that I want to be the only guy in her life? ;)
2006-08-16 13:36:43 · 30 answers · asked by Reverand Ray 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i guess it all depends...are you going out with her??? even then ya it is a little selfish i have so many guy friends and my bf is okay with that hes even Friends with some of them... he trusts me and i know he has other girls that are friends and it doesn't bother me cause once again i trust him.... i mean at first if you are going out i can see why it might bother you but you have to trust her...i can understand wanting to be the only guy in her life but its not logical....if you aren't going out then yes its very selfish....i hoped this helped....
P.S this is not drama queen this is her older smarter sister... jk jk
2006-08-16 13:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Just another pretty face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you mean in a romantic way. But yes, definitely yes if you expect her not to have any male friends. That would prove that you are insecure and that you have things you need to work out within. If you keep going at this rate you'll push her away. When a woman is not trusted by her man, (and that's what you're actions and words are telling her) then she loses interest. If you want to keep her let go a little and enjoy your time together. If she ends up with another guy then there is nothing you could've done about it anyway. Learn your lesson and move on. She is in your life for a purpose right now. It may be because you need to change certain thoughts and behaviors that you have or other reasons. Bottom line is there is a reason and you need to focus on you because you can never change a person. It's impossible!!! Only they can change themselves and they won't if it is pushed on them. Good luck to you and may God bless you!
2006-08-16 20:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya I think it's selfish. A good relationship means being independent and choosing to come together to share life. It doesn't mean controlling the other person. On the contrary, I want my girl friend to have lots of relationships, because I want her to have a diverse and fulfilling experience of life. I don't want her to feel caged. If you don't trust someone, then its either your problem with insecurity, or valid and a reason to end a relationship. It's no excuse for trying to control somebody.
But you've given so few details. We don't know if you mean sexually or romantically. Or if she even likes you much at all. Maybe she has rejected you but feels she can't make a total break so has told you she wants to 'see other people'. It's an incomplete question. Rhetorical? Leaves us with a lot to assume/guess.
P.S. a lot of guys could use reading and re-reading sophialinae's answer. People are not possessions and shouldn't be made to feel like they are.
2006-08-16 20:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u may want to think that u wanna be the only love of her life. thats not selfish, but the only guy in her life? nah u r restricting her too much she will leave u sooner or later if u keep this up
2006-08-16 20:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by rulewell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not really. As long as she feels the same way, and you're the only guy in her life.
2006-08-16 20:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a boyfriend and having guys a friends yes that is.
2006-08-16 20:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not if she is the only girl in your life
2006-08-16 20:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by sydney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup
2006-08-16 20:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by whatnoname? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm yes and no, i mean u must really love her to say that, but u no give her some space, which means she can still talk and flirt with other guys !!
2006-08-16 20:42:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as dating goes NO! If she has friends whom of which are male and as long as their just friends, let it go!
2006-08-16 20:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by KIMBO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋