How to deal with 14 year oldswho seem to be in love?

Question

One class mate of my son sends regular love emails to my son but probably does not get encouraging response from him. How shall I deal with the situation without hurting anybody's feelings? Children at this age are very sensitive and I donot want to talk with the girls parents straightaway.
Only serious answers please.

Answer 1

The best way is to council them at the right opportune time.The age is such that they do not know what is right for them.They need to concentrate on their studies rather than indulging in such activity in order to do well in their life.

Answer 2

I noticed that you said the girl "probably" doesn't get encouraging response from your son. How do you know? Regardless of that though, here's what I think you should do: absolutely nothing.

They're 14. It is a perfectly normal time for BOTH of them to be learning about these things... love, rejection, feelings, etc. I also think it's a little strange that you know what all the emails are that your son gets. I understand he is only 14, but I think that is old enough to be entitled to *some* privacy.

Answer 3

honestly if your son doesnt feel the same way about her, have him tell her.. Dont have him lead her on.. I am 21 now and i am with the same guy that i have been with since i was 14 we are now married and have a son together.. I know that is actually looking way into the future but remember girls mature faster then boys and she may love him or it may be a facination. But best thing is let it go at its own pace if ur son does feel the same torwards her, if not tell him to tell her or it will get dragged on! good luck

Answer 4

Just let it go, its a crush and nothing more. If you get the feeling that your son is bothered by it or the emails seem to be getting more intense that block the girls e-mail so she can't send you messages. But if you just let it alone it will go away. She will get bored and move on to someone else.

Answer 5

i believe the situation is not that serious as you think it is.
these days the teens get to see so much of such kind of content on TV and movies that they tend to follow them.
i believe that at 14 NO ONE can fall in love. its not practical, so perhaps try waiting for some time perhaps a month or two.
this is a temporary phase that teens may encounter, wherein they think that they are in love with someone. however as time passes the feelings fade away. try to react normaly and do not try to restrict the interaction between the girl and your kid.
as time would pass off she would get more comfortable and once she gets a feeling of security , she would understand.

Answer 6

Let it be! Teens will be teens and getting her parents involved is not the way to go. She has a crush, it's only time to go to her parents if she says scary stuff like "Love Me Or I'll Kill You" but trust me, at 14, this day and age, thats how it is! Let her get over him on her own without the embarrasment.

Answer 7

If your son doesnt respond encouragingly then i dont think you need to interfere. Eventually the girl will get it and leave him alone.

Answer 8

let us be that is what we teens dislike the most if your son doesn't like her she'll have to learn the hard way like i did sorry there is nothing u can do

Answer 9

just let him and her e-mail eachother if anybody gets hurt well thats just part of life i mean it will teach a lesson to both of them

Answer 10

well, everyone has to fall in love at one point or another in their life. dont you remember your first crush? remember, it is his life, and his feelings that will be crushed...just stand back and be a supportive father that you already are.