Well here's the thing he lied about being married and denied it right up to the time I met his wife face to face and he was still to convince me that she was lying about being married to him. And here's the thing we broke up and I started seeing someone else and became pregnant and I didnt know that i was pregnant at the time we broke up. Now he wants to be a BIG HAPPY FAMILY but I still dont trust him but I still kinda have feelings of love and SHEER HATRED toward him for what he has put me through. Should I do this for the baby?
Come one folks I need your help...........
2006-08-16 15:38:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definately don't be with this man. he sounds like he doesn't care about anyone but himself. not only did he lie about being married he continued to lie. this is not a man who you can trust. if he did this and was truly sorry then it may be different. you are not doing your child any favours by staying with this man. your child needs people around who will love them and respect them and so do you. this is not the man.
2006-08-16 15:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still with the new guy and he will excpet the baby, then stay with him. Do Not go back to the other guy though he will only hurt you more in the long run. Let him pay you child support for the baby, and then let his wife ahve him. You already know deep down that it is better for you and the baby for him to stay away, that is why you still hate him. yeah you may still like him some, but that will pass. if he cheated on his wife with you and lied about it, what makes you think he won't cheat on you with someone else and lie about that too...
2006-08-16 15:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you should get is child support and a lawyer. The scumbag has the moral and legal responsibility to help care for the child that he fathered. Whether you want him to share custody of this child (though I would advise against it), is another matter and should be carefully thought out. While it would be better for a child to be cared for and loved by both parents -- if this guy is really scum, then one parent (his mother) is a lot better than enduring a deadbeat and non caring father.
2006-08-16 15:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by LewAR26502 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, you know what you need to do. You are just hoping someone is going to tell you. Yes go back to the man that lied, betrayed and impregnated you. Don't worry about the wife you can have her left overs. You will live happier ever after.
2006-08-16 15:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by Just ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be with someone just for the baby.Do you think your baby wants to be around you guys fighting all the time,which is probably what will happen.You stick with your baby and take the world head on.It will be tuff,but love for each other will get you through.A better man might stumble into your life.Good luck
2006-08-16 15:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be with someone just because you have a baby together. Only get back together if you love him. I think it was pretty sh!ty of him to lie to you about something like that and makes it hard to trust him. Without trust its hard to have a relationship. I wish you all the luck.
2006-08-16 15:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Legally he owes child support as it is his child. No sense letting the child suffer from being without due to selfishness.
2. I think yoiu can only "get together" on your terms. Honesty and trust need to be developed between you both.
2006-08-16 15:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. there's no need to do it for the baby. when the baby grows up s/he will be able to tell that there is wrong. so don't even try and work things out unless you both are in agreement of being together because you love each other.
2006-08-16 15:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collect the check each month and otherwise stay away from him... He is married to someone else. He did it to her and he will do it to you! Do it for the baby? No way, provide a stable loving environment for that child....
2006-08-16 15:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a liar always a liar. Unless you have EXTREMELY LOW SELF ESTEEM, you should move on with your life. You will only look like a big fool if you get back with a loser like that. But we'll leave that decision up to you.
2006-08-16 15:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kyra B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋