hi, im 15 years old, and having some girl trouble. I've never before had a girlfriend, and the most i farthest ive ever gone with a girl is a hug.It bothers me when i know kids that are 12 that have better luck around girls than i do. Well, a few months ago i met this girl online that i remembered from a few years back, and we started talking to each other online. after awhile, it got to the point she gave me her number and i called her a few times. the times we talked she always acted really nice toward me and would tell me "you're the sweetest guy i've ever talked to" and things like that. time goes by, we hung out a few times in person, and now ive developed really strong feelings for her, shes always on my mind and all i want to do is be around her and see her happy.shes hinted to me on quite a few occasions that she might be interested in me, but recently, like the last week or two it seems as if she is avoiding me,i don't understand whats wrong. can anyone help me out?
2006-08-16 14:55:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what I;ve experienced, if a girl likes you and your already talking and hanging out, she will not avoid you. She will make sure she calls you or kisses you, it basically will be pretty clear she wants you and you will date and be all lovely dovey, etc. The fact that she was great with you up until she met you in person shows that she most likely didn't find you attractive. WAIT, don't feel hurt. I think you should realize that yes, regardless of what people say, girls are just as superficial as guys are when it comes to dating. Why? Because they are human. They are not above superficiality.
BUT......it could be because she's got the flu, or is out of town, or had a family problem, you never know. Maybe you should call her and be a friend for her, and see if she is okay. Be supportive of what may be going on in her life. Or maybe she is in love with YOU, and is just waaay too shy to talk to you now because of the butterflies in her stomach. She might need more time to say anything to you. Just go talk to her, and see what happens.
But if she really doesn't have the flu or something, and if she doesn't have a fmaily problem, and if she really isn't shy about you, etc, etc, then she clearly just isn't attracted to you. But you won't know unless you talk with her. And even if she's not attracted to you, don't get mad at her, she probably feels bad for you that she doesn't, and wish she was. Just be a good guy regardless and things will work out one way or another.
Hope that helps.
2006-08-16 15:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can help you with this. You said that you have really strong feelings for her. Girls are really perceptive, and bets are that she detected this and is a little scared. Girls like to know that you enjoy thier company, but aside from that you have to keep them wondering if you really like them or not rather than smothering them with attention. But this doesnt solve your problem. The main issue here, is that you are putting way to much pressure on yourself and its stressing you out right? That stress is effecting your personality and in turn that is reflected to her. The only way to permanatly fix this issue is to fix yourself. You need to do this by doing this: You need to broaden your focus and start talking with other girls, even ones you are not interested in. This will help you in soo many ways. It will help you feel more comfortable talking with them and it will also severely effect how much attention you give to a single girl. Im not saying you need to date 4 girls at the same time, but just get to know as many as you can and just be friends. Then play the field and pursue several potential opportunities. It takes the pressure off yourself when your talking to a potential girlfriend that if things go bad, you have someone else to go out with as a backup. I know that sounds horrible, but it will help you feel more confident which is what you need.
2006-08-16 15:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Slick Mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she's now got a boyfriend now? I think you should ask her if she's been okay lately and be honest with her about your feelings. If she rejects you (it will hurt, I know), move on. There are other fish in the sea. Getting things out in the open will let you both see where you two stand. And there will be no confusion, and so less tension.
2006-08-16 15:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by webstoragea1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not interested and is too weak to say so. However speaking from experience when a girl tells a guy she isnt interested he becomes nasty and mean... I have been guilty of blocking, ignoring etc. to let the guy get the hint. Its easier that getting slammed with insults upon rejecting him.
2016-03-27 05:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think the worst.. it is possible she does like u back and dosent know how to act around u anymore.. so she is just putting it off.. but b4 she gets involved with another guy u should make a move.. u dont want to loose her if u feel strong feelings for her!! i know us grls can be confusing sumtimes!! Good Luck ♥
2006-08-16 15:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok odds are shes kinda scared to either that or she doesnt feel the same way about u at all no offense but this happens all the time my god it just happened to me last week this guy likes me so much but i told him that i didnt view him as mor then a friend then he got mad and asked my best friend out!!!!! ha ha anyway just find another girl if this continues ok sry
2006-08-16 15:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by catiegraham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She migth be busy with a new job or something which is why it's taking her so long to get back in touvh with u. I can't talk to a guy I like just because of this situation. Hectic life....:-(
2006-08-16 15:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by funkymonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her what's wrong but don't go "all out" and out of no where be like why have you been avoiding me.you should ask a more basic question like"Am i really annoying ...or ...I havent ever had a girlfrined and if im doing somthing wrong tell me...or can you help me if i did somthing wrong because im confused.I hope this helps!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =-)
2006-08-16 15:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by Laxchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact her and find out whats the problem. Have a one on one conversation. Find out what she thinks about the relationship and try to do it soon or you'll never know how she feels.
2006-08-16 15:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Remy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like you don't like her. You will get far this way. Just don't be mean and don't try to search after her. Let her be the cougar mann!!!!!!!!!!! That's how the good guys get the bad girls.
2006-08-16 15:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by thunderbomb90 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋