I need help....?

Question

I sometimes hate my life.....
-my classmates were always the favored choice of the teachers (they were mostly stuck up, slutty looking, and popular)
-I'm always the last person to hear about opportunities or even get one while everyone else brags about theirs
-People look down on me, even in gym cause of my appearance
-I dont talk that much and not outgoing
-I try to tell people what I want but I end up getting something that I dont need
-I admit it, I sometimes envy people for enjoying their life and having all these material possessions

what can I do....I need advice....religion advice also

any kind of advice

Answer 1

1.) Ask a teacher what you could do to increase your standing with them. I was not a particularly brilliant student, but I would stay after school and clean up my home room teachers class. I was a TA for my chemistry teacher as well.
2.)The oppurtunities others get are not neccessarily good. I often was invited to parties with drugs and alcohol among other devious things. Furthermore I doubt hooters would hire a guy to wait tables. Im sure you see my point. If you need a chance make one up, get some resumes out, host a party or two and trust me your oppurtunities will increase rapidly.
3.)If you asked 10 people if they would change something about their appearance all ten of them would say yes. As human beings we strive for an excellence above what we currently are. If you are having trouble with weight do not be ashamed to try a diet. I personally am involved in the martial arts to stay in shape.
4.)Talking is essencial to a social life. It may be very strange to you but its something you must try. As far as being outgoing goes it is extremely difficult and I struggle with this myself. My best friend told me a wonderful method of getting over it. You say 2 words about your objection. F**K IT! Just do it anyways, if anything goes wrong you can simply leave the party or gathering. Say you have an appointment or you promised to have dinner with your family, whatever works.
5.)Getting what you want is up to you alone. If it was as easy as asking for something to get it a lot of people would be unreasonably happy. Consider trading to get what you want. If you get something that you do not need or want like a cd player, trade it for a computer game or whatever strikes your fancy. I get many things free of charge that do not work or have no particular purpose. I trade them to people who want them for cash or other objects. Sometimes it takes several trades to get what you want. There was a man on the news that traded a red paper clip for another item and then traded that item for another and so on. His final trade was for a house in canada.
6.)A person like you does not need a farrari enzo to be happy. Nor do you need an playstation 3 eight months before its release date. I am the most happy when I have a chunk of wood and an ugly knife in my hands. I love to carve, I also enjoy the martial arts. Im not rich so I take it at the college. Its only like 100 bucks for 4 months of training. Find something you like doing that is simple, then find the cheapest way to get it.

My advice in regards to religion is find a religion that suits you. I am an Occultist and practice my faith openly. My family is not happy about it but they respect my decision. Also remember that no matter the religion the rules are guidelines ment for the age in which the religion took place. So there is space open to translation that makes faiths a lot more tolerable. if you want to see the truth read:
The Dream Giver

Hails to the learned heart,
Silence

Answer 2

hello,

wow some people have given some very good answers...
but i really feel for you and therefore I would still like to add what helps me...

I wish I could give you a T-shirt that says
"100% RIGHT.
Made by God."

At least imagine you're wearing it. Because it's so true. God created you perfect. Every tiny thing in your life, all the things you may have been led to believe are somehow wrong about yourself... He created it all with His own loving hands. And we may not be able to see why right now, but it all makes perfect sense, it's all the way it is for a very good reason.

Anyone who doesn't see how unspeakably beautiful you are, anyone who doesn't realize you are 100% right - they just don't know any better, they're very disconnected from God, they don't feel too good about themselves deep down if they need to put you down to feel better. They simply have no idea.

But there are people who do have an idea... there will be people in your life who know what the T-shirt says even without the T-shirt... :) And I hope you are the first one of them!

All the best to you from my heart!

Answer 3

Find people that you like to be around.
Make yourself available to them, get to know them and let them get to know you.

You will start your own little group and then nothing will be able to get you down.

I was a nerd in school and I didn't have many friends - until I broke my foot and then I got to talking to some kids that I never spoke to before - We hung out that whole summer - just playing video games - greatest time of my life - I still look back and would love to recapture those moments -

So don't let life get you down - there is always a friend out there that has the same interests as you -

Then when you get to college, guess what. Those kids that were favored by certain teachers - well, they are not going to stand a chance -

So my advice - find your own group of friends - do well in school and learn as much as you can and work hard - that way when in college you will be able to succeed and then you will have what you want.

Enjoy life, work hard and believe in yourself

Answer 4

Cherish yourself. Love who you are. Never let anyone's opinion of you matter more than your own. Refuse to let others judge you. Become more confident. Friendly self-confidence is sexy and can make people appear more attractive, no matter what they look like. Laugh as much as you can. Find humor in life. It heals your spirit. Get a sense of humor about yourself, as well as the people who bring you down.

Rent the movie "What the Bleep Do We Know". Pay very close attention to the last scenes, where a woman finally learns how to approve of the person she is.

Be good to you, always.

Answer 5

OK... grandad talking, well not yours, lol... did you ever hear the song about the ugly duckling growing into a swan? well, metaphorically speaking... life deals us some really funny cards and you find that those that have a really happy childhood often lose out later in life... and the complete reverse... so cheer up life is going to be great for you... religion ... try spiritualism, it's a loving and understanding religion

Answer 6

Where are you spiritually? Sounds like you need to stop looking at yourself and see something else.. There is a little poster I first saw years and years ago. It shown a funny looking little boy and he says " I know I'm special because God don't make Junk". maybe you should start thinking like that too. Maybe your circumstances would change if you gave up thinking that you are Junk... Jesus Died for you too. That is some pretty incredible Love. Don't throw it back in His face take His hand and let Him show you and abundant life.. Jim

Answer 7

If you don't have friends at school, that gives you more opportunities to become closer to Christ. If you go to a public school write down some verses and meditate on them whenever your not working on work, and if you go to a private school just take the Bible and read it. The Lord will never put down anyone who loves him. He can be your BEST friend. I think that if you get a better relationship (not saying that you don't have one) with the Lord you won't worry about what other people think or do to you because you will know that Jesus is ALWAYS on YOUR side...

Answer 8

well first of all SMILE you are alive and well...If there is something you want do not be afraid to be the first in line to get it. Honey you only live 1 time you have to get over the fear of what others will or do think about you ... Who realy gives a crap what others think. the only thing that matters is that you are happy with the choices you make in your life. You have to start living each day like it is your last. Tim Mcgraw...Live like you were dying........I do it every day...

Answer 9

look you just need a friend and thats ok because everyone needs
some one to talk to, so you can talk to me its no biggy really so
in touch with me who knows maybe we will run into each other
but until then all you have to do is keep cool i dont know you can
spend your time finding something your good at dont worrie about what others think of you if its not god its not important at all.

Answer 10

People will treat you the way THEY want unless you stand up and expect to be treated the way YOU want to be treated. It's survival of the fittest and if you want to survive be strong and stand up for yourself. The world isn't always the sweetest place, in fact most times it's not, unless you control your own destiny. To do that you need to get control of it. Take chances.