Do you get tired of people calling and coming over so much and you just want to unplug the phone and not answer the door? Lately I feel this way quite a bit. I told my husband to get me a t-shirt for Christmas (the garfield one that says GO AWAY). I have a neighbor who is becoming quite the annoying pest with her calling two to three times a day, sometimes even when Im at work, coming over or sending her kids down to my house. Then there's my Mother who always seems to pick the day my house is not clean to show up and critique everything, assuming that I have not cleaned all week. I guess that is life but it stinks when people won't leave you alone sometimes.
2006-08-16 16:03:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yea
2006-08-16 16:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Tenshi X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you talking about .. Some people dont respect your privacy and I really hate to hang out with the same crowd all the time . I had this firends who was calling me all the time and ask me if I can go out with her and then it became so annoying because If i wouldnt she would get offended well I ended the relationship . I am kind of a loner myself and I'd like to be left alone .,I have more male friends than female friends since male friends are less of a bug . I have problem with depression and sometimes I just wanna stay home all weekends without my phone ringing and my door bell buzzing and some people just dont understand this . I work so hard and still have problem to make the ends and I went to college to have an easy life but these days having a college degree dosent mean much and all these bothers me and there it comes my crazy mom who calls and tells me she is getting old and got these wrinkles on her face and she cant stand it and she hates this life . so girl i know what u r talking about.
2006-08-20 21:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is time set some ground rules. Tell your neighbors and family you'd prefer they call or arrange time to visit because the disruption is affecting your family routine.
Next time Mom critques simple state life happens if you don't like a lived in house then clean it up or call before you come over. I'm sure her house wasn't perfect every single day when you were a kid.
It is also perfectly OK to not answer the phone. We are teaching our kids they don't have to RUN like crazy people when the phone rings, answering it is a choice you make and sometimes it is easier to call someone back when life is too hectic or you need time to unwind.
Turn your ringer down, set an emergency call routine for your kids call ring twice hang up call back. This way you will know when they need to reach you and can disregard anyone else.
We also set our voice mail message to indicate we are out or simply too busy to answer the phone and to please leave a message. It is polite and sends a subtle message you don't allow the phone to rule your home.
As for uninvited guests answer the door and tell the kids your busy but they are welcome to call later or tomorrow to see if they can stop by.
Sounds like you need a break- ask your husband to watch the kids and just go for a drive or go see a movie by yourself. When I get stressed I take the long way home or just go drive around, it lets me unwind and de stress before I tackle being a mom all over again.
2006-08-16 23:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have those days all the time. I suggest telling people about a certain day of the week that is just going to be 'your day'. My mom does this. Monday's are her days where she doesn't do anything but sit back and relax and not do anything else. There's nothing wrong with that. Just start advertising it; it's not rude. When you neighbor calls and you guys are having a conversation just say "Oh yeah, so next Tuesday I have the day off and I'm not going to do anything at all besides relax. I'm turning the phone off and locking the door." and say that part kind of in a ha ha way so it doesn't sound like you're calling her out on her annoyance. Once people get used to you and your "day" they'll learn to leave you alone on that day. Trust me, I leave my mom alone on Mondays lol! ; )
2006-08-16 23:11:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way I can have that happening to me.
Nobody can come to my house without letting me know in advance not even my mom.
I make a habit of not calling or encouraging people to call me. My time is precious and I don't relish yakking on the phone about nonsense. People call only if it's important. I call people when there's something important to tell them and I don't yak for hours not even more than 5 minutes.
Coming over 2 or 3 times a day is horrendous!!!!!! Coming over once a week or once a month will kill me. You have to tell her to stop doing it.
As for your mother, tell her it's your house and you can do whatever you like with it. You are an adult now and don't need her breathing down your neck. That's the perk of being an adult......doing what you like and nobody can tell you othewise.
2006-08-17 11:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find excuses not to deal with the neighbor and she'll get the hint and quit bugging you eventually. That's what I did. Some people are just very needy and cant do anything by themselves.
2006-08-20 22:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by Terifairi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What I do, is turn the phone off, and put a sign on the door "Please do not disturb. Sleeping ", even if I'm awake or busy. I have to have my " lone time ".
When I'm ready, I turn the phone back on, and take the sign down. But it DOES help keep neighbors that just want to visit away,when I'm not in the mood for company.
And I don't feel bad about it at all !!!!
2006-08-16 23:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I feel like that most of the time. Take a class is something, then when someone is bothering you, you can just say that you really have to study...
2006-08-20 11:35:06 · answer #8 · answered by Padme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang a sign on your doorknob: PMS Day - (bleep) off.
Have your answering machine say the same.
2006-08-16 23:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck yea every one wants time to there self to be able to take time to get lost in though,and find ur true identity be it mentally.emotionally,or just plain physical well being we all need time to chill ,oh yeah
2006-08-16 23:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by woodman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally feel the same way.
2006-08-16 23:08:07 · answer #11 · answered by scarletts_mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋