shouldn't live together anymore and kicked you out, would you still date her? I kicked my boyfriend out because he hasn't proposed in 3 years and I am no longer content with our stagnant relationship. He wanted to continue to live with me but not commit. Also, I've had many talks with him about my feelings. We went out to look at engagement rings 2 weeks ago, only for him to say, 1 week later, he did it because I pressured him! Who's right, here? Where do I go from here? Serious replies only. Thank you.
2006-08-16 10:42:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
3 years is more than enough time for him to decide if you are marriage material, and if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Don't dedicate anymore time to him, it's time to move on. Remember the quote,"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it's yours. If it doesn't, it never was."
Another thing... 3 years is not pressure.... don't let him pull that with you... either he's in or he's out... Stick to your guns...In my opinion, you should only take him back if he is willing to get engaged... if not, move on... there are too many fish in the sea. Good Luck!
2006-08-16 14:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mojo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok so he lived with you for 3 years, yet does not dedicate! What have been those 3 years? in basic terms fooling around? i do no longer understand what the cling up is over the marriage ingredient. He replaced into there sharing existence with you wasn't he? replaced into he out having affairs and issues like that? Or replaced into he committed to you, sharing in expenditures and chores. possibly you have been the single that wasn't committed! I even have been married for 25 years, am I married via fact I actually have a license from a central authority workplace and stood earlier a minister and stated I do? No i'm married via fact i'm there for my spouse and committed to creating her chuffed..... each and all of the rest is eye wash.
2016-09-29 08:33:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that is wrong by far. If you have already discussed with this young man what you want out of the relationship and he isnt responding to it at all, then he truly does not want what you want.
For him to feel pressured by looking at rings is a sign that even though it may happen one day, that one day wont be with you. I say 3 years is a long enough time to wait for your frog to become a prince. The only way to find what you want is to look for someone who wants what you want. He may or may not come to his senses when he no longer can have his cake and eat it to. Good luck on finding Mr. RIght- he is out there!
2006-08-16 10:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're both in the wrong. You shouldn't have kicked him out, but you should have thought of this 2 years ago when you'd already been living together for a year an nothing was happening. He should have been a man and asked you to marry him before shacking up with you, but you also let him do that.
2006-08-16 10:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy but I will say that you did the right thing. If you want marriage find someone that wants it also. Don't waste any more time on someone that doesn't want to commit. Move on and good luck. You will find someone that wants the same things as you and when you do, you won't give this guy a second thought.
2006-08-16 10:48:44 · answer #5 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force it, but nothing wrong with discussing where the relationship is going. If he really doesn't ever see himself with you in a commitment that serious then its best for you to go ahead and go your seperate ways. But if he really wants to and its just bad timing right now you may lose a great thing for being so pushy and impatient.
2006-08-16 16:00:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is bad idea.First,if he feels like he is being forced then this could potentially ruin your relationship but you shouldn't have to change what you want to satisfy him.So my advice is decide what you believe,you want and then figure out if you have the same wants otherwise in potential marriage with him could ened up in divorce.One of the main cause of marriages ending is the fact that people don't work out their problems in the relationship and then think that by getting married it will automaticaly be fixed.But that is my point of view.
2006-08-16 17:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u said serious replies only im going to give u one. dude dont want to get married to u. and u did the right thing. the only bad think is are u going to be back with in in a coulpe of weeks? or really let him go and start over?
2006-08-16 14:39:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force someone to commit whoe doesn't want to.
Because then they may appear to commit but not really.
Depending on the circumstances, it could be he is content where he is, whereas you want more. In this case, your best bet is move on...
2006-08-16 10:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Mick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a ring to get engaged. If you want to marry him, YOU propose to HIM. Then he can tell you yes or no, and then you'll have your answer about it all.
2006-08-16 12:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋