my son is 6yrs old and don't listen to me, only his mother.what im doing wrong i do things with him.?

Answer 1

I've learned, though I dont have kids of my own yet, that when it comes to discipline and teaching respect, both parents have to be on the same page. Otherwise the kids get mixed messages and get away with literal murder.

Answer 2

Mothers have a way of knowing how to ask. Father's speak differently and discipline less often (they're the fun guy most of the time). Try watching how his mom asks him/ It could be that he's either not taking you seriously because you're being too nice, or the exact opposite - that you are being too stern and not winning him over. Kids, even at 6, like things explained as to "why" they are being asked. It can be very frustrating, but its their way of learning.

Good luck. I'm sure with a balance of consistency, love and patience, you'll do fine.

Answer 3

He's testing, that's all. I am guessing your wife is generally the disciplinarian at your house. Does this situation sometimes happen? You tell him no and he ignores you, so she jumps in and tells him no and he listens? She needs to step back and let YOU handle the situation all the way through. Even if she's supporting your 'no'...she is taking your power away by stepping in. YOU have to be the one to make him stop doing something wrong, or to go to bed, or whatever he's fighting you on. The minute she steps in and takes over, you've lost all the power you had.

Answer 4

There could be all kinds of reason... He spends most of his time with his mother? So, he's more used to her and doesn't feel he owes you any respect? Or, maybe you yell at him instead of "talking"? Kids definately don't respond well to alot yelling. Try spending more time with your son (take him to the park, out for ice cream, a scenic car ride etc.) and let him get to know you. I'm sure within time he'll come around. Good Luck

Answer 5

Nothing WRONG but different.
As a mother, I know that the kids listen to me in a different way than my hubby (their daddy)

Not that is bad but you have to be on the same page. If SHE does the "Im going to count to three" thing, you need to do it too.
The same consiquences need to be in place also.

It will take a few weeks of being a tough nuts then he will think "ah sh*t, dad's tougher now. I cant get away with it anymoer" and it will all fall into place!

Good luck! :)

Answer 6

If he doesn't listen to you that means he doesn't feel he has to listen to you. If you tell him to eat his dinner and he doesn't what is your response to that, do you just ingnore the fact that he didn't eat his dinner. Also is his mother letting him leave the table without listening to you. You have to give him consequences for not listening to you just like you have consequences if you don't listen to your boss, if he doesn't eat his dinner then send him to timeout for a couple of hours. If he still doesn't eat it put him in bed for the night. If your wife tries to interfere then you have to work that out with her. Don't be a tryrant you have to be a nice guy sometimes and do things with him and let him know you love him but you have to balance that with discipline and consequences..

Answer 7

First things first, don't take it personally. Unless you are a jerk to a superhuman level (ie abusive, psychopathic etc) he is not even aware that you feel this way nor is he trying to communicate anything ON PURPOSE. Children's behavior does communicate though. Children listen because they are made to, they want to, they believe they need to, and they don't know how not to. It is good that your son can choose not to listen because he is able to comprehend the world in a broader sense and is aware of his own being, other than that it really sucks that he won't listen.
I completely disagree with most of what I have read in response to your question. You can make him listen but do you want to. Ultimately, your son must become a man, an independent, mature adult man with whom you will want a relationship. Forcing him to listen will damage your relationship and you will all suffer as he passes through adolescence. I suggest that you try to focus on making him feel that you respect him, love him and are truly interested in him. When he tells you about his day, turn toward him and focus on his face. Comment on what he was thinking and feeling, that shows you are connecting with him not just nodding.(PS. works great on wives too). If you need him to do something or stop doing something, get close enough that you are not yelling across a room. Make sure you have his attention. Tell him in a positive way, what you want from him: say "Johnny, please drive your truck on this side of the couch, that way you can play by me and I can still see the news." try not to say "Move" or "Play somewhere else"; although you don't mean it personally, he may take it that way and think you don't want him near you. Before you speak try to think, "how would I want my boss, friend AND father to say it to me?" Giving him the reason for the request says to him that you think he is smart and capable of having that knowledge.
Do keep the "why" short though, taking 20 minutes to ask something will not work.
Your wife may be undermining your authority and not even mean to. She probably spends a great deal more time with your son than you do and knows things and has tricks that she has developed. You do not need and cannot learn her way, you need your own. If she repeats what you have said and your son listens, that tells him that he doesn't HAVE to respond to you but if she says, "Johnny, listen to your father." she sends the message that she is behind you and wants him to listen. It is really subtle and a lot of parents miss it. My husband and I did for a long time with our oldest. It wasn't until we were watching a video of a holiday party that I saw what I was doing to undermine my husband and I didn't mean to, I was trying to help.
You said you do things together, but do you participate in caring for your son's needs, do you make dinner, help with homework, give him a bath, etc. These things actually build authority with a child. "Quality time" that is mostly play builds a loving relationship but is does not assert your ability to care for and be relied upon by your son. Sounds weird but it is becoming more and more evident in child psychology research that children see these things as trust builders.
There are a lot of resources on the web, I would start with the nanny shows from TV, from what I understand (I haven't seen them so I don't know from experience) they have a lot of experience and are really tuned into to long-term behavioral solutions. They may have other links too. There are a lot of family and parenting links and they may have suggestions from experts and parents that you can try. Talk to your son's doctor if you are really concerned, doctors see a lot of kids and frequently know more about behavior from experience than what we would expect from med-school.
In the end, this may just be a phase where he feels especially close to Mom. Try to stay centered, focused and remember that you do love and respect him.
Good luck.

Answer 8

Have a serious discussion with his mother. Tell her that she needs to let son know that he needs to listen to you. Make sure whatever you're saying to son is what he can understand. Follow through with whatever it is and don't make any idle threats or promises that you can't make good on.'

Answer 9

Based on the wording of your question, which I do not understand,
It is no wonder he doesn't listen to you..
He doesn't understand what you are saying...

Answer 10

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