I'm asking this for a good friend of mine. She had a short lived relationship with a guy who flirted with her and chased her incessantly until he got her and then sacked her. He told her he loved her so much, missed her when she wasn't around, called all the time, nearly obsessively, etc... Then he went all gaga and starting making up stuff that he couldn't handle the relationship because he was an "abused child" and all this other nonsense... do you think he's really flipped out over an abusive childhood and has relationship problems, or is he just making up this crap to get rid of her? Now he wants nothing to do with her, not even be friends or speak. We are both confused about this. HELP?!
2006-08-16 15:17:50 · 33 answers · asked by lollygagger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It shouldn't be a mental case, unfortunately he is just one of those guys that are losers and are afraid of commitment and intimacy. Although if it is true that he was abused as a child, then it can have some affect on his relationships causing many arising problems. It could also be a possibility that he used that as an excuse to move on and go find another girl, he might be one of those guys that love the chase and when the chase is over and he caught the girl then the game has ended and he doesn't want you anymore. You can try to ask and figure it all out, but if i were you two, i would just forget about this loser and leave him in the past. Your friend deserves better, don't even think about him. Its a good thing that he isnt there anymore to bother her,
Good Luck. Hope i helped a bit =)
2006-08-16 15:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but Either he is extremely mental or he was just telling her a bunch of crap to get her however many times he wanted her, then he found a way to let her down. If he is Crazy then she doesn't want anything to do with a man like that anyway. On the other hand guys can be real creeps and it wouldn't surprise me if it were all just a big front. I am so glad those days for me are finished. I wish you and your friend both good luck and remember, Most guys are cruel so watch out.
2006-08-16 15:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell u what don't be confuse if someone man r woman talks about having a bad childhood dealing with abuse r have been abusive is a big problem. most talk show u see with someone who have been abusive is likely to give abuse. so the best help she needs is to get out of this relationship. our prison r also fill with killers who also said that they came up in a abusive family,whether it was father,mother,aunt,uncle, r any step parents
2006-08-16 15:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by LOOKING HARD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 23:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by fleitman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm thats a tricky one and i couldnt really answer it unless i knew him first hand but I can say this ..A persons childhood can and does affect the person they are when there older..i mean some ppl live in the past and it can affect there realtionships im going through that with my husband ..its really hard to understand but yes i think its possible..but he could also just be sying that to get rid of the girl men are evil sometimes and u will never know what there thoughts truly are ..if he left and doesnt want nuttin to do with her anymore then maybe she should let him go..im married to a guy that cant let go of his past and it affects are relationship in a really bad way..he sometimes comes off the wall with hes not happy in life and it makes me feel its me so when i confront him on how i feel he gets angry and says it has nuttin to do with me ..its hard to be in a relationship with a man that cant let go of his past so maybe he is doing her a favor ...either way he left her ..just tell her its his loss ..if he really loves her he will come back to her ppl like that just need time alone sometimes ..and sometimes there afraid of commitment i cant explain why cuz even i dont understand ..just tell her if its meant to be it wil be ..its up to her if she wants to take him back ..MEN i dont think ill ever understand them ..but im sure they think the same about us WOMEN haha good luck to ur girl
2006-08-16 15:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Agree
2006-08-16 15:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He got the girl so the thrill of the chase is gone. A lot of people like the thrill of not having something that they really want. It isn't exciting anymore once you get it. She'll get over it.
2006-08-16 15:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the following is true:
1. He is mentally unbalanced, and it's a good thing he went away.
2. He met a girl he likes better, lied about it, and it's a good thing he went away.
2006-08-16 15:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Austin W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report him on http://www.dontdatehimgirl.com/. Provide a good picture of the man. Say what he's done and how women can avoid him. Dont Date Him Girl is a website where women report their former lovers who cheated or lied to them.
2006-08-16 15:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by nobodyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds traumatised and needs to get help, being abused as a child probably left him with some psychological scars, he would need to seek help.
2006-08-16 15:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Spellbinder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋