unequally yoked?

Question

Christians: have you ever dated a non-Christian? why? how did it work out?

(14 answers) im not looking for advice (thankyou though), im interested in personal experiences... God bless :)

Answer 1

Ended in divorce.

Answer 2

This is not about Christians it is about every religion. It works out just fine right up to the moment they have kids. After that all hell breaks loose.

One spouse then wants the kids raised in those stupid religious beliefs that the other spouse has just ignored up til now. Both spouses had promised it would never be a problem between them but that changes as soon as kids come into the picture.
Religious Holidays become uncomfortable and even battle times.
Jews and Christians are only separated by Jesus but then what happens at Christmas. For one spouse this celebration is completely wrong. For the other how do we give up the tree and gifts?

What generally happens is the kids are raised agnostic because it becomes a battles of beliefs. Going to church, Synagogue, or Mosque becomes rarer and rarer. Or one parent gives up its beliefs and converts to save the marriage. Or they are raised unhappily in the religion of the most dominate personality. Sometimes it leads to divorce, child custody battles and even the kidnapping of the children to another state or even country. We have a friend whose 2 little girls were snatched to Yemen. She can`t get them back and will likely never see them again. This is no isolated incident as there are about 8,000 American kids whose mother was a Christian, Agnostic, or Atheist that have been snatched to the Middle East.
It was all about the religion.

Answer 3

My husband wasn't exactly a NON Christian, but didn't really practice Christianity either. We started dating while I was going through some serious sinning. When I started to ask God to change me he really didn't understand what I meant. He started attending Church with me and as I slowly started to change, he became more interested in God. We went through a whole lot of changes. We are both doing very well now. I do know that this might not have worked for other people, most of the time I think it wouldn't work at all. I understand how important it is to be "Equally Yoked". I hope you find your Equal.

Answer 4

Yes I had dated non-Christians. I have no clue why, I just did. It never worked out since all they wanted was sex and I allowed it. I got a teen application Bible for Christmas in '98 and it changed my life around. There were things in there about sex and how it could ruin relationships and other things. Three months later I made a promise to God I'd stay pure until I got married. It worked and now I am happily married and it's because I was up front about my past and he was too.
It says also in 2 Corinthians 6:14-18 abount not being equally yoked with unbelievers

Answer 5

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Answer 6

2 Corinthians 6:14-17 "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial[b]? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: "I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people." "Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. "

When I was not a Christian, what was important to Christians was not important to me. When I became a Christian, what was important to me was not important to non-Christians. In order to be compatible, two people need to share life-goals, major interests, etc. I'm not saying share EVERYTHING in common. BUT what is MOST important to you should be shared with your 'other half'.

When I first became a Christian I started dating a boy who *claimed* to be a Christian, but really wasn't (by his own later admission). It didn't work out because we didn't share common goals (to live a life pleasing to God was mine, his was to live a life to make himself happy). I think it's hard, also, when you're a Christian knowing that you're headed to heaven and agonizing over someone you love not being there. God wants to save us from this hurt, so He set 'rules', if you will, in His word to try and save us from the hurts that we may encounter in this world. If we don't listen, we face the consequences.

Someone above mentioned where in the Bible it talks about being married to an unbeliever. This is in the case that they are ALREADY married. The Bible also tells us not to become unequally yoked with unbelievers. This is NOT saying that we are better. To understand this you have to think of farming, you can hook (this is called "yoking") up two horses to a plow to plow a field, or two oxen, but if you have one of each, the plow is uneven and cannot be used properly. Different animals cannot work together, because they do so differently. In the same way, a Christian and an athiest, or Muslim, or Jew, or Buddhist, etc. go through life with different values, morals, 'instructions', etc. We have to realize that when the Bible was written, the Church was brand new. Some people became Christians after being married. They had spouses that weren't becoming Christians. These letters in the Bible were written telling people the best way to approach this situation. Basically, just because you give your life to the Lord, he doesn't expect or want you to leave a spouse that doesn't. His hope is that this person also eventually comes to know Christ.

Answer 7

My husband and I are unequally yoked and I will pay the price for it! God did not choose this marriage for me, therefore, it is not working the way I thought it could! I should have listened to God. Look to a Chirstain guy when you begin your search or just ask God to show you !

Answer 8

God's word says to Not be unequally yoked and for good reason. God knows what will happen when you go ahead and set yourself up for future hurt and dissapointment that's why He trys to protect us with letting us know through His Word. God loves us more than anything and wants us to know it. He knows what is best for us even if we think we do more. Ask for His Will, not yours. He WILL guide you, just ask.

Answer 9

I was a church-going christian when we got together. He was the nicest atheist anyone had ever met. Although I became disillusioned with organized religion, it wasn't because of him - it was all the hypocrites in church that did that. We learned alot from each other. In spite of his never declaring himself such, he was the most christian man I ever met - always going out of his way to help others. We respected each other.

Answer 10

I did date a non-believer and ended up marrying him. It wasn't so much that he was a non-believer as he was just plain dishonest.....

After eight years of marriage, I found out that he was stealing money from our account in order to buy drugs......But the shock was diverted by the joy of his announcement that he wanted to get "saved."

Soon after he said the "sinner's prayer," all Hell broke out, and he literally turned into a demon who began to talk of killing me and the kids; he became excessively violent. It was very much a nightmare, but definitely a life changing experience....

I wrote about it in my book: Parable of the Fortune Cookie, available on Amazon.com if you are interested.....

I am now married to a wonderfully spiritual man who is definitely my soul mate.....

Answer 11

The Bible(the word of God) is our compass for life. It say don't be unevenly yoked, it was an advice. its up to you to listen, or deal with the complications that lie ahead.