I am a disabled woman looking to be in the dating scene.....
2006-08-16 16:10:29 · 15 answers · asked by sylverdreamer2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess able bodied people might see it as some sort of barrier in having a normal relationship, but I guess it depends on the condition.
2006-08-16 16:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because people are often scared by what they don't know. If they've never really met someone with a disability before, they feel self conscious.
Also they might feel "guilty" for fancying someone with a disability, as if there is something unnatural about it, which, of course, there isn't.
I would suggest putting yourself out there in social rather than dating situations. That way people will get to know you rather than just see your disability.
I have a disability and I've been married now for seven years - and my husband is a real looker!
Take my advice, anyone who don't want to know you due to your disability isn't worth the time and effort anyway.
Keep positive - confidence is the most attractive asset a woman can have.
2006-08-16 23:47:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pommie girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on a consciuos level it is hard for an able bodied person to know how to treat a person with a disability, it is always difficult to do certain things with them. on a sub-concious level it is the fear that if there are children will they be disabled also, i guess u could call it natural selection. Disabled people are mostly viewed as weaker than able bodied ones and thus they are less likely to attract a mate, even in the wild any weaker animal will find it very hard to find a mate. But we are not animals and there are people who are able to look past the disability, so do not give up, u will find some one who will love u for who u are.
2006-08-17 04:05:45 · answer #3 · answered by alexio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that hard. My ex boyfriend is in a wheel chair and was the biggest player I ever met... of course his reason for being such a player was his low self esteem and need to prove himself.
Anyway. go on some dating sites.. that's where he found me and countless others. Hey...it worked for him! lol
A good one is plenty-o-fish I actually met some nice people on that one. Don't you have a 360? You should be able to find someone on there that may have similar interest to yours, just go under search and type in a keyword. Just make sure you are honest and up front about your disability... You really shouldn't have a problem.
2006-08-16 23:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I have a disability and have been going through the same issues you've been talking about. I think people without a disability go throughout their life not giving a second notice about how easy they have it. Do you live near Ohio? I'd go on a date with you
2006-08-16 23:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by osunumberonefan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u guys r just eating dinner then i dont see any problem, i am not totally sure how they work it out because im not one.. but i guess if ur talking about kissing...wait r u dating a normal man? or disabled man? um.. different for both.. if ur dating a nomal one then make him kiss u for that matter if disable then... hope u got ur answer from someone else, sry couldnt help much.. good luck!
2006-08-23 17:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe, sylverdreamer2005, it can be a two-way thing. We tend to put obstacles in the way ... looking for reasons why a relationship wouldn't be able to work successfully.
Of course, most people that enter relationships see sex somewhere along the line. It's easy to see how difficult sexual relations might be, rather than looking at ways to overcome them.
I, too, am predominantly wheelchair bound (I can manage a few steps on elbow crutches, but have a tendency to fall flat on my face). If you'd like to discuss things further, don't hesitate to contact me via email or pm.
Best of luck in your endeavours [endeavors for my American cousins].
2006-08-24 19:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by micksmixxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt discriminate dating a woman who is disabled, they r still human beings. i think its wrong if u wont go out with somebody who is disabled for that reason.
2006-08-17 06:47:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should not be. I have seen many beautiful and funny disabled people and it is no different and shouldn't be. If you fancy a chat eleetsp@yahoo.co.uk x x
Paul
2006-08-17 08:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by paul s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frankly, it has this certain degree of discrimination. there's as a lot of people who understands your situation but not everyone (usually the one you like) fully comprehends your condition -- i know it's sad but not all wants to be with diminished, limited capacity, or with whom they cruelly call--special people (sucks). almost all have that mentality to go out with men,women of thier same state or ablity.
pray... as i am praying for you now.
2006-08-21 04:17:28 · answer #10 · answered by dong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋