This girl means the world to me, so please take the time to read, and give me an honest, good answer. Thanks.?

Question

Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.




I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??

Answer 1

okay.. im soon to be fifteen and my boyfriend ( soon to be x if he keeps playin) is about to be 17.. i understand the age gap, as well as the situation. Our biggest problem was that we let EVERYONE in out buisness.. i believed rumors and i cared what other people thought. The key to any relationship is communication.. you cant believe the bullshit that other people tell you, because people will lie to get you guys apart. If you really really like her, i say go for it, but dont rush things, tell her exactly how you feel, no bullshit be very honest and hopefully she will be the same. Dont tell your friends about ANYTHING, people run there mouths..ask her to do the same.. but be completely honest and tell her how you feel.


i hope it all works out
-Taylor

Answer 2

This might be a hard thing for you to do but I can assure you that it will work. I know from my years of experience. The first thing you need to do is "Buck Up Pal" You are fifteen and I assure you that you will fall head over heels for many more women. I know she probably has some really hot friends so all you need to do is make a point to act like you don't give two shits about her cheating on you. Start flirting and joking with her best friend when she is not around. When she comes running back to you make her feel like you don't love her most of the time.
Don't ask why this works, but it has worked flawlessly for me for ten years now.

Answer 3

You're fifteen years old young man! You should be out experimenting, having fun and playing around with women's feelings! A lot of people are going to disagree with me. Most of those people are going to be young females who have been hurt by guys in the past. But this is a passage that every man needs to take. Girls are a dime a dozen and there's no reason you should be make any long term commitments at this young age. Take advantage of your youth! Explore the possibilities for a few more years before you start taking relationships so seriously! And don't forget the lessons you learn in whatever relationship you have.
As for that girl, kick her butt to the curb. Not only is she not that into you, but she seems like a total slut anyways!

Answer 4

Okay buddy, here's the thing. Young girls...and she is very young...are indecisive. Her Mom is probably right on this time. She probably likes you a lot but doesn't want things to go too fast or risk losing your friendship. If I were you, I would give her a little bit of space but be an excellent friend to her. You can tell her that you are getting the feeling that she has feelings for you but doesn't want to act on it for one reason or another. Tell her that is okay, and you understand (even if you don't). Tell her that you want to be friends with her, and that the door is always open if she changes her mind. That's pretty much all you can do, and it will at least allow her to tell you honestly how she feels. It will be hard but if she wants to move on you have to accept that, okay? Good luck.

Answer 5

Hon, the TEENS are hard times.
She is 13 and LOVE will change from time to time...
maybe one week LOVE will be one thing and the next week something else...
Yes you think THIS is IT...
you are 15...
Be open to changes for YOU TOO...
at your age and hers there will be many physical and mental and spiritual changes...
these are the GROWING PAIN years...
what you LOVE now might not be and probably will not be the same when you are 20...
And I mean girls, books, movies, foods, etc...
Just have fun in LIFE do not get hooked up with just ONE LOVE...
be opened to changes, that is the best way to make it through these hard times.
Realize that her changes are going to happen and yours too, it is not about you being a good kisser or her NOT liking you ...
it is about CHANGE...
People have learned that they cannot change the tide but they can learn to surf!
:)

It happens to US all dear, I wish ONE person had spoke up and told me this when I was 15!
I had a LOVE of my life and at 16 he found another girl and I met another guy, we changed...
At first I thought I would DIE!
But I did not...
It took me a while to learn that you do not DIE, you feel like it but do not.

Answer 6

I'm thinking she had a good talking to about how young she is, about pregancy, etc. Her mom is probably just being nice, I would never let a daughter of mine do what she has done, never at 13. I think also being so young she does not know what is involved in relattionships, and the feelings that go with them. At that age girls age just finding out that they can use their bodys to their advantage. She sounds like she wants to do some growing and exploring. I would not wait around for her. If she liked you, you would have her by your side, or at least a reason why she can't be there.

Answer 7

You see, girls are more emotional than guys. If we like or love someone, we mean it..we are serious about it. Even the fact that she is scared of choosing, it will be very hard for her to suppress her feelings (if she does like you). But as you mentioned, she started getting close to other guys which is not a normal thing for girls who already like or love someone. The things is, she may not be prepared for a serious realtionship with you. Maybe for her, what you had before is just a short term thing.And i guess..things like this really happens in your age. Just move on..you are still young.You will sure get to meet new girls.Have fun..study hard. Yes, it will be difficult in your stage but just remember it is not the end of the world. If she will soon realize that she needs you..she will be the one coming up to you BUT if she does not then its her lost...right? Pray hard. Hope this helps. God bless!

Answer 8

She's very young and she will change a lot over the next few years. Just because you were fond of each other a while back, doesn't mean those feelings will continue. She's still discovering who she is and having lots of different boyfriends is part of that process. It will be painful, but for her sake you should let her go. If she wants to be with you, she will come back but nothing under heaven and earth can tie her to you if she isn't there of her own free will.

Answer 9

i feel the same way about the girl im with. u should try calling her and if she doesnt pick up just leave her a message saying u just wanna talk. or try writing a love letter and give it to her personally. u can probably write her a song like she did for u. but if u have the chance to talk to her again u should try asking her out one more time. just grab her hands and look her straight in the eye and just go for it. u never kno she might just say yes. i hope that helped u out. good luck

Answer 10

truth is life even if truth hurts!!! if she is a genuine n honest girl and she likes you too then U sld show her more love I am sure she will come back
but remember life is harsh always prepare urself for this reason that U cannot force anybody to love u back it comes in naturally...
so all you can do is keep a perfect communication with her make hopen her mind ....give her the love time n space to really depend on you to tell you her heart I am sure U will win her heart!!!