How do I handle this case of child abuse?

Question

My sister has two daughters. (14 & 17) The 14 year old is totally out of control. She has been hospitalized twice for self-mutilation and overdosage. She also beat her older sister to death (she is much larger than her older sister) leaving large gashes in her neck and arms. (There is photographic proof of this also) The younger one curses her mother on a regular basis and treats her with absolutely no respect. I strongly believe the girl needs to be sent off.

Answer 1

I acted similar to that after a rape when i was 14- I ended up in a group home- which was the best thing my parents did for me. I learned to deal with the traumatic event that happened to me. of course, at the time I thought my parents hated me- in the long run-they really did,
She needs help, in-patient- and her sister will need help too. If the mother refuses to get help- call child protective services and report that she is abusing her mother and sister. If she begins to beat her further- call the police and tell them she is a child in need of care.

If your niece will talk to you- take her out and ask her if something happened to her.

Answer 2

Was the older girl taken to the hospital for her injurys or did they hide it and lie about it.. This 14 year old needs some serious help before she hurts herself or someone else.. she needs some intensive care.
If you have seen this . and have pictures and proof of it . why are you on here and not reporting it to social services or something like that so that she can get the help she needs and she will be put away for a while until they find out what her problem is and she can be turned into a normal child again.. no one should be that angry all the time.. and to not respect her mother.. And the mother isn't doing anything to protect her own kids.. get the girl some help soon.. or it may be to late to do anything..

Answer 3

You need to call Child Protective Services immediately. They will be listed in your phone book. You can fully trust them and they will never say who called them. I have dealt with the CPS not only with my job but on a personal basis where I have turned in people for child abuse or the siblings doing alot of the stuff you just mentioned. Your niece needs severe counseling and CPS does provide counseling at no cost. But you are right, your niece needs to be put somewhere for a little while so she can be straightened out with medications and therapy. Do this as soon as possible before it is too late and someone gets hurt even worse-like death. Your sister and other niece will also need alot of counseling to learn how to deal with what she has done and to understand her condition better. To me, your niece sounds like she might be bi-polar. There are medications out there to help this and to help her to live a more normal life. Good luck to you and I will be thinking about you ALOT!!!! With love

Answer 4

Your sister is neglecting the needs of her children. I am an attorney/Guardian ad Litem in children's advocacy for the State I live in. It may not be her fault that her daughters have behavioral problems, but she is the one responsible for getting treatment for them.

Moreover, in most States in this country, there are mandatory reporting laws. That means if you know of a case of abuse or neglect and you don't report it, you are guilty of a crime. Call the child abuse hotline for your state and report this immediately. You may save your niece's life, and you will certainly help your sister's family. Good luck. It sounds like a difficult situation for all involved, but there is help available. Someone just has to ask for it.

Answer 5

I don't get your point of child abuse. If you literally mean that the younger sister killed her older sister and there is proof, then the police need to be involved. Your sister should do something too, what is holding her back and how can you support your sister?

Answer 6

If there is documented proof, why didn't CPS step in? That child needs serious psychological help. Does mom not see a problem? If she doesn't, then she will do the child no good. It may get sticky if you step in. And if you do step in, be prepared for legal action. You don't mention a father? If there is/was one, is he abusive? There are alot of variables to this situation and one thing is certain, GET THE CHILD HELP NOW!!!

Answer 7

I STRONGLY agree with you and it needs to be done soon before she kills your sister. Tell your sister she is not a failure it's just that this child has some problem that could be better handled in a controlled environment, for her own good and everyone elses.

Answer 8

Either send her to some sort of boarding school for troubled kids with the help of your sister, or call Child and Family Services to get her the help she needs.

Answer 9

she should be committed immediately, she sounds completely unbalanced. she needs to be on meds asap. as for the rest of the family, they need therapy or counseling to know how to best help this child out and also to understand why she does what she does. i think u're speaking figuratively about having beat her sister to death, right? next time she gets violent, call the cops and they'll take her to the psych ward. if were u, i wouldn't wait cause this time she might kill somebody for real.

Answer 10

She needs reporting to a welfare agency with or without your sisters approval to determine whether she should be placed into a psychiatric hospital or be placed on an order to see a psychiatrist for medication purposes as well as consultation.