is my boyfriend cheating at work ?

Question

ok so there is 3 people in this story.me
,my boyfriend and his coworker named costa.
k so i called my boyfriend and where talking .he works at this telemarketing place with like 100 girls and like 100 guys .so anyways where talking and out of nowhere he goes yo costa i'll call you back and then he hangs up on me .i call him back and he tells me that he called me costa because his boss was right in front of him .i think thats bullcrap and i think that he called me a guys name because some girl came up to him .does anyone agree?and just before he hung up on me i think i heard a girl in the backround .the problem is that i anyways hear girls in the backround because theres so many people that work there .does anyone think his cheating .and please dont give me some crapy answer like if i dont trust him i should just leave him because i dont trust anyone no matter what .also we been together 3 years

Answer 1

I have worked in telemarketing before, and there are always voices flying everywhere. I think you should have more to go on before you really accuse him of cheating. I used to call home and had to pretend I was on a business call too.

Answer 2

Well if you don't trust anyone you may want to be single luv. People do a lot of flirting at work sometimes harmless and sometimes not so harmless. Is he comming home to you every night though? Do you have any physical proof he's cheating? Or could the fact be that you have some insecurities stemmed from you not trusting anyone that is hindering your relationship and allowing your mind to come up with possibilites that may very well be unjust? Have you ever thought that maybe he was telling you the truth? Maybe he wasn't lying to you? Have you given him any credit at all? Or have you just thought about th things that made you so untrusting and decided and made up in your mind already that the man that has spent the past three years with you, for obviously the fact that he loves you, is just a down right liar?

Answer 3

No, I don't think hes cheating. But i also don't know your boyfriend. Every man is different but I have been with my boyfriend for two years and I kind have been through the same thing. I only trust him when i want to, and he has to get short on the phone and hang up quickly when his boss is around and at first it made me so mad and so jealous until i realized that he has a responsibility at work and has to be proffessional. If you don't trust your boyfriend, talk to him. Don't yell at him and accuse him of things because that will just make it worse. Don't ruin a 3 year relationship (assuming everything else is good) just because you are a little suspicious, everyone is and in any relationship you will worry and have doubts. Just have faith in your man and believe in the love you have. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Maybe....or not

How can we tell if you can't? Try sitting down with him and talking, just remember not to accuse him of anything! You have been together for 3yrs so this should be a simple task. We all know how stressful work can be and I imagine being a telemarketer has got to be bad! Is there any reason other than this that you feel he may be cheating?
Our biggest fear in life is fear itself hun, don't run scared until you have something to be afraid of....good luck to you, hope you can always look for the good in every situation.

Answer 5

Based on what you describe, he could be telling the truth about the "Costa" comment. If his boss knew he was on the phone with his "girl," and not working, he'd be in trouble. The main thing to focus on is this: Do you trust him? If you have reason to doubt, you have reason to suspect. Give him an opportunity to explain. If anything sounds fishy, call him on it. Don't let himoff the hook until you are satisfied.

Answer 6

whilst he abruptly has issues to try this he not at all had to do until eventually now...whilst he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his techniques-set in direction of you is changing, if he tells you he "only needs some ME time" in case you reside at the same time a number of those are signs and indications too... a million. decrease desire to be with you sexually. 2. abruptly tries new sexual positions. 3. working overdue greater often. 4. Mysterious telephone calls. 5. gets offended once you look on the cellular telephone, pager, or pc. Is secretive of such. 6. scent of physique spray on their clothing. 7. Takes a bathtub as quickly as he comes living house. 8. you come across hairs or different products on his physique or in his possessions. 9. starts off taking greater care along with his visual charm. 10. Accuses you of cheating. 11. he differences his popular ordinary without reason or reason.

Answer 7

His story sounds completely genuine. Telemarketers' offices are VERY crowded, and the supervisors there tend to be VERY strict.

I think the bigger issue is why you don't trust anyone. What's up with that, and what kind of a life does it give you?

Answer 8

You might be right but it's tough to know for sure.

Personally I think you might be reading into things too much, but if there are other reasons for making you believe that he is cheating on you then maybe you should look for a new boyfriend.

Answer 9

My life experience has shown me that if you suspect he is cheating, he probably is, or at least has.

Tell him that you believe that your relationship is a committed, honest relationship and remind him that you love him and see what plays out.

Answer 10

I agree with Angelisa T. You've been with him long enough for you being able to tell when he is not telling the truth.