i have this pattern i seem to follow.. ive spent 24/7 w 3 boyfriends...at least 6 months... end up bored, out of love,extremely attached tho... is there any way around this in a relationship where u live and work together?
2006-08-16 16:00:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It can cause a serious strain on a relationship, but it's possible to make it work. For the past five years I've worked from home, and most of that time my wife has been a stay-at-home mom (well, we sometimes call her a "stay-at-school mom" because she's a perpetual volunteer for the kids' schools).
I don't do boredom, so I can't help with that. What I CAN help with is to suggest that you get out of the house from time to time, either together or alone. My wife and I try to have breakfast together once a week, while the kids are in school, at a restaurant near home; it helps to remind us of the non-working part of our relationship. And I try to make a point of going out to lunch with a friend once a week, and to the gym, and the like. It's important to get out of the home office -- the walls really close in after two or three days without a break, even though my south-facing wall is all glass and 14 feet high.
Something else... One thing that I believe to be very helpful is the occasional trip to my employer. (I work remotely, about 600 miles from the main office.) I tend to drive rather than fly when I need to be there in person for something, and frankly I think the long trips alone in the car are VERY good for my soul. It's about a 9-hour trip, more if I stop for meals on the way, and I enjoy cars (as if the avatar didn't let you know THAT), so I enjoy it as long as it's not too frequent.
So the answer is that long periods of 24/7 are enough to get ANYBODY cranky, but if you break them up from time to time, it can also provide a lot of closenesss.
2006-08-16 16:33:37 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby and I are together 24-7, and have been for years. We do however, take time away from one another.. we are not in each others faces.
We had horses, and I usually went riding. He had his cycle, and took off every now and then.
Love can be a funny thing. You fall in love - fall out of love - you think of one another as parents, or feel yourself becoming their parent.. you see one another as siblings.. close friends, worse enemies.. just always remember why you fell in love to begin with. Also remember, at some point in life, there really is an end to sex
Happiness is homemade..
2006-08-16 16:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
get together with some of your girl friends and go hang out or take some alone time and treat your self...go to the lake front alone grab a book a blanket or music and just relax take some time for you..go to the gym..get a mani and a pedi... you'll find that you will have more to talk about and miss each other more.
BUT YOU do need to spend time away from each other..even if he goes out with the guys it's cool and you stay home.
2006-08-16 16:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too much time can damage the relationship but not enough time can damage it also. If its gonna be 24/7 at least try new things or experiment so the relationship wont get bored. Good luck!!!!!
2006-08-16 16:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by pepperspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's never healthy in a relationship. Everyone needs some space and time apart. You can make plans with your friends or go shopping alone, there are plenty of ways to spend time apart.
2006-08-16 16:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't like to be with someone 24/7. I need my space.
2006-08-16 16:05:43 · answer #6 · answered by Stranger in a Strangeland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you that its hard as hell sometimes and sometimes its great. I live and work with my boyfriend we own a company together. I want to beat the **** out of him sometimes and other times I dont know what to do if he wasnt around...... but definatly get some alone time it does wonders........
2006-08-16 16:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Glittergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spending time together is good, but u are over doing it. Try to give him and yourself some space. Make him miss u a little, u'll have a better time when he sees you again.
2006-08-16 16:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Izabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you arent working do things you like wih friends and he go d things he like with his friends if you cant find something you can do apart then the two of you are too dependent on each other and that isnt healthy
2006-08-16 16:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No. Yes because you always need time to yourself and No because you should try to figure out new ways to keep eachother interested
2006-08-16 16:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Fantasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋