My mom is mad at me for being anti-sociol she called
me mean for saying Ppl wth friends are weak and
useless and loner are superior to those who have friends
2006-08-16 11:29:44 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as u dont have a problem then its ok.
2006-08-21 17:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing in my opinion...i have almost the same problem... i have a couple of friends that i get together with occasionally, but for the most part i like spending time alone... i don't think that there is anything wrong with wanting to be alone, I'm happier when i am listening to music or just doing something by myself... honestly i don't see why you should go over a friend's house when you feel more comfortable in an empty house... but on the other hand it is good to know people for things like school projects with partners, face it you have to do them... i wouldn't call people with a lot of friends weak, but i would say that they think that there is something wrong with anti-social ppl and that annoys the crap out of me... my mom also annoys me a lot about being anti-social
2006-08-16 11:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ktridge709 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, really, but it is a good idea to have some good friends. I should now, 'cause I've never had any. I know I wouldn't be a computer geek and a musician if I had spend all my time hangin out or whatever, rather than practicing and studying.
I find that most people don't personally like me all that much (could be my own fault for lack of inter-personal skills), but you can bet your lunch they call me up when their computer crashes and they need my help. Same with my church, a lot of people (not all though) act like they're too good for me but when the choir needs a pianist, who do you think comes to mind first?
2006-08-16 11:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Slim T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's not that being anti-social is a bad thing. But it could prevent you from truly living and sharing with others. Here's the thing, if you know how to be alone and you even enjoy spending time by yourself...then that could be a real good thing as many out there would freak out once they find themselves alone.
However, if spending too much time by yourself becomes the norm,....you truly miss out on an aspect of yourself that was meant to grow and prosper only in the company of others. You see, when you're with others, you get a better sense of who you are in relationship to various personalities.
so I say to at least hang out with people who share your personal interests in a certain area of your life. At the same time, there's nothing wrong with spending time on your own.
good luck.
2006-08-16 11:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by davemg21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ev one's dif; not everyone is a social butterfly so as long as u're happy and not thinking weird thoughts like going on a shooting spree, then there's nothing wrong with being a loner. i don't think ppl with friends are weak and useless, though. they're just more out-going then u which is not a bad thing so don't feel insulted. like i said, as long as u're happy then who cares and tell ur mom to get a life and quit worrying about urs.
2006-08-16 11:39:11 · answer #5 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs someone. I am somewhat of a loner myself but it is only because I am very selective as to who my friends are. When it comes to friendships I believe it is best to have a few good friends than a lot of sometimey ones. Your mom is upset because you have an unhealthy view on friendships and relationships and she is worried about you. As the song goes "One is the loneliest number." Peace and God bless.
2006-08-16 11:38:18 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there before, and not haveing friends can be easier than having friends. But i now am very popular and i find that having friends is so much better than not having them. Your not weak for having friends your just more confident. Maybe your jealous at those who have friends because you can't get any
2006-08-16 11:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by dimondbacks7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y do u want 2 be alone?
its more enjoyable 2 have friends
their there 2 talk 2 u
and if u hav problems they can help
its easy 2 make friends
just talk
u can hav long lasting friends, and tru friends
just give it a try
be openminded
2006-08-16 13:43:06 · answer #8 · answered by A J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is just concerned for you, not mad. If your having trouble making friends talk to your mom about it and counseling can help too. Lots of people have this problem and it can be corrected with help.
2006-08-16 11:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Izzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a hermit, I find nothing wrong with it. Most people could not get by without constant interaction with friends, but some of us can.
I would not say it makes us stronger, just different.
2006-08-16 11:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by tm_tech32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you like being a loser than more power too you. you will never make it in a career if you're anti-social. It's all about networking.
Unless if we have worldwide epidemic doesn't look the birth rate is going down ne way....so instead of fighting them join them.
2006-08-16 11:34:05 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋