i was going gym for a couple of weeks where i met a girl in the pool, we exchanged phone numbers we started to phone and text each other this was weeks ago, she stopped texting me weeks ago for some unknown reason......then theres i girl i got to no in canada for a year..thought we were buildin up feeling for one another, then just recentley weve stop talking to each other. and shes not emailin or gettin intouch , this is seriously depressin me, im 29, i do battle mental health but i just wanna feel loved. i feel like gettin back intouch with them both and demandin they like and love me.
2006-08-16 13:13:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i will be soo happy when love finds me, but i dont just want anyone, i want a nice package to
2006-08-16 13:48:50 · update #1
Well, you know you can't demand someone love you, but it wouldn't be unreasonable to try to contact either of the girls. Saying something like, "Hey, I've missed talking to you. What have you been doing?" would be normal. However, it is possible each of them met someone or thought you weren't really interested or whatever. After you've made contact again, you'll know whether or not to persue anything further. If you don't get a response -- or the response you want -- you just have to move on.
2006-08-16 13:21:36 · answer #1 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... Dating is a fickle process. One minute someon likes you, next minute they're on to the next love of the moment. It may not necessarily be any reflection on you or your worth.
Your reaction, however, is.
You obviously feel that this is YOUR fault, which rightaway indicates that your self esteem is not what it could be.
Regroup. Take a breath. Evaluate your situation. Are you handling your mental health situation under the appropriate guidance? If so, then examine why you automatically assume that you are at fault of a girl stops calling.
If not, then do so. Don't waste another minute living under the shadow of a mental issue that could take away a moment of your happiness. These days there are so many ways to treat mentall illness that virtually anyone can find relief.
In either case, also stop to ask yourself if maybe you expected more than the girls did. Did you let them know where you stood? You said you talked to the one gal for over a year. Did you even let her know how you felt? Your real "issue" could be your lack of assertiveness more than anything.
No matter what the case, just relax. Believe me, someone WILL come along. For now, concentrate on the people that do love you. And learn to love yourself.
Good luck.
2006-08-16 13:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by deutschegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a chance there are so many young ladies out there that need a guy like you. So what if you're not rich big deal, I bet if a girl got to know you better she wouldn't think twice about a guy with money. Ask for a number every once in awhile. Maybe ask to go grab some coffee or lunch to get to know each other better. Remember you don't have to date a girl right away you could always ease into a relationship.
2016-03-27 05:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demanding that they like/love you will only push them further away. If you truly want them to be friends, maybe more, contact them and ask what's up and tell them you were just wondering why you hadn't heard from them in a while. . . if they say they've been busy.... maybe they have, give them a chance, but maybe they want you to either make an effort, or if you've been contacting them everyday, they may need a break for a few days.
2006-08-16 13:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by naenae4570 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Demanding that they love you is absolutely the worst thing you can do. At best, they will feel like you are a clingy boy.
Sure, try to contact them and ask them if anything is wrong. But don't put your life on hold while waiting for them to respond: They know how to reach you.
2006-08-16 13:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The beauty about love is that you don't need to force or demand. It will come when it is ready.
In the meantime enjoy your life - there is someone out there for you. And you will find your love when you least expect it.
Stay Strong - Peace and Love
2006-08-16 13:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're trying too hard, you just give the wrong impression.
you can not demand anything, who do you think you are?
Women are people not things to toy with. If you're not sensitive to the needs of whom ever you try to have a relationship with. All you'll get is rejection, especially if you force your concerns on to others.
Do you know what tact is? Look it up and try to practice it more often, use tact and patience more often, you will see it works better - now behave yourself!!
2006-08-16 13:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by somber_pieces 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try getting in touch with the girl from the gym again. try calling her instead of text.
as for the girl in canada, its long distance? you know that long distance relationships are just difficult.
its damn easy to lose touch just like that.
you must understand that there are people who still love you.
real love comes as it is. just be patient.
2006-08-16 13:22:31 · answer #8 · answered by eva738292 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...did you ever tell them they have to love you and stuff? Try moving on and next time go with what happens. You can't force someone to love you, that's not how it should be. Get help if you feel you need it.
2006-08-16 13:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe they got boyfriends. You gotta move on. It seems like you hesitate to make a move (not physically). Maybe they weren't sure of your intentions. I suggest being a tiny bit more aggresive. Or just more straight forward.
2006-08-16 13:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by minami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋