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please help me my son does not want to sit and to stay on task on his other subjucts he stays still and on task during math he is the 1st grade and i want to be albe to help him he had a real hard time last in K grade to stay focus .Is there any parent out there or teachers that could give me an idea how I can help our son .I can not stay with him all day and i do not want this teacher think he is bad or nothing .He is very smart and does good work .Please no rude answers And God Bless

this is to the frist one that answered i said ideas

i had him tested for add and no we are not putting him on meds he is to young

Answer 1

Good grief...look at everyone willing to diagnose ADD or ADHD based on one paragraph. I am a mom and a teacher. My advice would be simply to try having some quiet time at home. Set aside a time to read or work on math or writing. Play games together that require him to focus and pay attention, like Memory. Ask his teacher for more ideas. Good luck.

Answer 2

I have the same problem with my son. He will be starting first grade this year. Last year I had countless meetings with his teacher and the guidance counselor over him wandering around the room. I honestly think that a lot (not every) of boys have this same problem. He was hardly ever sitting still in class and his teacher said that the other students were distracted by him wandering, but, I will give you the same advice that I got when we moved and transferred him into another school district. I f he can still pass all his tests and answer questions then he is fine. Eventually he will grow out of it. I also took him to the doctor at his teachers request to have checked for ADD and ADHD. Even his doctor said that he was fine. We had him psychiatric evaluated.

Answer 3

We had a similar problem with our son.He had a hard time staying on focus and paying attention (in K and 1st).For 2nd grade I homeschooled him,it was very trying.We really thought he had ADHD,my husband is a special ed teacher and could not work with him,he just could not sit still and do his work.WE took him to our pedr. who recommened a psyc. and a psych. we put him on different meds.The doctors we did not care for and the meds worked but we didn't like him to take at such an early age.By the way the doctors determine the diagnosis on what info. is given to them by you and other pertinent people (teachers ...).There is no real medical test.Anyway we took him off his meds and put him back in public school.He is very intelligent and has great verbal skills.He is quite social but still has to be reminded to stay on task.What we have decided is he is a boy, boys are loud , rambunctious,and very busy.Studies have proven they learn at a different rate and way than girls.They are hands on and curious and not ready to sit down and be quiet in a class envirorment as soon as society expects them to.One thing I would have differently:I would have kept both my sons at home an extra year before they started school.Wher I live people are starting to do that.I really think You should do what your heart says not what is the norm.Every child is different.And we did end up putting our oldest in 2nd grade twice.So don't rush into any decisions.You know your child and this is my experience and my opinion.Hope it goes well!

Answer 4

Ok sry.....i do not agree that all children that do not want to sit still and do their work need to be tested and put on some stupid med.......What i think you should do is talk to his teacher and see about sitting him in a desk by himself, that tends to help b/c they want to play with their friends and do not want to sit there. In a class i had to take they also talked about the teacher...if the teacher is, lack of a better way of saying it...not bold and in control of her class you are going to have those smart kids that figure that out and they can do what they want. I taught pre-school, age wise i know is way dif., but we had a child like that he was very smart, to smart and he would not do what we wanted we sat him at a desk by himself and that really helped b/c he had to earn his way back to the other kids and when he was able to sit with the other kids and he wouldnt do his work he wasnt given in chances but was moved to a desk by himself and it really worked by the time the school year was over he would sit and do his work and usually was the first one to finish....just a suggestion and i know that this is very frustrating but hang in there and dont let everyone make you think that he has a prob. and should be on med. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

I have to agree with hotmama, I think that a lot of boys are like this, mine are. I read a great book that talked about how our boys are being expected to do things that are not age appropriate for boys in k and the first few years of school. It's called "Why Gender Matters" By Leonard Sax. Great book. With mine, I couldn't find an all boys school nearby so I have him in after school activities which get his energy out and we have quiet time where we sit down and practice focusing on school work or reading. Good luck and if you find the miracle cure, let me know.

Answer 6

Here is what you need to do:
Go to the principal and the teaher and tell them that you want to have him tested on the .............child study team or whatever your district calls it. this team is made up of a few teachers from the school, the principal, your child's teacher, you, and if neccessary a school psychologist. It is all free of charge and it does not mean that anything is wrong with your child.
You will tell them what you see, the teacher will tell them what she sees, and then together you will come up with a plan. You have the fnal decision on what will or will not be done to try and help your child. They could test for giftedness, ADD, etc. However, they will come up with a plan of things to do to help him: behavior charts, alternative ways of learning, etc.
The teacher will then try these things and report back to you as to the success of the plan.

Answer 7

ADD is seemingly always the first thing anyone thinks of when talking about a lively child. If you need an answer I would suggest looking for it in a professional venue rather than here! A child development specialist or psychologist would be much more capable of making a diagnosis and offering options than anyone could possibly do by guessing at his situation and yours through this forum. He's your son... he's precious and so is his life and the quality of it. Take him to professionals! He's worth it.

Best wishes.

Answer 8

I would have him tested for his learning ability level. Could be a handicap, or it could just be that he's too bright for the material being given him and he's getting bored--could be likely if he's good at math.. Once his learning level is established, look into a classroom structure that's more appropriate for him (special ed or gifted classes, or even homeschooling if that's an option). Kids don't come from a cookie cutter, so it's not really fair to expect them all to be the same.

Answer 9

Maybe he is bored and maybe you can somehow make homework exciting or maybe he has ADD or something like that. If he has ADD, you should go to some sort of doctor or specialist to take care of it now before it gets worse, but don't just give him a prescription. I guess it's better to see a specialist, because if you go to regular doctor, they'll probably just give you some sort of pills to give to him, which isn't good. A specialist will probably have more knowledge and options as to how to treat it without tons of meds.

Answer 10

It sounds like ADHD. I know medications scare parents.I was scared.My son, now 14 was on medication. He grew out of it.For some reason he too could stay on task if he was playing playstation but not other things.I was skeptical with the dr's decision.I went ahead and it helped him.Like I said, he doesnt take it anymore.