recently divorced and interested in dating again, the problem is that i am bipolar with terrible mood swings.?

Question

any dating tips for someone who has bipolar illness with irritability? any tips, suggestions, breathing techniques, any thing?

Answer 1

take your meds and be upfront about your condition

Answer 2

You are in a very sensitive stage in your life. After a divorce people want to start a new life and find a special someone. Some people call that a "rebound". Usually those relationship are not good and are full of problems because you're still having issues with your last relationship.

I think that it would be better if you concentrate on you first, before thinking on having a new relationship. Do things for yourself like going someplace new (vacations), starting a new hobbie, start or improve an excercise routine, etc.

You say that you are bipolar and irritable, and I congratulate you for being honest and admitting that. So, why dont you start there? Do things to improve your mood, like doing yoga or other relaxation technics in a daily basis. Talk to your therapist and ask him about other things that can improve your life and prepare you better to start a new life with a new partner. Ask HIM what you have to do to be prepare for a new life. Also never forget to follow your treatment and take your medicines as indicated.

Do not go through life telling others "hey Im bipolar, do you want to have a relationship with me?" No! You will be prepared to have a new relationship when you feel confident about yourself, about the control you have over your moods and your life. Yes, you are bipolar, but you are normal, and you just need to learn to take better care of yourself.

You have the control in your life and you are the only one that can decide what you will do or not do. You are responsible for your future. So take action and talk with your therapist who is a professional prepared to recomend you alternatives based on your condition and the knowledge he have about your situation in specific.

I wish you all the success in the world. I'm sure you will be very happy.

Answer 3

I can sympathize with what you're going through, I'm bipolar too. I don't have the problem you're describing all the time, but when I cycle, even the meds don't prevent the nervousness and irritability, it's just there. I do find though, that in a pleasant social setting I can forget it briefly. I'd suggest you tell whoever you're going out with what the deal is up front. They've got to find out sometime, and, maybe, sooner is better. I run into people who get scared stiff and others who could care less. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Either take something to calm you down when you have an attendency to get angry. Chamomile, ect. Make sure you are taking enough calcium. Probably need to avoid too much caffiene. This may work or not. Some people get happy shortly after drinking it then down and grumpy a couple hours later. Are you taking meds? These should help with this.

I guess everyone is different. I dated a bi-polar girl that really didn't get angry. She just got very quiet and introverted often.

If you know there is no way you can control it then be up front and honest with your date. Say: Don't take it personally ever!!! But I go through these mood swings occassionally and I'm trying very hard to get over them. and they don't have anything to do with you!!

This isn't very easy to do... At least what I'm going to say but here is another thing.
Just stop being angry. Tell yourself. "I'm not going to get angry". It will be hard but it will work.. You have control over yourself. The anger doesn't have control over you.
It will get easier and easier to control if you do this.
Good luck.

Answer 5

I had an online friend for awhile who was bipolar. Never knew from one email to the next what to expect from her. Then, out of the blue, she just quit writing. Her condition caused her to be highly unpredictable. As far as advice goes, I don't have much other than to say that there are several drugs available that may help you. Have you tried any of them? If not, I would start there.

Answer 6

I suggest finding a medication that works for you. You may need something to calm your nerves such as Valium or Klonopin. Do some research and discuss with your doctor. Good luck :-)

Answer 7

try mixednuts.com - very interesting site for people with various kinds of depression etc.
i tried to email you now but was unsuccessful - you're email address has not been verified yet.
if you have difficulty finding this site pls let me know and i will get the full address to you.
In the mean time - good luck - wishing you well

Answer 8

i'm getting poor temper swings alot and that i do no longer know why. the only way for me to sense greater clever is to be via myself and do some thing that i take exhilaration in and calms me down and ingesting chocolate facilitates.

Answer 9

There are some useful tips here.