shouldn't live together anymore and kicked you out, would you still date her? I kicked my boyfriend out because he hasn't proposed in 3 years and I am no longer content with our stagnant relationship. He wanted to continue to live with me but not commit. Who's right, here? Where do I go from here? Serious replies only. Thank you.
2006-08-16 10:05:35 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you are totally right. u know exactly what u need, and what u deserve. you WANT commitment from him. you WANT him to be with you. He is the one who's not being a man and making decisions for the Betterment of ur relaitonship. therefore, it is up to you as a woman to make decisions that will be Positive, Healthy, and help you to become a better person. if this guy is dragging u down, making u feel bad about urself, not able or willing to grow with you, u Need to find someone who Can and Will do that for you! as long as u continue to work on urself as a wonderful, loving, committed girlfriend who would support and help her boyfriend, why would u take any less than a man who would do the same for you? relationships take Work. but it should be a satisfying work, the kind that makes u appreciate that person more and more each day, where u learn more about eachother and how to make eachother's lives BETTER. without that, u are stuck in a rut w/ someone who does not know how to satisfy you. remember, u took care of him for 3 YEARS. so it's not like u were a b**** and treat him like crap! it's the other way around if he cannot appreciate you, or satisfy ur needs and wants! good luck, and make sure u have expecations for urself as a woman and girlfriend; from ur partner as a man and boyfriend; and from the relationship. u are working towards SOMETHING..if that man does not have similar goals as you, u are in for a stagnant relationship. communication is KEY and as long as you are a great person, u will know that u deserve a great person and therefore will not take any less than that. keep positive things around you, and filter out the negatives. anyone who allows u to feel this badly about the relationship without trying to help you grow together is not good enough for you.
2006-08-16 10:13:58 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so he lived with you for 3 years, but wouldn't commit! What were those three years? Just playing around? I don't understand what the hang up is over the marriage thing. He was there sharing life with you wasn't he? Was he out having affairs and things like that? Or was he faithful to you, sharing in expenses and chores.
Maybe you were the one that wasn't committed!
I have been married for 25 years, am I married because I have a license from a government office and stood before a minister and said I do? No I am married because I am there for my wife and committed to making her happy..... all the rest is eye wash.
2006-08-16 10:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Chief 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me like you are kind of in the same situation as I am in hun. I have been with the same man now for 2 yrs and living together but he hasn't proposed either and that is what he knows that I want. I want him to make that commitment as I know that is what you want from your man. However as women we need to understand that for most men marriage is a very big scary step because they have to deal with the permenance of the situation and hear from there "boys" what a big mistake that they are making. I believe that you need to have a heart to heart talk with your man and let him know exactly how you feel and that is why you made the decision that you did and that if he cares for you and loves and still wants to be with you then he needs to think long and hard about that commitment. I feel for you girl i really do.
2006-08-16 10:12:47 · answer #3 · answered by cheryl m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get married then your right for kicking him out but it doesn't make sense to continue to go out with him. Isn't the whole point here to move on ? If he didn't commit living with you he surely isn't going to commit after being kicked out. Three years is long enough to wait I would say.
2006-08-16 10:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think of that's incorrect via some distance. in case you have already stated with this youthful guy what you like out of the relationship and he isnt responding to it in any respect, then he extremely does not choose what you like. For him to sense forced via finding at rings is a demonstration that even though it may take place sooner or later, that sooner or later wont be with you. I say 3 years is a protracted adequate time to watch to your frog to alter right into a prince. the only thank you to locate what you like is to seek for somebody who needs what you like. He would or will possibly no longer come to his senses while he no longer could have his cake and consume it to. sturdy luck on looking Mr. remarkable- he's presented!
2016-09-29 08:31:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing. We lived together for 4 years and it never progressed to anything more. I gave him an ultimatum to either propose by a certain date or I was kicking him out. He didn't believe me so......adios amigo!!!
Find someone who wants the same things in life that you do. I did and I have never been happier!! Good luck.
2006-08-16 10:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman. I think you did the right thing, and I think you could be friends but not date anymore unless he does come back and propose, really propose, as in bringing a ring and deciding on a date that day for the wedding.
2006-08-16 10:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well me myself i live with my bf and i don't want to marry right now and may never want to we get along just fine the way we are i think you was wrong for kicking him out maybe he just is not ready for that at this time marriage is a big step for some people maybe you should think about it a little harder and give it a chance
2006-08-16 10:13:20 · answer #8 · answered by Billie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is on their own path in life. It's the ones with compatible paths that stay together. Because the plans are different doesn't mean one is right and the other wrong.
2006-08-16 10:10:53 · answer #9 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm well he is probably afraid of commitment which all us men are he he. You did right if he understood that you wanted more then live in. If he did not well then that is something you should have talked with him about in a descrete way that won't make him run or whatever.
2006-08-16 10:11:45 · answer #10 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋