will/can my dad die?

Question

please no stupid or annoying answers cause this is serious to me.

well my dad he's 46 is throwing up every other day, is losing weight and keeps spitting up blood, spit, etc. he has a high blood pressure but he just doesn't want to go to the doctor. he also is really mean to me this year than all of the 13 years i've known him for. i don't know why he's so stubborn. the people at the doctor want to put him on dyalisis and then do a kidney transplant. if my dad doesn't go to the doctor, how much time does he have left to live. will he die? will he get a heart attack or anything wrong with him?

please let me know and anything he can do cause i'm really scared and i want my dad back.

Answer 1

You're dad really needs to see a doctor. WIthout treatment, and his symptoms seem serious, he could do himself real harm. If the doctor says he needs a kidney transplant, he is in serious trouble.

Answer 2

Does your dad go to work every day.. ? He thinks he can handle it i guess is why he is so stubborn.
He has been to the doctor then and they want to put him on dyalisis, he is probably going into kidney failure which will sooner or later cause the rest of his organs to fail and you know what that means. as for him being mean this year.. well that is only because he isn't feeling good and is afraid of what the doctors are wanting to do to him.. You need to assure him that you will stay by his side through all of this until he is feeling better again and he will if he gets the treatment that the doctors are telling him that he needs. as for the spitting up blood that could be a number of things. he needs to be totally checked out by his doctor and started on some treatments for what is wrong with him.. To get the answers you need to have . you need to call his doctor and ask the nurse to tell you the answers to your questions.. no one can tell you how long for sure if this continues that your dad will live .. If he goes into one of his spell of spitting up blood . call 911 and have the ambulance come and pick him up that will get him to the hospital where he can be completely checked out.. And beware because this will piss your dad off. so consider it before you do it.. sounds to me like that is the only way you will get him there though.. good luck

Answer 3

Oh honey, I am so sorry your dad is feeling so bad and having such a hard time. He really needs to go to the doctor and get some help. Maybe you and your mom could keep encouraging him to go and remind him that the doctor might be able to make things better for him. Also, it's not a bad thing for you to tell him that you're worried that he might die and that you want him to be around for a long time to come. That might be what makes him decide to go to the doctor. No one can say when or if he will die from any of this, because only God knows that answer. Just pray for your dad and try to help him and be patient with him as much as you can. I know you are only 13 and this is not an easy time for you. My daddy used to be mean to me when he was really sick and now I realize he probably didn't mean to be. He was probably feeling so bad that he ended up being grumpy with the people who loved him the most. It really hurt my feelings and I used to cry myself to sleep some nights. It sounds like you really love your dad alot and I hope you tell him that very often. I will keep you all in my prayers.

Answer 4

Speederman, your Dad is seriously ill. One of the very insidious things about some types of illness is that the brain gets cloudy and the person doesn't think rationally. That might have a lot to do with why your Dad is refusing treatment. Also why he is being mean to you. He's probably scared, as well as being sick. The other is a mental condition called denial. If you just ignore it, it will go away. We both know that this isn't true.
You don't say where your mother is in all this, but she needs to talk with the doctor and see about getting guardianship, so she can authorize the treatment he needs but isn't willing to have.
You've got a tough time ahead, no matter what happens. But a lot of people are sending you their best wishes, and positive thoughts. Be tolerant with your Dad, because right now, he's likely not in his right mind.
Bless you.

Answer 5

I have gone through two kidney transplants and years of dialysis. I have talked to a few doctors during this time and understand a little about what happens after a person's kidneys fail. I know that without working kidneys and without dialysis a person will die in a very short time. Maybe weeks at the longest. Your dad may get so sick that he will not be able to stop people from taking him to the hospital and then he will get the dialysis he needs. Who can you talk to who could take him to the hospital for dialysis?

Answer 6

Honey your dad is scared. More afraid than you are. Hes being mean because its a side effect of high blood pressure. When he gets sick enough he may, MAY go to the doctor.......but it is his choice. Just remember how you feel now and when you have children take very good care of yourself so you don't make the mistake he is making. Kidney dialysis and transplant is not without its complications. Your father may know that there isn't much that can be done for his health problems, he wouldnt' share that with you babe.......doesn't your mom talk to you about this stuff? Pray sweety, we'll pray for you too.

Answer 7

I'm sorry, that sounds tough. It sounds like he will have a much brighter and longer future if he goes to the doctor and gets treatment A.S.A.P. Tell your Dad that you understand he is scared and lashing out at you, but you are worried about him and you don't want to see anything bad happen to him. Once he understands that you are concerned about losing him, he should do the right thing and get to the doctor. I'm not sure if he has given up, but giving up is not an option when you are a parent. Maybe you could offer to go with him if he is really scared and if you are willing to do that. I am sure it is fear that is keeping him from seeking the help he needs, but he needs to take care of himself so he can take care of you. Best of luck to both of you, know that your father loves you, and his anger and fear are because of his health and he does not mean to be mean to you. He is taking out his feelings on you, we tend to do that to the people we love the most. Take care, I hope things get better soon :-)

Answer 8

The spiiting up blood and throwing up blood would be my main concern. He could be internally bleeding. You had said something about a kidney transplant......if he doesn't go to dialysis, his kidneys will shut down. I cannot tell you a time limit, but the doctors should do bllod work, and they can tell him how much of his kidneys are shut down.

I know it's hard, but you have to talk to him. He needs to go to the ER, he may be dehydrating from all the vomiting. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Honey, does your Dad know how you feel?

It sounds like he may have given up, and it could be that all he needs is to hear you say what you are saying right here... but say it to HIM.

None of us can tell you what will happen; even if we were doctors and nurses, that would be hard, figuring that out over the internet.

You need to talk this over with your Dad, and then accept whatever happens as well as you can. Find somebody else to help you, too... your Mom, a Grandparent, your teacher, minister, or somebody whom you can trust.

Don't try to deal with this all alone.

I will pray for you and your Dad.

Answer 10

hey hon, not sure if this helps. But, about a year ago my dad was having really bad chest pains, but was too stubborn to go to the doctor about it. A couple of months later, they were really bad, but he would get mad at us when we would mention that he should see a doctor about it. So, finally, one afternoon, his buddy called the ambulance without my dad knowing, and they came and picked him up. My dad was really mad at him for a while, but in the long run, his buddy saved his life because my dad was really close to having a massive heart attack. Long story short, my dad is thankful now