This girl means the world to me, so please take the time to read, and give me an honest, good answer. Thanks.?

Question

Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.




I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??

I mean it was obvious she had feelings for me. And it's impossible just to stop liking somone. I mean I didnt do anything to turn her away. So what should I think??

Answer 1

I would say she can't make up her mind. If I were you, I would make a move.. and then let her decide what she wants to do from there. After your move, it's really up to her. I would try something creative like playing that song she sent you for her.. hell, if you can't play any instrument.. learn! Just to show her what a fool you are for her. Girls find that sort of thing sweet. But if you do lose interest in her at one point, she will probably come back for more. Girls like when guys persue them.. trust me. I liked someone, got him to like me back.. and then stopped liking him. Maybe she wants what she can't have. Or she's not looking for a relationship. Either way, good luck and I hope it works out. But always remember: you are 15 and you could always approach her at a later date.

Answer 2

I think you should give it a try with her first.. It seems like she's a bit confused if she likes you or not.. or she's trying to get you jealous.. or she just doesnt want to hurt your feelings.. its kinda obvious.. but if you ever date her.. think about.. if you both are ever together.. do you think by the way she acts that your relationship will last? she makes you want her and wen she goes to costa rica she makes you sad by going all over two other guys.. a girl like that do you think is worth your time? if you're giving time into someone that completey denies you and not let you hang on then why are you putting all ur time in for her? you still have a long life trust me.. you'll find a more compatible relationship then being with her.. now if you want to get her back.. you should start out talking to each other more often.. then once you feel its the right time.. tell her " ive been having feelings for you.. its hard to explain this feeling.. but i think you'll understand b/c i've been liking you for a long time.." and then see wat she says after that.. if she's saying something in a form of a "no" then just back off.. she's never gonna be worth your time.. and if she says something in a form of "yes" then you know you're on the right track.. you know she likes you too.. but if she still gives an "i dont know" answer.. just forget about her.. cuz if she doesnt know.. she's prolly not positive if she wants to start a relationship with you.. so just be friends with her.. and move on if that happens.. b/c if you sink even more.. you'll prolly not be able to get out for a long time.. and you'll be feeling down.. and maybe get depressed.. and thats not a fun feeling.. you'll find the "PERFECT" one if that happens.. later in your life you'll realize.. why it never worked out with this 13 yr old grl if you ever find that different grl.. trust me.. ive experienced it all.. I wish you all the lucks!! ^.^

Answer 3

This is what you do : Ignore her. I know you don't want to, but it will work, believe me!
Act like you don't care if she likes you or not. When you see her, be friendly but just smile & say Hi and then turn away. Don't look at her all puppy-eyed and drooling.
She needs to think you're losing interest in her. When she starts to think that, she'll realize if she really likes you or not.
If she starts to try and talk to you more keep ignoring her for a few more days. This is going to be hard, but it'll be worth it. After a few days call her and ask her out. She should be ready to say yes.
If after all that she still doesn't say yes, then move on for real.
Good luck, buddy. I'm rooting for you! : )

Answer 4

Wow. I kno many people are gonna write.. You are to young for love. But I am 13 and i fell inlove once. You need to prove ur better then those guys!! PROVE UR LOVE! And i am not even sure they even exist... U sure she is not trying to mess with u??? And the reason she turned u down the first time is probably cause she thinks you took to long... And that u dont really LOVE her... So prove it, I am her age and i have done something VERY similar.. And the guys did figure it out and we stayed togeather for a real long time! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

I think you are so sweet. I am about your age, and the same thing happened to me with a guy I like. He means a lot to me too. I think you should just sit her down and let out all your feelings. Then do whatever you can to win her back. Trust me, I know EXACTLY how you feel. The guy I like backed away, and I don't know if he likes me. I hope I helped you. Good luck, and win her heart. <3

Answer 6

I think the fact that she is only 13 answers a lot of your questions. She is very young, and has every right to be scared and not ready for any sort of relationship. Give her time and space to figure out how she feels on her own.

Answer 7

Well, I am really sorry to hear about your situation. If you are really serious and really like her, I would like try to get an opportunity and talk to her, just by herself and ask her how she feels and tell her your feelings. And just try to work things out, and may be, you guys can just be good friends. And just tell her how you honestly feel. Dont force anything on her, be patient! I wish you the best!!!!!!!

Answer 8

You can't just sit and wait for her to come to you, you have to ask her to do something with you. If you get that far, then give her flowers and tell her how you feel. . . tell her how it makes you feel to hear about the possibility of her not liking you anymore, tell her how her and you not being together for so long has made you feel, tell her she is amazing, and so on. Talk to her and win her back like a man buddy. you can do it ;-)

Answer 9

Sorry to say but I think you need to move on. She is a 13 year old girl. They like you one week , hate you, then like you again. It all just depends on who is in their direct line of vision. It sound like you have talked to everyone but her. If she didn't miss you while she was gone she is not emotionally attached to you. Maybe she will come back around later but she sounds like she wants to flirt with everyone who is cute and is not ready for a b/f & g/f thing.

Answer 10

Wow that's a long story.....just back off and ignore her. Right now she's reveling in the fact that dudes are after her....once she knows you're not interested she'll try to win you back. if that doesn't work...forget about it...this girl seems like a whoe in the making...