my fiance and i are having a disagreement on our ceremony....his family only speaks spanish and i speak very little spanish.....he wants his family to feel comfortable at the ceremony,and since i do speak some spanish he wants the minister to hold everything in spanish, but i want the ceremony in english because we are exchanging vows with eachother no one else!
2006-08-16 12:32:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could have it in both languages. Have the pastor speak in English and have someone translate for them into Spanish. Remind your fiance that this is your wedding and you should feel comfortable, while you will agree that his family should feel comfortable, it is for you and him and as such you should be allowed to married in the language of your choice.
2006-08-16 13:51:12 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Out of fairness to both of you and both of your families, I don't think you can have the ceremony in just one language. I'd suggest a bilingual wedding with a wedding program. Have the opening and closing blessings in both English and Spanish. The rest of the service would be in one language or the other with a translation in the program. (The entire service "outline" in the program should be in both languages.)
For example, if you have two readings, do the first in English and put just the Spanish translation of the text in the program. Reverse it for the second reading. When you exchange your vows, the two of you should decide which language to use. One thought - would you prefer to say your vows in English or hear the said in English? You know what's being said here - this is a point where each of you could work in your native language.
2006-08-16 14:53:24 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about listening to each other first.
His family only speaks spanish.
Your family only speaks English.
How holding 1/2 of the ceremony in English, and 1/2 of the ceremony in English.
Recite the vows in English, create your own in Spanish.
Make it unique, but don't say NO because you can't speak it.
Yes, the vows are just for you two. Yes, true. But his family AND your family are both there for support and celebration. Why wouldn't you want one side or the other to hear and understand it?
You're marrying a guy who has a Spanish-speaking family. You're going to have to learn to speak Spanish. Why not start now?
2006-08-16 12:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try doing half and half. It also depends on your family as well. It is not fair at all to your family if they only speak english - ESPECIALLY if they are paying for the wedding. Choose a main language for the ceremony and have a translator handy. I went to a wedding that was primarily in English, but there was a Vietnamese translator there who translated the major readings, opening and closing, and even the main blessing. It turned out to be very beautiful and it didn't make anyone feel uncomfortable or like they didn't belong.
Marriage is going to be a compromise! Try and think of a way to make both of you happy and content.
2006-08-16 12:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by rrhiannon99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with the officiant who will do the wedding - most churches provide some sort of bilingual booklets for the wedding ceremony, and then you can have certain parts done in each language. I had no english at my ceremony, even though I am not fluent in the other language - and neither were some guests, but the booklets helped them follow along.
2006-08-17 03:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is going to have to be a compromise. You can't alienate his family, but you need to hear & understand what the minister is saying and the vows you are repeating.
You could have two officiants or even a translator, but that's going to cost. Maybe you can find a bilingual minister that could do the ceremony in both languages.
But really, this is going to have to be worked out between you & your fiance
2006-08-16 12:52:32 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have somebody to translate ceremony in English for you [real time], or in Spanish for your fiance's family!
2006-08-16 12:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by unforgettablemauiweddings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your special day, your fiance should want to please you not his family. Have it done in English and then let the minister repeat some of the vows in Spanish.
2006-08-16 19:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is supposed to make you feel comfortable, not the guests. If you can't get into the wedding because you can't understand what is said, that's unfair to you. That's a memory that you will have forever, but they'll probably forget it the following week. You deserve to understand what is being said (without a translator).
2006-08-16 13:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by sillylittlemen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be your first serious compromise as a couple. He wants Spanish, you want English. Sounds like a little of both is called for.
2006-08-16 12:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋