I am totally for this girl, but need some advice, I would really appreciat some honest, real answers, thanks.?

Question

Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.




I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??


I mean it was obvious she had feelings for me. And it's impossible just to stop liking somone. I mean I didnt do anything to turn her away. So what should I think??

But, when she sees me talkin with other girls, it seems she takes more notice, or when I talk about them. Or occasionally she'll sneak a glance at me. Like some people told me. They caught her looking at me, but whenever she saw them, she stopped.

Answer 1

To begin with: you sound like you truly like her and it also sounds like something happened. I would suspect that the girl is listening to her friends---and at age 13 we all were very influenced by our friends, even you, at age 15 get influenced by your friends. So there is the possibility that she got influenced by her other friends for whatever reason. No one can tell you if you will be able to get her back---but you can try it. Just realize that in real life you do have to deal with rejection, however, it is better to get rejected and know that it's time to move on, than to sit there with eternal hope that something will materialize even though it never will(does that make sense to you?).
Call her house and see if you can arrange with her mom a time that's convenient for them-for you to come over and talk to the girl. Explain her how you feel, how you miss her, and ask her if she would be your girl---because that's what you need to do. Don't listen to the rumors because the one thing I can tell you is that with rumors it is such, that they make a big elephant out of a little fly. Since it seems that her mother is fond of you, try to get mom's understanding. I am an adult and could preach you to focus on school, but we all were teens once, so I know how that is. However, be careful not to get into too much too early, she is only 13. If you care for her as much as you say, then you will be able to wait until she is 16!!! Until then you both would know each other well enough to go to the next level....and good luck...

Answer 2

You may as well try to talk to and hang with her a lot if at all possible. Constant companionship may lead to a romantic escapade. But always remember that at your age, many more wonderful things may happen so don't get stressed when you find out later that she just likes you as a friend. Besides, I think your parents and hers won't allow you two to have a seriours romantic relationship right now.

Anyways, just show her you care about her when you two are alone with each other. But don't tell her yet that you love her. The only time you will tell her that is when you are quite sure that she also cares for you. With that right timing, you may get a positive response.

However, if things don't work that way, if at the end you find her with someone else, just shrug your shoulder and tell yourself that she is not the one meant for you. Right then and there, just believe firmly in your heart and mind that at the right time, Destiny will do his share in bringing you to the place where the right girl is waiting for you.

Answer 3

Oh, poor sweetie.

I used to be like this girl. I liked this guy so much, I would do nearly anything with him. I wanted to be near him, not even necessarilly as a girlfriend. But I had a crush on him. I told him, and he was honest, which I appreciate.

Then, when other guys showed interest in me, he became incredibly jealous (I wasn't trying to make him jealous).

I think what you really need to do is instead of talking to her mom and friends, talk to her. Do some stuff that you used to do together. Then talk to her about whether she likes you or not. If she does, well, you can decide what to do. If she doesn't, just accept that you two are just friends.

I really hope something works out. I hope it was like my situation, where I (in this case, she) does wants you but is afraid to admit it.

If she doesn't, and you need someone to talk to or question, email me.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 4

i think a girl that age cant really determine their feelings about a guy mybe you should wait till she get a little older if you still feel the same go for it or if you cant live without her presence write her a letter be very straight with her tell her your feelings and what you want ask her to tell you what she wants and if she doesnt want you then you will move on dont let her feel as if you will be hanging around waiting on her if she choose to see these other guys cause it sounds like she only gets interested when she feels some other girl is in the picture and that isnt fair to you.

Answer 5

That kind of thing happened to me but instead me and the guy actually ended up together. I think that you should just confront her and ask her what she feels for you and tell her how you feel. And if it's true what her friends said then get over her cause there are plenty of girls out there that need a guy like you.

Answer 6

You are both so young...give it time. I'd start with trying to rebuild a friendship with no strings...if it's meant to be for the two of you to be together then it will work out, if not then someone else will come into your life, and she'll be a great friend to celebrate the joys with you. There's also the saying that the best relationships begin with friendship.

Answer 7

She might just be intimidated by the people around her saying stuff about the two of you. Do like her mom said and give her a little space to figure it all out. 13 and 15 are still pretty young.

Answer 8

Damn that's a long question lol jk hmmm it sounds like she's scared about what people will say....cuz as soon as people notice that she's doing something that might mean she likes you she immediately stops.....I think you should hang out with her a lot until she gets really comfortable with you don't bring up any boyfriend/girlfriend things wait a while and then ask her.

Answer 9

You need to ignore her.

This will get her back. sounds crazy but it is true a girl likes a challange and right now you are too easy. you need to show her that "maybe" you would date her.

Ok, so if you see her don't aknowledge her, if she says hi to you say hi, but make all conversations short and sweet. the less attention you give her the more she will come to you. Now don't be an a*ss just ignore her enough. that should get the ball rolling real good.

Good Luck

Answer 10

Boy, why don't u be honest and approach her..ask her what's up? Find out what's really going on from the main source--HER! and then decide if it's time to go about your own business. She seems confused or is playing games and if ur not down for that then move on!