I met a girl over the internet. I am sure she is who she says she is; we met over a highly-secure debate forum, we have sent numerous pictures back and forth, and we've talked intimately for over a month; there is no way some stalker has created a persona without making any mistakes. We are both sure we know who each other are.
However, my mother, who is convinced that every single person on the internet is a rapist and/or murderer, freaked out when she found out. (I won't be 18 for a few more months). I have to convince my mother that the girl I'm talking to online is who she says she is. I'm arranging for my mother to talk to her over the Instant Messenger, I showed her the credentials of the forum where we met...
Anything else I can do? This girl is really important to me, and it would help greatly if my mother supported me rather than live in the world of fear breeded by Dateline and 20/20.
No stupid answers, please. I'm not in the mood.
2006-08-16 12:08:22 · 9 answers · asked by kea33w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just becarefull sweetie no not all is bad i have myself infact met a couple very nice wonderful people ONE whom has helped me get a great job. just meet in public and if i were u take ya mom with you and tell the girl to bring her mom that way everyone is happy
2006-08-16 12:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by txdiamonds4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice if you respected your mom's feelings too though. After all, she is your mother and only wants you to be happy and above all- safe.
My opinion might be bias because I have actually met several people online who talked like they were a nice and good person and they ended up being twice the age and really messed up. I know this is not something you want to hear nor do you think it will apply to you, but I've met a few people who make up a new personality for themselves and are lying completely. If you've only talked online, how do you know for sure? Have you met her? talked to her on the phone? I've had relationships before where the guy wouldn't ever let me talk to him on the phone and guess what...he was crazy.
If she is as important to you as you say she is...then why haven't you met, why haven't you been closer physically...there are reasons for that.
2006-08-16 19:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Someone help me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand how your mother feels.. my parents would react the same way. actually, i have never met anyone through the net in real life, but the oportunity has presented itself and im also not sure what to do. im thinking that if the meeting were to take place in a very busy, well lighted place that u are very familiar with, then you should feel safe enough to meet this girl. be careful tho, cuz hoestly, u never know. maybe take a friend just in case.. good luck!!! :)
2006-08-16 19:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Leeeiiilaaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
arrange to meet in a very public place and promise ur mother u'll check in periodically so she won't worry. either that, or take ur mother on your first date so she can set her mind at ease. i'm not saying have her there the entire date, just maybe a couple of hours while u eat lunch or something like that. after u're done, then take ur mother home and proceed w/ the rest of the date. like i said, call her a couple of times just to let her know u're ok and then when the date's over so she'll know u're on ur way home. trust me, ur girl will understand; if she doesn't , then maybe she's not the one for u.
2006-08-16 19:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur right that not everyone is a a rapist ... but it is very possible that they arent who they say they are... the people that go on and do this .. know how to do it.. and do it well and have been doing it for awhile. .. so if u wanna meet her ... meet her in a VERY public place... so if it turns out not to be the person then u can run away!
2006-08-16 19:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy LoVe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would arrange a meeting with your mother if you are still under the age of eighteen, and she freaking. You do want to meet her I am assuming.
2006-08-16 19:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by mama2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have her phone number? Maybe your mom would feel better if she talked to her on the phone...hope everything works out.
2006-08-16 19:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by MGM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree w/ the last girl, you need her phone #....its better to hear the voice of who u are talking to ....it is reallly ez for a guys to pretend he is a girl on the internet....so...get the #....good luck!!!
2006-08-16 19:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for girls thy rather be careful like i m..this is no stupid =.=
2006-08-16 19:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by angelpinkgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋