I have been in love with a woman practically since we've met, I've know her for 4 years. We all have mutual friends. I think at different times she has been mildly attracted to me, but we never dated. I just never got my foot in the door. She's beautiful in every way. She met a great guy (could be a twin of me in every regard except we don't look the same) about 9 months ago and I fully expect that they'll be announcing their engagement soon after some mutual friends of ours get married next month. They wouldn't "steal the thunder" right now. I know I'll be heartbroken at her wedding, and I wouldn't know whether to shake the bride's hand, hug her, or what to do. It's my fault I didn't pursue her harder, I just didn't want to scare her off. Point is, folks.......should I go to the wedding or if I feel that strongly try to find a reason not to go? She was the one for me.....and I let her slip away. What should I do?
2006-08-16 14:27:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is so sad, I think you should meet up with this woman and tell her exactly what you've written here, there is a big possibility that she feels the same way about you as you do about her, if you don't try now you will regret it for the rest of your life and will always be wondering. However if things don't turn out as you would like then yes you must attend her wedding - that's what friends do !
I really hope with all my heart that things turn out well for you. This sounds like a real love story, keep us up dated.
2006-08-16 19:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. Good. Now take another. Being heartbroken tends to make one a bit less than rational. (Speaking from experience here.) Don't worry about this unless the engagement is announced and you get an invitation to the wedding. Right now you are adding more heartache to what's already on your plate.
2006-08-16 21:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When our lives come to the end, most want to look back with little regret.
Unless you want to carry this torch the rest of your life, then you need to tell this woman how you feel.....regardless. You will regret not doing so. You may be pleasantly surprised and then again,she may go on as you suspect. But in your heart, you'll know she knows, and you will smile.
2006-08-16 22:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off- is she engaged to this guy? and having known her for so long, maybe its time to be totaly honest with her. but dont feel bad if she does not feel the same, feel relived for getting it out in the open. at least you will know for sure where you stand. Than-- chin up,find a date and go to one of your best friends weddind and celebrate with her and new love.
2006-08-16 21:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing been announced yet? Then it sounds like you still could at least say something to her. Nothing may come of it, but at least you can always know that she knew of your feelings.
2006-08-16 21:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't even know yet if you will be invited. It's too early to be worrying about this.
2006-08-16 22:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even better. when the guy asks if anyone disagrees that they should be married stand up and say i disagree! lol
2006-08-16 21:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go, congratulate them, find some closure and move on
the right one will come along
2006-08-16 21:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by Willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
romance her and steel her away from him
you lucky freak
2006-08-16 21:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I no longer believe in marriage.... so I would'nt go...
is that your soulmate if only you know it?
2006-08-16 21:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋