We work in different departments that do not coincide, but we work in the same area so I see him all the time. When he walks by to leave he has to pass by me and I sometimes catch him looking, (b/c i'm ALWAYS looking at him, lol) & on occassion we've held the stare for a few seconds. Does this mean there is an interest or am I just reading too much into it b/c I have such an interest in him? We live in the same city and commute to and from work via the same mode of transportation and there are times when he will be be seated right next to me and I catch him looking at me but he won't approach me. I don't know if it's that he's not interested, or that I'm not giving off the right signals. I'm really afraid to approach him b/c I have never approached a guy in my life and wouldn't even know where to begin. So based on what I have written, do you think there is a genuine interest from him and if i were to approach him how would I go about it? If he rejects me, how to I recover from that?
2006-08-16 13:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by ihaveahugecrush 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say "always looking at him" I'm exaggerating, so please don't think I'm a stalker or something crazy like that :)
2006-08-16 13:29:20 · update #1
Honey , if he rejects you, there are plenty of fishes in the sea dying ti go out with you.Trust me..People fail to realize it...but , I wouldn't take a chance.I think you should make sure he' s interested..There is nothing more embarassing than thinking a guy has interest in you and latyer finding out he nevre did..Why dont you introduce yourself.One day , if you are sitting on the train near him ..say you look familiar; dont we work in the same facility? Im so and so..nice to meet you..Thast how conversation starts..Then he will introduce himself...nice to meet you blah blah blah.lol...EWdn it there unless he continues talking.Dont continue unless he does , because it'll seem as if you are desperate..The next day , say hello and LOOK YOUR BEST ....If he's interested , he'll ask you to go to lunch or something..or ask for your # ..I don't think he would be as shy as before, because you approached him first...Good luck..adn if it doesn't work out..move on..He's not worth iT!!!!
wooohhh excuse my spelling..WOW!!!!! Too lazy to correct..but you get my point!
2006-08-16 13:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Joanne a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the information you've given, I feel as though you're his backup now that him and Cassi aren't talking anymore. That's just one possibility. It also might have been because of summer break. People tend to not stay in touch as well over the summer, because you don't really see each other on a daily basis, vacation, parental control etc...Now that he's back at school, it's much easier for him to be able to start to talk to you again and let things go back to normal. If you really like this guy, just give him a chance. I don't think his motives are bad or anything. If you're curious as to why he didn't talk to you for the past 2 months of summer break, be open and honest with him. Ask him why and it will make you feel better and possibly make him realize you actually care about him
2016-03-27 05:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's too shy as well.
First, about the rejection issue. We all reject people for all sorts of fickle reasons. Remind yourself of all the silly little reasons why you wouldn't date somebody and then you'll see, it's meaningless. It doesn't reflect on your value or desirability at all when you're rejected.
Okay. Try to relax and talk with him a little. You don't have to go and ask him out right away. If you don't know eachother's names it would be a good idea to give your first name and hopefully he'll give his. It can be awkward to do the name thing later in a convo, so if you need his name, I'd lead out with a smile and 'Hi, I'm so-and-so etc'. I try to find something common to talk about. Such as something odd/funny in your environment. Humour is a pretty good ice-breaker. And if you're nervous you can always be honest about it. A little self-deprecating humour can be endearing.
Relationships take time and have a sort of rythm. Be careful not to smother him right away. For me as a man, I have this problem where I'm so used to having to chase a woman, that if she shows too much interest too soon, I drop the ball. But who knows? 'shrugs' He isn't me, is he?! :P
Good luck! :D
2006-08-16 13:39:26 · answer #3 · answered by moment_in_passing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold down.
Don't approach him he may be in a relationship and he just don't want to F/ up. If he has not make the fist move is for a reason, wait and then move on you could get in trouble in the future since working and dating in the same company is always a recipe to ruined one of the other.
2006-08-16 13:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say being friends with the guy you like is a good place to start. You may never exactly know how he feels for you, but you will know if you really like this guy. For all you know, you might just find him mysterious. =) Make friends with him by starting a casual and very light conversations. You could also ask a common friend to plan a "coffee break time" with this guy.
2006-08-16 13:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by jen_good girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU..need to do something about that NOW!!. If you like him talk to him..don't think too much about a rejection...Just talk to him, you two already have things in common..so it should not be too hard. What if he is your soul mate..and here you are wasting time! Maybe he is too shy..do it as soon as possible.. Make the first move if anything ..you can be friends...who doesn't need a friend.. come on.. what can you loose...? And what WILL you gain?? GO FOR IT!! DON'T THINK TOO MUCH .. YOU ARE WASTING TIME! If you don't do it.. you will always ask yourself.. WHAT IF I HAD TALKED TO HIM???????
2006-08-16 13:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by ..Luna.. *.. ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not going to know unless you approach him. Don't wait for him. Just go up to him and start some small talk and see where it leads. You could also practice at home in front of a mirrow.
If you really like this guy do something before its to late.
2006-08-16 13:35:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see women i would like to meet, but i'm like you and alot of other people rejection is hard. Life is short and a rejection does not mean you cannot become good friends. I'm not sure what b/c means, but it won't hurt to just say Hi! Try it you'll like it.
2006-08-16 13:43:46 · answer #8 · answered by black jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could be over reading the situation but unless you ask you will never know but if you ask then you might just have to live with the fact that you work with someone that rejected you. I think that is not as bad as it could be. That might be better than never knowing if he would love you too.
2006-08-16 13:34:21 · answer #9 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take what you wrote here and print it out. Then write "I'm the girl who wrote this, and you're the guy I have a crush on." Sign your name and add your phone.
Put it in an envelope, write his name on the outside (you don't want some other guy finding it and thinking it is about him), and put the envelope in your pocket.
Next time he walks by, say "I think this is yours" and hand him the envelope.
Good luck!
2006-08-16 13:37:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋