Is it his place or authority to be telling me what to do? I'm a 22-yr. old college graduate, & I get yelled @ like a child. He's FOSTER brother IN-LAW. I'm living back with my old foster family since I lost my old home during Hurricane Katrina, & I have no place else to go. Him & his wife, who are my foster mom's biological daughter have their own house to go to, & they keep staying here for some strange reason, while nothing is wrong with their house after the hurricane.
This is my foster mom's house, & not his. Why does my foster mom demand that I obey my foster sister & her husband? & then, when my foster mom fusses @ me, they butt in; so it's like I'm getting fussed @ by 3 people.
What should I do about this? I'm stuck in a situation where I have no place else to live. I have no money, & I've been looking for jobs, but no one wants to hire me. 2 weeks ago he threatened 2 beat my a** so badly that I won't be able 2 sit down. I'm not a bad person, & I don't do wrong.
2006-08-16 12:52:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't do anyone any harm. I may just ask a question that I don't understand & get yelled @. I'm stuck in a situation I can't get out of. FEMA is suppsed to be paying me rental assistance, but it's not coming fast enough.
I can't force anyone to hire me on a job. I've been filling out applications & turning in resumes, & everyone keeps telling me that they don't have any openings. I've been trying SO hard!
Another thing, they yell @ me more than they do their kids, & my foster sister always serves me LAST during meals, like I'ms so not important. & my foster brother-in-law, which is her husband, told me last month that I'm not important in this family because I'm not blood-related.
Please tell me how I can cope with this situation that I'm stuck in that I can't get out of. Thanks. Please NO rude responses, or else I will have you reported for abuse!
2006-08-16 12:56:49 · update #1
I'd be on the phone pestering the he-l-l out of every govt agency I could get a # for! Tell them you are being abused & MUST get your rent assistance immediately. Don't you have any friends or biological family to turn to? If all else fails, call the cops the next time the a$$ threatens to hit you, then PRESS CHARGES! Don't let them get away with it anymore! You are an adult, stand up for yourself. Living in a shelter is better than what you're in!
2006-08-16 13:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where as nobody should be yelling at anyone.
This is what the situation sounds like to me.
This is your "foster" mothers house, and this is her biological child and her husband.
In their eyes you "are" the outsider, the one who does not belong.
That may not be a very nice way for them to behave or to think but I assure you that they do.
And why is your foster sister serving you anyway? Are you not capable of serving yourself?
You sound as if you are very immature for your age and also that you wear your feelings on your shirt sleeve.
They also figure that they are doing YOU a favor by letting you stay there rent free. AND THEY ARE
As long as you live in this woman's house......you are going to have to deal with it. She makes the rules, she decides what does and does not happen in her house.
You do not say where your parents or your family is in this equation. Do you have any family at all that you can turn to? Any friends? Even if they don't live in your area.
If not then you are going to have to grow a back bone and start letting things go in one ear and out the other in order to just survive the situation until you can find something better.
2006-08-16 22:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting enough rude answers at home, so you certainly don't need any more from this site!
You already know the answer to your question. You are an adult, and NO ONE has the right to yell at you and boss you around. Is there any way of contacting FEMA and finding out what's happening to the money that is supposed to be coming to you? Truly, as long as your foster brother-in-law and his wife are in the house, nothing is going to change. Your solution is to get out, but you need funding for that. If you tell FEMA this is an emergency situation, it might help. As a last resort, go to the welfare office and tell them you have no place to go, and ask for assistance in finding a place to live, and for help in finding a job.
Good luck to you. You've been through enough and certainly don't need this kind of hassle.
2006-08-16 20:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, calm down. You graduated college, and you can do this. Also, stop acting like a victim. I'm sure you did nothing wrong, but don't act like a victim. Act like you are one party that is unhappy in the situation. And now it has to be fixed.
Next, talk to your family. Ask them to be honest. Don't raise your voice, and don't accuse them. Be sincere, and ask for an honest answer.
Then, continue the job search. FEMA is great, but it shouldn't be your only means of support. Get a job at McDonalds or Walmart--look in the newspaper daily. It sounds like you're trying hard, but don't be picky. You have a college degree and that's great. But right now you need a job. That's it. If it means flipping burgers at one job and cleaning rooms for a hotel at the next, then so be it. You'll get out of the situation.
At 22, no one should threaten you. If he really said that, then report him.
At this point you need to look at your survival. You need to get out, and you need to prepare for anything. Find a roommate and rent an apartment together. Do whatever it takes.
If you have to work 3 jobs to get out and get a place of your own, then work 3 jobs! Sure it will suck, but you know what? You'll be on your own.
If you need to do it to survive, you will.
2006-08-16 20:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you point out to him that he's not blood-related, either? It seems to me like there's no way to get them to respect you, but I do know that they should not be treating you like that. You're doing the best you can to fend for yourself, and they're living with her mom.
Just keep looking for a job - one will come around soon.
2006-08-16 20:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by xyirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No because no one has the right to shout at you for no logical reason (except when there's fire).
He might be bossing you around because he feels like you're not family. He may be insecure or is intimidated by your presence. It's like he doesn't want you to have anything because those things should have been his.
2006-08-16 20:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by jedi_rei 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO BECAUSE HE ISN'T YOUR PARENT!!!
2006-08-16 19:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by pqr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋