My son is 12 bordering 13 we moved house just over 2 mths ago but he doesn't sleep well at different hrs during the night he stands in our bedroom doorway because he hears wind rain etc I often find him on the loungeroom floor or on the sofa my husband gets up at 5.00am for work and he walks in to get into my bed his room isn't much further than at the last house just a differnt design the last one was more noise as it was at the front now hes at the back so why wouldn't he feel more secure the dog is closer to him y would he wake to sounds of rain and wind and come in at 5.00am I told him hes not a baby and hes ok we painted and made his room to his likeing I don't want him to get used to this should I make him stay in bed is he going to grow out of this he is nearly 13 afterall he is an only child and I play with him when I can he has friends over but he hates being in his room by himself as he did at the last house but at least he slept
2006-08-16 13:43:09 · 8 answers · asked by Nicky 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That's a tough time for a kid. BUT he should NOT be sleeping with you in your bed at all, no how, no way. I would get an appointment with a therapist. Not sleeping through the night and going to different rooms and not liking to be in his room alone is troubling.
2006-08-16 13:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a lot going on for him. He is a boy but worrying about being a man. The world, the media his friends are pushing him to be an adult and he may not feel ready. If you moved to another school district, he has had to make new friends. Two months may seem like a long time to you but it may not feel that long to him. He sounds like he may be a more sensitive person, he may have whined a bit more as a young child, his feelings may be easily hurt, along with that he may have a deeper and richer understanding of people, their feelings and motives for acting. If he is such a person, don't push him away as much as celebrate independence. You can try the tricks you would use with a small child, just in a grown-up way. You say he is bordering 13, what a perfect time for a rite-of-passage/manhood celebration. Make a very clear statement that you think he is moving into manhood, and you respect that. (A word of caution, don't comment when he needs to still be a child, just act like it is normal, but make a big deal out of mature and adult behavior.) A great gift would be a statue or figure with some significance like a luck-dragon, or a strong male figure that symbolizes (at least to you guys) virility (NOT FERTILITY, at least not yet). This figure could be a sentry the way a teddy or blankie would be to a toddler.
You may try breaking one of the taboos of parenthood and let him have a DVD player and/or video game system in his room. That may encourage him to be there more.
Buy a couple of cool lamps for his room just in case he is afraid of the dark but feels embarassed to admit it (discuss what the lamps should look like, don't discuss the fear of the dark thing).
If you are not opposed, have the room exorcised or someting similar to give him an endpoint and a new beginning.
I do agree that a visit with his doc might do him some good. It may be easier for him to talk to an impartial third party like a doctor or therapist than for him to talk to someone he has to face every day.
The most important thing is to show him as much respect as you can. He is entering his teen years and you will lose him fast if he thinks you don't respect him.
I hope at least one of these helps.
Best of luck.
2006-08-16 21:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Huggles-the-wise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My five yr old went through a similar time I let her sleep in my bed one night and I slept in hers. I know it sounds silly but yes her room was being visited by a friendly ghost at night. It was an past relative and once we got the meanings of her visits and that she didn't mean any harm she started sleeping better. So I advise you to sleep in his room you just never know what's going on.
2006-08-17 02:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No idea. Have you asked your son what's going on?
12 going on 13 can be a rather turbulent time for a boy. If he doesn't settle down soon, you may want to have a counsellor talk with him at the very least.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 20:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of sounds like there's something in his room that's freaking him out. Maybe one night have him stay at a friends house and sleep in his room. Maybe you will feel what he is??? I'm not really sure, that's kinda weird but that's all I could think of. Sorry I couldn't help more.
2006-08-16 20:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out simple. Worm him for pin worms. It is an over the counter medication, perfectly harmless. It could be that simple. Then go to doc, etc. Start with a simple solution, you would be surprised what that stupid little common gut parasite can do to a child.
2006-08-16 20:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Valerie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son needs you to talk to him. He is afraid of something or has some disorder that needs treatment. The first thing you need to do is become his friend and gain his trust. He needs to open up to you so you can find out whats on his mind. He is getting into puberty and has lots of hormones raging in his body. It could be something as simple as needing to talk. Good Luck
2006-08-16 23:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he'll grow out of it...I can't sleep at night either.
2006-08-16 20:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Leia Skywalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋