All of a sudden, I got really sad, no idea why or what about and I'm being really clingy to a woman, that is like my Mom. What's up with that? What the heck should I do?
2006-08-16 15:21:20 · 13 answers · asked by Laura 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Have you recently had a life changing event happen (death, birth, divorce in the family, illness, etc)? If so, then it's probably normal. If not, maybe you could talk to your best friend, parent, or doctor/therapist and explore your feelings.
2006-08-16 15:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Girl named Sue 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone has the money (or resources) to go to a therapist, or they're not in an area that offers free mental health help.
Maybe you should explore why you suddenly felt so sad. What were you doing, thinking, watching, listening to? A lot of things can trigger feelings of sadness. Take a deeper look into what it is that suddenly makes you feel sad.
Sometimes it helps if you call someone to just talk. You don't have to talk about what you're feeling sad about but if you call someone you know can bring your spirits up, it helps. Also light-hearted music, comedies, and such can help you feel better.
You mentioned you're becoming very clingy to a woman that's like your mother. I think you answered (mostly) your own question. You have an attachment to your mother, which is normal for most men. Men tend to seek qualities in women that remind them of their mothers. Most of the time, anyway.
Has your mother recently passed away? Do you live close to her? Are you thinking of her a lot recently? This could cause you to want to cling to the woman more.
You may have abandonment issues which could cause you to want to cling to this woman. You could be feeling insecure or not worthy of her.
I am in no way a therapist, but I do recommend that you seek help, whether it be in self-help books or visiting a therapist, before it turns into full blown depression.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 15:34:32 · answer #2 · answered by BadWolf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has anything been going on recently in your life? Any changes? Has the anniversary of an unpleasant event recently passed, or is one comming up? Sometimes things like these can trigger bouts of sadness and depression. Take a step back and consider if there have been any triggers which would suggest a reactive depression. If not, there is always the possibility that this is endogenous depression, meaning it is natural and is likely the result of an imbalance of serotonin amongst other neurotransmitters.
If you are very close to your mom, you may wish to speak to her about this. If you are uncomfortable with this, you can always speak to a psychologist for a session or two to see if he or she can decipher what is going on. Rest assured, this is temporary and you will feel better soon.
2006-08-16 15:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Police 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to step back, look at everything in your life and determine if there is something that makes you sad or maybe something tramatising that has happend with you and your mom and maybe thats why youre clinging to a woman like her. Have you ever though that maybe you werent straight? or is it just clinging to her in a way that you feel like shes a mother? I cant really answer you that well because im not sure about that part. But, sometimes that has happend to me....getting really sad and not knowing why, sometimes its just that we are blind to the problems in our lives and what makes us sad. Alls i can advise to do is just think about things and try to make sense out of your life and not to worry too much about it.
2006-08-16 15:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by babe_xjen14 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you go through anything hard recently? Are you coming up on your period? I notice I get REALLY freakish and emotional when I'm getting my period. It usually passes. Give it time, women get like that. If it doesn't pass, maybe you should seek out some support.
2006-08-16 16:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you may be going thru a period of low mood. If this feeling persists for days you should see a doctor as this is not normal.
2006-08-16 15:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes, subliminally, you have a mortality realization. Your mind is reminding you that your mom is only mortal and will probably be gone one day. I know it's awful but please don't let it make you sad now. Enjoy all who are close to you because it's true. No one lives forever.
2006-08-16 15:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
for women its normal to feel the "blues" when your period is just about to come. this is usually caused by a hormonal change due by your menstrual period. but this isnt usually a severe case of depression.
2006-08-16 15:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by greengrapecake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your "mom" about it. See if there is something that is going on with her or she knows of something bad happening to her or someone you care about & you just picked up on it.
2006-08-16 15:34:52 · answer #9 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some says it is empathy...... which is good....
so .... just forget it, the more you think and search why is that, or this, you gets deeper and deeper,,,,,
do something else, watch comedy.... or anything
lyric: when i'm feeling blue, all i have to do ,,,,, is took a look at you.... then i'm not so blue.... .... ....
2006-08-16 16:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by Henry W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋