If you been dating a girl for about five years, and both of you are responsible and are older than 23 years of age, is it time to settle down.
2006-08-16 11:07:19 · 20 answers · asked by George V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
depends so much on the individuals...
have a good job? mature enough? responsible enough? really in love? if all yes's... GO FOR IT!
2006-08-16 11:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Marcia K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to settle down when you are both ready to settle down. At 23 I was too busy with a career to even think about a serious relationship, never mind settle down!
However, I think 18 is old enough to get married. I'm not a "fan" of younger kids getting married. I don't think they have had enough experience in life yet to know. But it's whatever is appropriate for you. 23 is certainly "old enough" but age alone doesn't termine maturity and readiness.
2006-08-16 13:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no magic age.
Here's my criteria:
1) Mature enough to be able to recognize yourself as an independent able to survive without him
2) Mature enough to look back and realize that everyone does change; You aren't the same person you are when you are 15. We all grow up. Look at your age and think, "do I really want to get married right now?"
3) Don't marry because you want to get married. Get married because it's the right thing to do.
4) Communication is great. The relationship itself is based on mutual trust and commitment.
5) Understanding that marriage isn't going to be a problem-solver. If you had problems while dating, you're going to have problems while married too.
6) Mutual commitment to make the marriage work.
7) Mutual commitment to manage money in a great way.
8) Have I known you long enough to be out of the honeymoon stage? Do I recognize your flaws?
It's not about the number of years you've been dating. It's not about how old you are.
You could be dating 10 years and getting married at the age of 40.
It takes both parties to communicate and mature together. It's not a YOU decision to get married; it's AN US decision.
2006-08-16 13:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if the both of you feel it's time to settle down.
Marriage is a serious committment and I don't feel an age needs to be attached to it. I believe when two people has made a decision that they love each other, wants to share their lives together and wants to grow old together, then I believe both should consider marriage. If one person wants to get married and the other person don't then there's a problem.
On the other hand, if you have been with a person for 5 years and you are not ready for marriage then maybe you should let her move on. Reason is the both of you are on different paths and one wants to be committed (with paper) and the other person doesn't.
2006-08-17 19:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best to marry in your late twenties because by that time, both of you would have worked for a few years after college, knew what the real world is like, meaning having life experiences that enriched your lives so that both of you are mature enough to handle situations individually and together. Both of you will also have $ saved up so you will have some to spend on your wedding and honeymoon. Yet, you are still young enough if you want a whole bunch of kids.
2006-08-19 15:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by sando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over the age of 18. So if you botht hink that you're ready to get married and go through the ups and downs then go for it. I think the only t hing you guys need to do is contact a local church that offers pre-marital counseling so that you both can get a realistic view of marriage.
2006-08-16 12:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some that are ready to marry at age 20. There are some that still aren't ready at age 40. There are alot of factors to consider. If you want to settle down, then do so, if you don't, then don't. There is no set timetable for this sort of thing.
Maybe you ought to talk to your girlfriend & see how she feels. If you both feel ready.....plan on a trip to the jewelers. :)
2006-08-16 11:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a choice only you can make as you are the one that know the person for five years as you mention. If you decide to get married make sure that you know what you are doing and listen to your gut feelings.
For some people i know have lived together for twenty years before they got married, and it is only now that they are married they discover things they don't like about the person.
what ever you decide to do i wish you the best !
2006-08-16 11:19:43 · answer #8 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i imagine the norm now a days is late 20's like 28 by skill of 40 specially because human beings opt to verify themselves, be self reliant do issues they prefer: journeys, volunteer, date numerous human beings to verify what they prefer or don't love, or if courting isn't the case, looking the man you opt to percentage your existence with. with the ability to get married and are available up with the money for different issues in existence too. i'd motivate both one in all you to both attend college or more effective preparation, graduate, and get complete time jobs. Then see in case your targets are really the same or in case you desire diverse issues. Teenage courting is diverse once you're 28 and staring at existence thoroughly diverse.
2016-11-25 21:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
new studies out showing the brain doesn't fully mature until about age 25 so you may want to consider that as well. you are already 23 thought, you could get engaged, and take a year to plan the actual wedding.
2006-08-16 15:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no particular age that means it's the right time. The right time is when you BOTH feel like you will neer be attracted to another human being, and you want to be together FOREVER. Don't marry just because it's expected.
2006-08-16 11:13:52 · answer #11 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋