My five year old son started school on Monday and by Tuesday I had already received a "NOTE" ..?

Question

from his teacher stating that he was interupting and not keeping his hands to himself. Is this too soon to be getting notes from his teacher? Shouldn't a kindergarten teacher have a little more patience with children?

Answer 1

IT is never too soon if there is a prob. You need to talk to your Son and explain to him how important school is and if he disrupts class it effects the other kids from learning. If it does not stop you may need to take his toys or t.v away. Do not let it go or it might get worse. I know he is adjusting to school and i have a 5 year old that just started.

Answer 2

I think it's just the teacher. I've seen this before. My daughter was in 2nd grade and accused of bullying. She's not bully though and everyone we knew agreed. It turned out that she got upset in class over something and took time away from the teacher and this got her classified as a trouble-maker. It just didn't seem right. The principal wasn't a lot of help either. She's hired this dult of a teacher, after all and didn't want to know what kind of problem she posed to my daughter.

So I volunteered regularly in the classroom. It was amazing how that turned my daughter into a model student (she already was--duh). I was there helping put together lesson materials, reading to kids, etc.. I was taking a huge burden off her and my daughter had a much better year. Since then I've volunteered every year--not to the same extent but was in the class about once a week.

So don't get too worried yet. This teacher could be anything from a first time teacher (even if she doesn't look young enough) to one on the verge of retirement. Do peek into class often and show that you aren't some crazy lunatic who lets your kid run around with scissors. She'll probably ease up and find less wrong with your son's behavior. It never hurts to be a familiar face.

Answer 3

When was the last time you heard of a five-year-old who didn't fidget. Yeah, I do think that the second day of school is way to early to be sending notes home to the parents about things like this. His teacher really should have a bit more patience, and should be trying to deal with this herself before getting the parents involved. Now, if your son was going around hitting all of the other children for no apparent reason, then a not on the second day would be totally justified. I've worked with kindergarteners for quite a while; this is how they act. Is this a new teacher, perhaps? That might explain her actions.

Answer 4

Yes I think the teacher should have a little more patience. There is an adjustment period for the kids. All YOU can do is speak to him , and tell him to not be disruptive ... but he is just reacting normally at this point. Ultimately its going to be up to the teacher to get the children to behave. I am sure he was not the only one who got a note. If I was in your situation. I would write a friendly note back to the teacher saying something like this.

Dear Mrs____
I appreciate you keeping me informed. Considering this is an adjustment period for my son, I wouldn't worry too much about his behavior. At this point it sounds pretty normal to me. Feel free to contact me again, if necessary.
Sincerely,___

Teachers appreciate it tons when parents communicate with them. In my opinion ... its a team effort... parents and teachers working together ... especially at kindergarten age...
hope this is helpful.

Answer 5

Alot of the other comments say that the teacher should have more patience. Well, how many kids at one time did they all have to watch? I'm sure you're not the only parent to get "a note". The teacher is telling you because it's not her job to discipline your child when necessary. Teachers now-a-days aren't allowed to do much, if anything, when they have a disruptive student in the classroom. The fact that your kid can't keep "his hands to himself" makes me think that maybe he did something innapropriate to another student, which then, YES, makes it your problem. That teacher has definitely had more experience with children than many of us. Even those of us who are raising children of our own. If you have a problem with the fact that the teacher wants you to have control over your son, then maybe you should sit down and talk to her.

Answer 6

my son starts kindergarden next week and my other son will start Pre K!

last year when my oldest went to Pre k the teacher sent notes home about every other day till about half way thru the school year. then it was only every once in a while. (the little devils need time to learn and with out persistance they wont learn)


this year i expect 3 times as many notes from their two teachers!!

EXPECT many notes in the days to come espesially if this is your childs first "school" experince they have never had that sort of restrictions on them before. and the teachers ARE very patient with them. But they cant let everything pass by. for every ONE note you get realize that she probly could have sent you a dozen more!!
(i sat in on a few of my sons classes last year those little kids are a bunch of little devils and MOST of it other than the actuall bodily harm stuff she let slide!) (i saw stuff i would have expelled a older kid for!!)

teachers no mater how young the child have to draw the line somewhere.

Just wait till your first parent teacher conference!!!!!!!!( learned about alot of stuff my son had done that she haddnt sent a note about!)


also i just remebered this with your child being a "handsy" kid the teacher is probly trying to help you avoid a law suit! a few years back a 5 year old little boy was took to court over a sexual harassment case! the little boy had huged and kissed "on the cheak" a little girl in his class when the little girl told her parents and the parents asked the teacher what she had dont about it when she replayed she didnt know it had happened they filed for sexual harassment aganist the little boy and filed with the school to have the teacher fired! for allowing it to happen (she had 30 other kids in the class to look after!)

Answer 7

Is she a first year teacher?

I'd think if you are already getting a note it is either she is very Thorough and wanted you to know ASAP what she felt his problem in school would be or as hard as it might be to believe he was VERY disruptive in those 2 days. I'd go in and talk to her, see exactly what was going on- you could have read tone into the note that wasn't there. It could have simply been an " I want the school year to go smoothly and the last 2 days he has had trouble with interrupting lets nip this in the bud right away before it gets worse." note but she worded it poorly.

Answer 8

Yes, one would expect a kindergarten teacher to be more tolerant.

Did she specify how he was interrupting or what he was doing with his hands? If he was just excited or didn't understand he was interruping, then she should cut him some slack. Same with the "hands to himself" thing - especially if he's not been in daycare or around a lot of other kids, he might not understand what he's "allowed" to do.

My suggestion? Call the teacher (not the principal - yet) and make an appointment to go in and talk to her. Ask her to describe what your son did, what her expectations are and how you can help her. Ask her how she told the students what was expected of them; did they understand? Don't ask what the other kids are doing, or if anyone else got a "note." She's not allowed to tell you.

Keep notes of your meeting. If this keeps up and you truely feel like your son is not at fault, then schedule a meeting with the principal. Just make sure you've documented the meeting/s with the teacher so you can tell him/her that you've already tried to work it out on that level.

Answer 9

My son just started 1st grade and is doing great but when he was in kindergarten we had a similar problem. I didn't do anything but I wish now that I had. My son was excited to start school and never complained but a few weeks later he started having trouble getting "good notes" and never wanted to go to school. I worked in the class all year and found the teacher to be very short with the kids at times. Check around with other parents, see if anyone else has had similar problems with this teacher. Go with your gut if you think that their is going to be a problem, switch him early!

Answer 10

I would ask to schedule a meeting with her. If it's not too early to be sending home little notes, it's not too early to be starting meetings. I think it's too early, he's just started school, come on give the kid a break. He's excited to meet all these new kids, and learn new things. If she continues to be a *itch, I suggest asking to have him moved to a classroom where the teacher would help him. We decided to hold back my daughter because her attention span is too short, so I figured she'd be behind all the time. I'm glad I did.

Answer 11

It is not a question of a teacher having patience. Teachers realize, especially in this politically correct day and age, that they can only do so much to correct your child's behavior. The rest is up to you. So how about, instead of arguing with her and giving her more problems, you help her out by disciplining your child?? Just a thought.