We have been dating for 6 years, and he thinks that things go downhill once people get married...does this mean he will never marry me? He is almost 30 and I am 25...
2006-08-16 16:04:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't know him so can't really say for sure, but it sounds like he's happy with the current arrangement.
If it doesn't bother you, don't sweat it. But if you really DO want to get married and are just waiting for him to come around I suggest you let him know. Talk to him and be straightforward, no ambiguity.
I'm afraid you're setting yourself up for a lifelong wait.
2006-08-16 16:12:22 · answer #1 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might just be scared. While his statement is true of some people, remember that many people get married and stay happily married for years. You two have been together for 6 years, that alone should tell you that you know each other well enough and are compatible enough to get married. Tell him straight up how you feel-that you are interested in marriage and that you would like to marry him. Let him know that you have fears,too, but that you two can work through things together. If he doesn't come around in awhile I would let him go, because if he doesn't ever want to get married then you two just don't want the same things in life.
2006-08-16 16:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by jellybean24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty, most men think that. He may have a reason, but the more you pressure him, the more resistant he will be. Do you want to get married? Are the reasons really worth it? If it isn't broke, don't fix it. If it's broke, then that's not the band-aid anyway. Six years is a long time to invest in one person, you've spent most of your adult life with him thus far, fact is, you are married, just not on paper. He may already feel the commitment to you, perhaps he doesn't want to ruin/jinx it. There are horror stories all around as far as marriage goes, my aunt and uncle didn't wed until they were together for 10 years, now it's going on 20. There is hope if that is your question. If the fear of marriage is what is scaring him and you want a wedding, perhaps a commitment ceremony would do the trick for you. Food for thought, best of luck.
2006-08-16 16:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by Without a clue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not every ones marriage goes down hill. if he has been with u for 6 yrs then wuts to say u can't get married. if u been together for this long whos to say u can't be longer. some people have been happaly married for yrs and still together. just hang in there for a while and he might come around.
2006-08-16 16:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by baby_blue_blonde87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If not for the fact that its been 6 yrs and your still not married, then YES, let this be your second clue.
2006-08-16 16:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup yuo got it if he was going to marry you he would of done it a long time a go he is scare of the commentment of puting that ring of your finger he like thing as they are that why he said its all down hill ounce people get married.you got a boyfriend who is a loser.
2006-08-18 01:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might marry you but he doesn't sound too optimistic about the long term. It's true by the way.
2006-08-16 16:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by rogue chedder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it means that hes afraid to ask you to marry him.he probably doesn't really believe that it all goes down hill.next time he says something like that...tell him what you think about marriage. maybe THEN he won't be so scared to ask.
2006-08-16 16:11:16 · answer #8 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't marry you if that is the way he feels.
2006-08-16 16:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by big T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it.
2006-08-16 16:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋