Do you really thing a 12 week old baby should be placed in daycare?

Question

Why should a baby be in daycare up to 12 hours a day unless your are single? Isn't this awful? Why are more parents doing this? Do we just have a baby... give birth.. and then hand that baby over to daycare? What?

Answer 1

I agree. There needs to be more moms and dads who think that kids are more than just "the next thing to obtain" Too many people think that having things or a big house are more important than giving children time and love. Why do these people talk about "wanting to be a parent" then give the job to someone else-usually they take less time finding a day care than they do to find a car! I wish that there was no such thing as day care. If you need time to be away from the child get a babysitter for an hour or two, you don't need a job to get space. So sad!

Answer 2

That is absolutely wrong... a 12 week old baby wont be properly taken care of in a day care and that should be the absolute last resort... I work in a daycare, I see how things are run, and I work in the best daycare in town, people drive 45mins each way to take their child to where I work because the kids end up behaving better than they did before and they are properly taken care of, they each get a lot of attention and TLC... But having said that a daycare is no place for a 12 week old baby, there is absolutely no way a care taker can give the child enough attention and make sure the other kids dont harm the baby... If you need to work I'd recommend getting a good nanny who can give the child 100% of his/her attention

Answer 3

When I worked at a daycare the kids couldn't stay longer then 10 hours...I was amazed at the kids that are there that long but sometimes there are no other options I guess. I would never put my kids in dayare 10-12 hours a day 5 days a week- maybe if it was one or two days and I had to work. You never know the whole story so but still just doesn't seem right....

Answer 4

Not at all. At 12 weeks a baby should be with it's mother. This is why children and teens feel unloved, it starts with this. If a person wants a baby they should make sure that it becomes the number on priority. A mother should be with the baby at this time and for more because these are the times where a baby laughs, learns how to roll, crawl, etc.
What kind of parent sends their baby to someone else? The workers at daycare get to watch the babies transition of learning new things and the parents dont.

Answer 5

NO. I am a mother of three. My first child went to school at 6 weeks. My second at 8 weeks and my third at 11 months. If you research your child care provider and really search for a daycare that you feel good leaving your child with, it is just fine. Yes it would be great if I were a millionaire and could stay at home with my children but then my children would suffer in a way. At a daycare center the child learns social skills, and reaches milestones faster..i.e. walking, talking, potty training, self-feeding (google child development).I Do not feel guilty about working and having to have child care, because ultimatly I am working to give my children a better life. As long as I make the time I have with my children when they are home, quality time,I feel perfectly justified in my decision.

Answer 6

i used to work in a daycare and i used to work in the infant room.... the babys need love and care. I think if you find a daycare that you know the babys will get that then ok.. just know that if your baby gets attached to the daycare worker than that NOT the daycare workes fault... Im 8 weeks... and actually my mother-in-law is a daycare owner. So my husband and i both have to work but i work days and he works nights. So the baby will only be in daycare for a few hours while he catchin up on some sleep.... But the great thing is that while our baby is in daycare he/she will be with their grandmother... bottom line.. if your putting your kid in daycare... make sure its a good one! and high prices dont always ensure quality care...

Answer 7

I totally agree! What I don't get are the parents who try so hard to have a kid, sometimes years, and then give it to somone else to have for 9-12 hours a day from the age of *6 weeks*!! And they have the gall to call themselves full time parents, as if they are the ones taking care of the infant during the day...
I think they do this because it's become 'normal', and there aren't enough of us saying HELLO?!?!
I know the arguments "I was raised in a day care and I turned out just fine", or the ever popular "We can't afford for one of us to stay home".
Have you thought about trading in your newer car for one that isn't sucking up so much money every month? Or moving into a more modest home? Or buying your clothes somewhere else? Or skipping the hair and nail treatments? Is your baby worth it? Is YOUR baby worth it?

Answer 8

Yes. It's sad.

I think it should be rare that a baby should or would be raised by a single parent. Some people that planning to be a single parent is an option or a choice in today's modern world. I'd call this the Murphy Brown syndrome. (ie Dan Quale has been right all along)

Or some "modernist" think that in this day and age, professionals raise kids, and that they know how to do it, -better than parents.

Or some parents just don't want to cope with the anxiety of being a parent everyday.

Answer 9

Well let me say this ..I am a single mom (by choice)of 4 children and i didn't send my 3 oldest to daycare until they were bout 6monthseach.well then i had to put my youngest in at 8wks that was ohh so very hard but i had 3 other responsibltes that were depending on there mommy to take care of them ..now that i look back they r all very SMART children and believe it or not they learn that young ... so to all u people who r so against it walk a day in my shoes as a single mom then make that BIG decision that i had tooo...thats what i thought u can't do it....

Answer 10

My daughter has been in daycare since she was 4 weeks old, she is now 10 months old. We were fortunate to find an older lady who does daycare out of her home. She is awsome, and my husband and I both need to work to keep the house going. I do not feel my daughter is being denied anything. I stayed home with my other two children who are now 22 yrs and 10 yrs old. (yes I have children every 10-11yrs) and do not see any difference in the development of them compared to the one I have in daycare now. I guess if I was in the position to stay home with this one I would but, because the cost of living is going up and our pay isn't we need to work.