This is a question I have been wondering for a while..Would you go into a long term relationship if you knew the girl wasn't going to have sex until after marriage, or at least not until you had been together for a long time??
2006-08-16 11:16:53 · 33 answers · asked by theblonchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, if i love her then i would respect her and her decision. It would be hard, but again if i love her, she'll be worth the wait.
2006-08-16 11:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Dude 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i would not go into a long term relationship and sex was not part of it. My reason is that suppose you never had sex with the person and waited after marriage to find out that the sex is not good ! What are you going to do ?
Lots of marriages have ended up in divorce as a result of the sex not being that good etc.... I have nothing against the bible teaching, but on a realistic point of view you have to be smart and test out things before you decide to get married.
Lots of people have not though about this and have ended up in situations with a partner that is just not good in bed. This will tempt some one to go out side and get satisfaction from an out side source and there is were the trouble start.
My personal opinion you are with some one for some time, it is wise to see how good the sex is before you decide to get married. If this person is not good then you have options by you two working on improving on your sex life were there is satisfaction for you both.
Would you buy a car without test driving it to see how it feels tell me ? It is the same with some one you are in a long term relationship with.
Hope this answer your question !
2006-08-16 11:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , I did just that.
I was married 4 times , my first three wives were not virgins when I met them, not that it mattered. My last wife of 21 years was a 27 year old virgin when I met her in the Philippines, we met a wedding , She was the maid of honor and I the best Man.
I was only in the Philippines for 2 weeks. I tried to get her alone , which was very hard. But I did manage it. We kissed in the shadows and it was the most memorable kiss I had ever had. I went back to the USA and It was haunting me, we started writing each other and the feelings grew . I got her here on a fiancee petition and we've been together ever since. Yes , we lived together 3 months before getting married (no hanky panky) Our pic is on my 360 page.
To top that one , her sister was a 40 year old virgin when she got married
and yes , I am one of a handful of men that can tell.
2006-08-16 11:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer = yes
My reasoning = If I were considering a long term relationship or possible marriage, I would definaltely be packin some
deep feelings for that person........
I can't say how long I could wait ,
but just for reference I have currently waited for the last 8 years
single , without so much as a date
(was married for 18 years)
waiting for a compatible female to come into my life.........
My desire to be with the girl of my dreams , has allowed this (8 years)......
Some say I am insane.......
Others say they would explode........
No one seems to understand how important it is to me to be
a Re-Certified Virgin, when I do find my girl..........
2006-08-16 11:40:48 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I do appreciate the commitment of that person. But I think as Americans, we put way to much emphasis on sex. If you are a adult, make an adult decision. If you feel a bond with a person and want to have sex, do it. I don't get the hang up personally, why be so sheltered? Do you think you will be judged? Why isn't that more of a focus in America? Why not focus on our arrogant misguided opinions of others? Sex is natural, my GF has had sex before with some besides me, who cares. She loves me now, and I will most likely end up marring her. I'm glad to know we are sexually compatible. Give me a break on this ridicules idealistic topic.
2006-08-16 11:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! I don't expect to have sex to have a relationship! TO be honest most of the time a man is forcing a women to have sex with them it's not because they want the women, they typically just want sex. Not saying that they don't want the women because they want sex either. But at times some people just want to have sex at that time. Now there are some guys that get with women with only the intent of having sex with them. Why the man gets mad is because, he realizes he not reaching his goal. But most men that meet a girl they truely are into would stay with a girl reguardless if the girl was having sex with them or not.
2006-08-16 11:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by Game lover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because I believe a girl should have strong morals and ethics as well as class. I would not want a girl that would have sex w/me just because society says its OK. It is great to find someone with background that will teach her children (when she has them) the same things. If virginity is an old fashioned virtue, that is THE virtue I want to be in my relationship while I grow to know and maybe love the girl.
2006-08-16 11:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If i am looking for a long term relation ... it will never be based upon sex ... relations based on sex are not long they are short ... and when the need is over ... both goes back to their own life ... so yes if i am looking for a long term relation i wont be judging it by sex ... i will judge by everythign of my partner ... is she enough caring ??? is she willing to risk her everythign for me ... is she enough exciting for me ... is her personality and my personality matches ... and most of all ... is she worthy to be hang out it for that long ... there is no important role of sex in a long term relationship ... yes there is a part of sex ... a big huge part ... caz it is all about satisfaction ... so i will never say that sex has nothign to do with it ... yes it has ... but not much of it ... if my lover says i am not going to hav sex untill im married ... i will respect her decision ... u know why caz i will feel like whats the rush ... when i know im getting her ... and its caz i love her not caz i hav lust for her ... if i had lust i wud never move on for a long term relation ... and if we had sex it wud mean alot to both of us ... not just normal sex ... its very hard to describve such emotion ... for my love ... i will wait untill we r married ... atleast long enough to know each other very well ... and if then the girl trusts me ... i will make love with her ...
2006-08-16 11:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Ahbab Da Coolest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course I would get into a long term relationship with a girl who has her values. There are two kinds of women, ones for fun (sex) and ones for marriage (virtue).
2006-08-16 11:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if I like the girl, but at least the issue would be up-front. If she were worth it, I might. Unfortunately, so many girls fixate on being virgins that they forget to grow personalities. I'd rather marry a sl ut with a good personality that a virginal bi tch.
2006-08-16 12:08:45 · answer #10 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Sex is an important part of a relationship to me. I wouldn't be mad or hate her. It would just mean we have different values and I would wish her luck with the rest of her life and move on.
2006-08-16 11:22:30 · answer #11 · answered by Bryan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋