I was kicked out of a wedding because the shoe store didn't carry my size in the shoe the bride wanted us all to wear. returning the dress is not an option as the store doesn't take anything back. I can't wear the dress to anything else? i am not that close with the bride but i have been friends with the groom for over 8 years. and actually the rest of the bridesmaids are also friends of the groom. the bride doesn't have any friends. she has also kicked out her maid-of-honor. who should pay for the dress?
2006-08-16 12:14:15 · 33 answers · asked by lsrocket0206 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
In theory, she should. But in practice, you will probably have to. If it is any consolation, she sounds awful. You are probably better off without being in that wedding. Hope the guy knows what he is getting into.
2006-08-16 12:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Squashie16 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride should definitely pay for the dress and you should make this known. HOWEVER, be advised that if you cause a "riff" with the bride then the groom (your friend for over 8 yrs) may not be too pleased. And unfortunately, when the bride doesn't like one of the groom's female friends she oftentimes calls the shots. She might "forbid" him from seeing you if you tick her off enough.
I would recommend bringing it up in front of the bride AND groom - mentioning that you have paid for a dress that you can't wear and you were kicked out of the wedding because of shoes. Make sure the groom hears how you approach the subject so that the bride can't exaggerate the situation when she tells him about it.
I would be THRILLED to be thrown out of that wedding! What a jerk she is! I'm getting married and I would never care about stupid shoes. That's just ridiculous.
2006-08-16 13:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're right - that is the stupidest reason I've ever heard of, especially considering that in most weddings now a days, matching dresses and accessories don't happen. I'm assuming that the bride requested that everyone in the bridal party pay for their dresses and shoes and then she'll pay for hair and makeup given the way you've described your question. I also figure she is aware that you had already bought the dress when she asked you to no longer be in the bridal party.
If she's not willing to listen to you when you ask that she reimburse you for what you have already paid, then talk to the groom. I'm figuring the Maid of Honour has probably done something similar.
2006-08-16 13:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is extremely rude of the bride, I agree.
She should just pick a shoe color that matches the dresses, and have everyone go out and find their own shoes to wear. It doesn't look bad, and nobody will even care, that the bridesmaids are wearing different styles of shoes from one another.
If you are friends with the groom anyway, maybe you can find your own shoes and be a Groomswoman instead of a Bridesmaid, and stand on HIS side! But wear your bridesmaid dress.
Lots of people have co-ed groups of wedding attendants, these days. We are!
Another option is to drop both of these friends like hot potatoes, and sell the dress on ebay to recoup your money. They sound like a nightmare, honestly, beause this bride's behavior is really trifling.
Tell this whole story on your ebay page, about how the bride was such a 'zilla and everything that happened.
2006-08-16 12:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a legal stand point, the bride has to pay. You had every intention of standing up in that wedding, she made the choice to remove you after the dress had been purchased. I still can't believe it was over shoes...no wonder she has not friends, they probably aren't the right size. Time to teach the bride a little rough justice. Get together with the maid of honor and file suit, you'll win. If you are really ticked off about this, file for punative damages too...she intentionally kicked you out, it wasn't an accident or an over sight on her part that you weren't allowed to attend....it was her deliberate choice. The judge would actually get a kick out of this one!
2006-08-16 12:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with not having all the girls wear the same shoes? I told my bridesmaids I didn't care what they wore as long as they were comfortable. I wore flip flops (A. I'm just that laid back B. No one is looking at my feet anyway C. I'm already and inch taller than my husband so I didn't need to dwarf him anymore). I was in a wedding where the bride didn't care as long as they were black. I hate it when people obligate you into buying yet another pair of shoes you may never wear again (as if the dress didn't cost enough?)
2006-08-16 16:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The custom in united states of america of america is the bridesmaids pay for his or her very own attire. interior the united kingdom, the custom is that the bride will pay for the bridesmaid attire. the two way, the attire should not be exorbitantly high priced. A bride or a bridesmaid shouldn't wreck the economic business enterprise to purchase those robes. it rather is an honor to stand up to your terrific chum no count who will pay for the gown. additionally, the chum could respectively decline the grant to be a bridesmaid if she would be able to no longer make investments the two the money and time that the function demands.
2016-09-29 08:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG, i cant believe she would kick you out of the wedding party because of something so petty as a pair of shoes. Even though that paticular store didnt have them, it would be so easy to find them at a different store, find them online, or see if the store can order another pair. Im not suprised AT ALL that she has no friends. Its pretty pathetic. Talk to the groom, and tell him whats going on. If he's a true friend, he would pay you back himself on behalf of the stupidity of his future bride.
Im getting married saturday, and i let my brides maids help pick out they're dresses, and when it came to shoes, i let them pick them out. They had to be dyed the color of their dresses, but I wanted them to be comfortable during the wedding... not just look how i want them to look.
I hope all of this blows over, and you get your money back.
Best wishes and good luck
2006-08-16 15:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definitely pay for the dress! Or let you wear whatever shoes you can find to blend with the other girls! (no wander she doesn't have any friends! ) This girl is being snotty, and petty! I'd call her on it and demand for her to either compromise or refund the money for the dress. Just an after thought, I think its crazy that any bride picks out the freakin' shoes It should be decided among the bridal party. After all, they have to pay for it! Come on, most weddings only last 10 minutes, its the reception thats long!
2006-08-16 12:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by truthbetold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The couple should pay for the dress but that doesn't seem like it will happen. Cut your losses and get your own back by selling it on eBay. Weddings are a nightmare, there is always war.
Let the bride have what she want, let the baby have its bottle. She will feel really bad when the whole episode is over.
2006-08-16 12:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by TellMeWhy? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds awful! You will probably have to pay for it from the sounds of things, but the bride should be ashamed of herself. I would probably talk to the groom about this and be sure he knows what is going on. He has a right to know what a jerk his future wife is being! She should have offered you the option of finding a similar shoe and dyeing it to match the others.
2006-08-16 15:33:28 · answer #11 · answered by Jenny Alice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋