I'm feeling suicidal?

Question

It feels like the end of the world at the moment. I am mainly hurting over a girl. But so many other things too. I just can' handle it. I am seeing a psychiatrist too and nothing is taking the pain away. I don't know what to do

Answer 1

hey email me n we can talk.

Answer 2

Ed, first off thanks for being so open and honest about your mental state on a public internet site. That takes an enormous amount of guts and is a really good sign that you're reaching out to people, even complete strangers, and still wanting to make connections with the world.

At the time of posting this answer, 36 other people had already responded, and every one of them was acknowledging you, validating your emmotions and trying to reach back at you so think about that for a while.

So, what do I want to say to you? Well, I guess the simple truth is that feeling suicidal is a valid emmotion sometimes. I know that's likely to upset a few people, but I've always just looked upon it as another emmotion - an extreme one, at one end of the scale, but just another emmotion. Sometimes, we're content, sometimes sad, sometimes suicidal. The important thing is to acknowledge the feeling first of all. The next thing to do is to have the presience to understand that it is after all just an emmotion, and emmotions change, they fluctuate and like tidal rivers they ebb and flow and are not constant. So, just because you're feeling this low now doesn't mean you're always going to feel this bad.

Have you considered that experiencing this emmotion could be your mind's way of telling you that there's some aspect of your life that requires change. Or, maybe that there's some aspect of your mind that needs change in order to be able to better deal with the things in life that you cannot change? It works both ways you see and your psychiatrist will have an arsenal of techniques from cognitive analytic therapy through cognitive behavioural therapy through to some of the best medication that money can buy to assist you.

So, where does that leave you right now? Well, put simply, it leaves you with a choice. However much it may feel otherwise right now, you're in control of your situation. You control the emmotional responses you experience to the environment that surrounds you and you have choice over which emmotion to experience, and what actions to take. You always did have incidentally, just in case that fact's eluding you right now.

Your NHS trust quite likely has a crisis team or a home visiting team or something similar. If you feel overwhelmed by the emmotion that you're experiencing, then simply pick up the phone, and dial NHS direct on 0845 46 47 and explain what you're feeling and ask for them to contact the mental health crisis team. Alternately, your GP may have an out of hours service whereby not necessarily a GP within your practice but another GP may be able to see you if you call. You have choices, and you're totally in control of everything you're doing.

The emmotion is valid, but it's temporary. Access the support that's there and make sure that you get the help you need at the time that you need it the most. It's okay to be needy, sometimes!

Answer 3

Get as much people support as you can. Samaritans, Doctor (you will be amazed how effective the right antidepressant medication will be), any groups that you can access via Doctor.

When I feel down two things help; the first is that no matter how bad ones own situation may feel at any time, sadly there is always somebody having a worse time.

I feel better knowing that I'm not the only individual who feels terrible, moreover there are people much worse off than me. Secondly, to focus upon what is good, what you have, not what you have not got, who you are, and not someone who someone else says you should be.

Remember that in life, there are some things you can stay in control of, and other things you cannot hope to control - like the end of the relationship you had with your girlfriend. All that you can do, is look after yourself and nurture yourself back to the health and happiness that you deserve.

When your depression is lifted, a life aim is good thing to have, something that you can work towards, that might be something you would like to do or be. You will forget sadness and who knows, when you least expect it, happiness may just come your way! I hope that it does. Take Care and bb4now xx

Answer 4

Firstly, you have a cool name. I'm an Ed as well.

Secondly, the pain over the girl bit ... well, that's what happens when you love someone and they go. You feel sad and hurt.

I understand you saying that you feel you can't handle it, but believe me - you can handle it. You have handled loss before and you can handle this one.

At the moment, while nothing seems to take the pain away, all you really need to do is your housekeeping stuff - just keep up with work and bills and such and get to your psychiatrist each week.

Find another therapist (a cheaper one, perhaps) if you need further sessions, or even ring up the telephone counselling help lines in your area.

You can get over this and move on. In fact, there is a lesson for you in this. There may be things you would like to change about yourself. This is an excellent time to start making improvements and restructure your life for the better.

Answer 5

My place is crawling with psychiatrists, know how you feel I self harm! and see a psychiatrist Im not proud of it but by admitting it might help I guess. This isn't the first time I have felt like this and even though im not well now and im hurting etc I know it will get better. Whoever the girl is that hurt you for whatever reason etc just remember that anyone who can hurt you this much is not the right person for you. You must have loved her loads to hurt so much so be proud that you gave 100% and your heart where as she couldn't even do that! Your twice the person she is. Somewhere there is someone out there for you and that girl is gonna love you as much as you love her as it should be. Try not to think badly on yourself over it and I think it is great that you are able to talk to the psyco which will help in the long run. Trust them and open up to them, they will set you straight in time and it will take time. Be strong and well done for saying your problem that takes guts.

Answer 6

I have been where you are. I got all the way to the outside of the bridge before i was interrupted so i have some idea of what you are going through.I heard something that helps me,

A questionaire was carried out on the people who had survived throwing themselves off of the goldengate bridge.All of them said that about 2 thirds of the way down, they suddenly realised that everything that had driven them to do it didn't matter anymore, all the pain and all the problems they had in the world could be fixed except for the fact that they had just thrown themselves off of the goldengate bridge.

It's true, whatever the pain you are going through will pass and whatever problems you have can be fixed. It may seem like the darkest time and you can't go on but you can, I promise. Pick up the phone and talk to someone you trust. If you don't know who, call the Samaritans.

I promise, nothing is worth your life.

Answer 7

The short answer: Get over it.

I know that's easier said than done, so here's some things to do to help with the pain:

1 - Go out and be social. If you're of drinking age, get your butt to a bar, even if you don't drink. Just get out of the house and do something, preferably in a social environment.

2 - Learn Apathy. Learn to not really care about things that don't involve you directly. It's nice to be concerned for others, but right now you need to focus on you.

3 - Don't expect the pain to just up and dissappear. It won't. You need to take some time to really figure out what is causing you pain, and why. Your therepist should be able to help, but it can take weeks, months, or even years depending on the type and duration of your relationship. Just continue to tell yourself that things WILL get better.

Finally, try not to get sucked into alcohol or drug abuse while you're depressed. As much as it seems that you're feeling better when intoxicated, you're really making things worse, both emotionally and physically. I'm not saying don't drink, but watch your levels, especially now.

Answer 8

i think you need to make a emergency appointment with your GP tomorrow morning and don't take we have no emergency appointments left rubbish, tell them well its an emergency because I'm suicidal.

i have been where you are many times my friend even to the point of doing it and been brought back to life.life is unbearable enough without the stress of depression that makes things ten times worse. you may feel like everybody will be better off without me but believe me this is so not true, do u want to pass over the pain your feeling to everybody you leave i think not, that's why you are asking for help, but if you did do it you would only transfer all the pain onto everyone else.

even if this means going into hospital for a short while go things will get better once they can observe and see wot is the best treatment is gonna work for you then things will slowly come together I'm sure

Answer 9

Keep talking Ed. Even if you can't tell anyone everything at the moment, just tell what you can and eventually you will get to a point where you can cope with your life again.
Ring Samaritans. They will talk to you for as long as you want.
Write things down too, if there's things you can tell anybody write them down. Write down everthing you are feeling then at least it's out and you've started to put it into words.
Crying helps too. If there's someone you know that you can tell you are upset, but can't tell them the full story try and tell them just that - ask for a hug and have a good cry.
You will be ok. It will be very difficult for a while but keep telling yourself you'll be ok soon. All the best.

Answer 10

Ah, no! No!

Please don't think like that! If you were to leave the living world, someone will miss you. In fact, it'll be more than one person. By being like this, you may be hurting that person and not know it. Talk it out with someone close to you or if not, write it out. Take out paper and write how you feel or just do whatever you want...draw, cry on it. Take out your frustration with music. Sing and scream along with it. Try going out for a walk to clear your mind, forget everything, imagine yourself walking away from what it is that is troubling you. I know it may be hard but the issues that are bothering you will go away and they will soon be insignificant specs that will be swept away to the far horizon. Just breath in and out and focus your pain and frustration away. Try it, it won't hurt to do it and it will have you focused on something else.

Good luck and take care, suicide is never the answer.

Answer 11

You are probably caught up in the moment. You can't control your feelings, but they will pass. What you can do is control your actions, and remember not to do anything stupid in the heat of the moment. I don't think anything, even a girl, is worth killing yourself over. There are so many out there, and at the very least, couldn't you mail order a bride? No, Im kidding, I just mean that there are other options!