dishes, glasses or goblets, or something that no one else will get them. I hope that you are able to make up your mind. Good Luck!
2006-08-16 17:49:25 · answer #5 · answered by nygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not "obligated" to do either. You're invited. If you feel obligated, that's your own issue to deal with I suppose. I think as far as GIFTS go, if you went to neither, you'd still be obligated to get a wedding gift for the couple.
2006-08-16 16:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by mayorofsteveville2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be fine if you send a shower gift and not attend. You can still attend the wedding (and another gift! Send it ahead of time.)
2006-08-16 16:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by okarol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't go, you should make up a good excuse and you are still obligated to buy a shower gift.
2006-08-16 19:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no obligations for going anywhere.
I personally love both the showers and the weddings.
If you need to rsvp for the shower....just say sorry busy.
2006-08-16 18:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are free to decline either invitation.
But if you do go to the shower, you must bring along a gift.
2006-08-16 16:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋