What is the best way to keep a girl? What should someone like me do? I mean, I love my gf and she loves me too, but it has been rough lately and everything feels like we both are always doing everything wrong. I want it to be great. What can I do to keep my gf? Tell me about everything, how should the sex be, my feelings, her feelings, things I should do. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
2006-08-16 14:27:40 · 8 answers · asked by bad2bone2212 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you have to change the way you view your entire feelings about love.
Love isn't a feeling, but an action. Love is also supposed to be unconditional, and the way it stays that way is by loving your gf just because you do.
If you look at you gf and say I love you because....you're loving her conditionally, and conditional love is always about feelings.
Let me help you. My wife and I didn't always have the easiest going in our relationship. However, I had to purpose in my heart to love her regardless of my feelings. Let me explain that. I don't always feel like I love her, and I don't always get the "feelings" I want from her. However, my love isn't based on what she does/don't do. My love for her isn't based upon whether she'll have sex with me or not. My love for her isn't based on her looks, her money or anything else. My love for her is based upon one thing...I love her because I just do.
I have to be forthright in telling you my reasoning is because I'm a Bible believing Christian, but it's actually made alot of difference in our relationship.
If you want your gf to stay with you...you have to stop giving her a laundry list of reasons why you love her otherwise...it's not really her you love but the reasons you gave.
See. If I told my gf that "I love you because you make me feel good." The tenth time she made me not feel good or after the feelings fade...I'm off and looking for someone to make me feel that way again.
Brother, love takes commitment. It also takes sacrifice. It also takes affection. When's the last time you took her...her alone on a date? Bought her a sentimental card? A rose?
If you'd like to talk further...you can check my info. and email me. I'll tell you more if you like, but for now I'll just give you that.
Good luck, and for God's sake just enjoy being with the woman you love...and show her in all ways. Don't just say it...show it.
2006-08-16 14:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kizeman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is always stay true.
Never lie to her. Never intentionally hide something from her. If there is something on your mind let her know about it. Try to always talk things out if you ever fight. Don't argue or yell at her. Pay attention to her every chance you got. Ask her about her day. Tell her what you love about her. If you say your gonna call you better call. In that case if you say youre going to do anything for her you better follow through with it. Always keep your promises. Don't do anything she isnt comfortable doing. Never force her to do anything. Do your best to keep her relaxed. Everything else should just come naturally after that. Just remember stay true.
2006-08-16 14:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most important listen to her, most guys tune their significant other out, when they think they have her. Take her on at least one date a week. Have fun go dancing, to dinner, love her, hug her, please her and she will be there for you. Don't be a wimp and let her walk all over you either, most women know they need their men to keep them in line at times. They won't tell you that but we all need it.
2006-08-16 14:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by June V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her a little space kiddd :-)
If its as real as it feels things work themselfs out, and you already know what do to. You know what she likes.
2006-08-16 14:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by Katy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHOW SOME EMPATHY.
EMPATHY DEMONSTRATES SINCERITY. TRY TO UNDERSTAND HOW SHE FEELS BY ASKING HER AND LISTENING TO HER ANSWER. EVEN IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT OR AGREE, RESPECT HOW SHE FEELS AND ACCEPT IT. SHOW HER HOW YOU FEEL BY TELLING HER LESS ABOUT IT AND SHOWING IT MORE THROUGH YOUR ACTIONS. MAKE HER FEEL LIKE #1, OR LIKE SHE WON A CAR. BE THOUGHTFUL, CONSIDERATE, TRUSTWORTHY, EMPATHETIC, GENEROUS, RESPECTFUL, A CONSIDERATE LOVER TAKES CARE OF HIS WOMAN'S NEEDS FIRST, AND CARES ABOUT HOW SHE FEELS. BE OPEN AND HONEST, AND TRUST HER AND ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE VULNERABLE WITH HER ABOUT YOUR DEEP DARK SECRET FEARS, DOUBTS, AND DESIRES....THAT IS TRUE INTIMACY.
2006-08-16 14:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, if you guys actually love each other you should have no problem keeping each other...
2006-08-16 14:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
women have this warped fairy tale view of relationships, so try to be like some kind of prince charming...sounds stupid, but try it then we'll talk about what's stupid
2006-08-16 14:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not just what you should do but figure out what you are doing wrong and change that.
2006-08-16 14:32:37 · answer #8 · answered by alter_egob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋