2006-08-16 10:58:42 · 8 answers · asked by fran s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Because we are human and therefore fallible. Just know that as long as you do your best you won't ruin your kid....at least, no more than your own parents ruined you (although in new, creative, and different ways) or anyone else ruins their kids. All of us are products of our upbringing, both the mistakes and triumphs of our parents. My mom considers herself a failure (I won't go into the reasons but trust that they are numerous and real) but I always say of her: "If there is one thing my mom did perfectly, it was to teach me generosity." And if there is one thing you did perfectly, you weren't a failure.
2006-08-16 13:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by imjustasteph 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know why you guys do that; I think it's simply different views, different times... The difference between this generation and the last is huge. The biggest thing I've noticed was that in the last generation, there was a lot of discrimination against homosexuals, and now most kids (up to 20 year olds) tend to go "Meh".
My mother and I have fought over the dangers of my coming out for a long time now, so that's why that's my biggest example...
2006-08-16 18:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Kage D, 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun...i am the proud mom of a 5 yr old girl and i have ta say that i had big fears of wether or not i could be a good mom...when me and my twis sis was growin' up we whent hungry a lot of times cause our mom was to busy drinking to put food on tha table....as you can see we didn't have the greatest example to go by...yes my mom did put me through hell but i would never put my own little girl through that...i don't drink and wont have it in my house or any were near me....i believe that i got lucky in the fact that i grew to hate it instead of following in her foot steps...i also learned that we are not born being perfect parents..not only do we give birth to babies but those babies are our teachers...and the only way we can become better parents is through trial and error...im sorry you seem to have had a ruff child hood...all you can do from this point is one day in the future give your kids the best child hood possible...love daisy
2006-08-16 18:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We learn what we should have done just in time to be awesome grandparents. This has been this way for ages and it's why the kids usually like the grandparents better than the parents.
2006-08-16 18:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do the best we can with the parenting tools we have at the time.
You can live in guilt OR admit to your child if you are wrong (what a gift to give your child - letting them know that no one is perfect) fix it if you can, and move forward.
2006-08-16 19:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Freeadviceisworthwhatyoupayfor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
parenting is ALL trial and error... every parent and every child is different...
just alwasy be consistent with your love, praise and affection
never be scared to tell your child you are sorry
be reasonable
everyone makes mistakes but dont beat yourself up over them...
learn from what we do always try ro be the best we can
2006-08-16 21:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because we're doomed to repeat the mistakes our parents made with us... unless we work very hard, every single day.
Those behaviors are hard-wired into our brains, so it won't be easy.... but nobody deserves our best effort more than our kids.
2006-08-16 18:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by 'Schmod 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sad but true...
2006-08-16 18:03:57 · answer #8 · answered by *LuNa* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋