My best male friend and I have been getting closer and he recently revealed he got married to a girl from Jamaica while visiting family.
We have a connection and we have been getting closer.
I'm considering having a relationship with him...
I don't feel bad about her because she's another country..
Is this too risky?
2006-08-16 11:02:43 · 20 answers · asked by A1lovely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel you all...
We definitely have a connection and the problem is he is being vague about any life he has in Jamaica and continuing to push up on me. I feel like he's doing two things that go against each other....
Personally, folks, I'm salty that he is so cool but yet has this situation.
We work this part time job together too so that's another thing..We see each other often.
2006-08-17 07:57:07 · update #1
This is very risky. What are you planning to do when he goes back to his wife and you have fallen in love with him? What are you planning to do when he tells you to stop calling and he no longer can see you because his wife has moved to this country or vice versa. The only connection you all have is a sex connection and you are setting yourself up for a headache in the very near future. Don't be a fool, leave him alone.
2006-08-16 11:15:41 · answer #1 · answered by Who me? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no did it not risky. but here are a couple of things for you to think about. if this relationship is one you see has that can become a future marriage, then he would have to get divorced. wither in this country or in jamaica. you can get divorced in other countries than the ones you got married in. in the state of florida, it costs $250.00 to file the papers and after 60 days you will be divorced regardless if the other person besides the one filing is in the u.s. or not.
2nd: how do u feel about the news. if it does not borther you and you feel that he has been honest with you thus far, then continue. but make sure he is not playing you and if he goes back to visit his family in jamaica he is not playing the girl over there too.
3rd: what would happen if she was to come to the states. would he leave you for her? are you willing to scarcrifice your new relationship for her.?
it is not risky but in the long run the only one who might get extremely hurt might be you. and are you willing to take that chance. you know there are plenty of men out there, the right one will come your way. its like the old disco song, " love is like fishing in the ocean, you will always find something new"
2006-08-16 11:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it truly is a topic it really is warned about by technique of Paul and others in the recent Testement about "fake instructors". first of all you're illegally married as he's married to the first spouse and by no skill divorced. So he's committing adultery with you and also bigamy that could land him in penal complicated. he's preaching yet no longer a practising Christian and the church might want to be stripping him of being a preacher. they prefer to study of what he's doing. Its no longer in uncomplicated words morally incorrect, its Biblically incorrect and its legally incorrect. You technically are literally not married to this guy. both one in all you may want to correctly be in difficulty. You had more effective efficient communicate to a criminal professional about what's going to happen.
2016-11-25 21:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Honestly, speaking...he is extremely lucky, expecially if you are okay with it. But here is something that you have to understand....because he has divulged this information to you and you appear to be okay with it, he will probably never have any intentions on making you his wifey. After the sex gets old and you begin to want a real relationship, he is going to tell you to stop trippin..and pull the "Friendship" card out on you.
When you say "risky"....what do you mean? I am not sure if I understand your concerns.
2006-08-16 11:12:45 · answer #4 · answered by FutureBoss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't people in Jamaica use machettes to chop things up? Think hard about this as people from other cultures sometimes terminate their problems in a permanent manner.
2006-08-16 11:07:52 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out how he feels about you and go on from there. It sure is risky because your relationship will be ruining his marriage. What if you are on his shoes, would you do the same thing?
2006-08-16 11:19:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hi girl good thing u dont feel so right about it cus it is very wrong to engage in any intimate relationship with a married man and on top it is going to end up breaking your heart and u wouldn't have any one to blame because you knew he was married,keep in mind that anybody who has a serious relationship with you whiles married to someone else is just using you. \please respect yourself and opt out of this relationship okay ?
joe b
2006-08-16 11:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should not get involved at all. He's doing wrong and if you go with him you will be also. He can't be trusted why would you want to go out with a liar and a cheat? If you do it will only spell trouble for you both.How would you like to be in her shoes?
2006-08-16 11:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Linda R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, having an intimate relationship with a married guy sounds like a fantastic idea. No offense, but do you seriously need to ask people's advice on this? It sounds like you want to do what you want to do, but in my opinion, people who sleep with married people are selfish and have no morals.
2006-08-16 11:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So, what if after he marries you he decides to start dating another woman in another country? You'll be okay with that? Once a cheater always a cheater!!!
2006-08-16 11:08:41 · answer #10 · answered by messijessi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋