my boyfriend and i were already 5 months steady. I know that he is already married. I love hin so much and dont want to loose him...what is the best way to do?
2006-08-16 16:07:45 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask his wife if she'll share?
2006-08-16 16:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i would never recommend you continue having a romantic relationship with a married man, since it's always going to be a source of negativity and damaging to the feelings of every individual involved.
Having said that, this is obviously a subjective question, and therefore i suppose it all depends on what you are willing to put up with? One example I can think of is: Are you willing to always be in the position of second best? Because that's exactly where you are until he legally starts the divorce process and even then what guarantees do you have that he will want to head immediately down the very same road he just got out of?
Since your relationship with him has only been 5 months long, which isn't a long time to have been with someone if you think about it, I'd say get out now! Tell him that you do have feelings for him, but because you think enough of yourself that you don't want to open yourself up for a major heartbreak in the future, you think its best to cut things off here, and should he choose to follow through on leaving his wife, to maybe look you up at that point in time! Otherwise, you are playing a very dangerous game, which reaches beyond just the two of you, and more likely than not, only bad things will result from continuing to play!
As hard as it might seem now to end things, it will only become harder if you wait, and chances are that time time will eventually come! But, these are only my opinions and what i think doesnt matter, but i hope what i've said gives you some things to seriously think about when deciding what it is you think you should do! Good Luck!
2006-08-16 23:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by They_Say_Im_Cocky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could have done was to stay away from a married man in the first place. How could you be so selfish as to worry about YOUR relationship with him? What about his WIFE? And oh yeah you may "love" him but he doens't love you, if he "loved" any woman he would not cheat.
2006-08-16 23:14:29 · answer #3 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he's cheating on his wife what makes you think he's not cheating on you. Once a cheater always a cheater. If he loved you or was a decent man he'd break it off with his wife then date. He's a looser and not worth your tears. Pick yourself up and go on. I'm sure you have alot to offer to someone more on your level of honesty. I'd like to add this, how do you think his wife would feel if she knew? Hurt, yes because he made a vow to her for life.
2006-08-16 23:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by roseme_4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up and find a new, single man. His wife will eventually find out and you'll be labled a home wrecker. I'm sure you don't want that following you around for the rest of your life. Also, if he'll cheat on his wife with you, you can almost garuntee he'll cheat on you when he gets tired of you.
2006-08-16 23:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by BoSox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1, he aint your boyfriend, he belongs to someone else. 2. you need to leave him be, because he might tell you that he'll his wife and never will. 3. how can you make a relationship with this man if it was just you and him which it will never be he would be doing the same thing to you. whats wrong cant find your own. you might as well ask him to have a threesome , you sleep and kiss his wife when you sleep and kiss him.
2006-08-16 23:18:58 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He is married, you should have never engaged in "anything"
with him.
2. You are a side-dish, nothing more.
3. Grow up, move on.
4. Let's say he leaves his wife to be with you, Question for you
"He cheated to be with you, what makes you think he won't cheat on you to be with ????"
Move on, and stop commiting adultry.
2006-08-16 23:12:56 · answer #7 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to lose him. Would you want a guy that could possibly do something like this to you or one that thinks this behavior is ok? Just think of the other women you are hurting. His wife.
2006-08-16 23:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by Annie Oakley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off now before you get even more attatched to him. You are wasting time that you could be using to build a relationship with someone you could actually spend the rest of your life with. Even if he says he's leaving her, it will probably take years.
2006-08-16 23:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by secondopinion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow no offense but ur bf seems like a conviving jerk and if he's cheating on his wife with you, when she finds out and breaks up with him what do u expect him to do to u? i mean a leopard never changes his spots so keep that in mind while making your decision
best of luck,
dr. phil... or something like him
2006-08-24 20:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by fanta chic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he is obviously never going to be faithful to anyone, so the only thing you 3 can do is become Mormon and move to Utah.
The only wise thing you can do is stay away as far a possible from him.
2006-08-16 23:38:03 · answer #11 · answered by daniel s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋