Molestation?????

Question

My neice is two she keeps saying strange things and we dont know what to think. We asked her if anyone touched her in her private area or showed her something that wasnt nice for children (porn) and she says no but still she says things I find Strange. She stayed by her daddy for two weeks before this he has a sick baby in the hospital so he sometimes left her with his sister and their children. I dont want to accuse anyone but I dont understand where she has learned these things! For example she tells her baby doll to turn around and bend over and when I ask her why she's doing it she changes the subject or starts acting really silly laughing and running around and ignores me or shell say I dont know! What do We do?????

Also she has been peeing a lot my sister doesnt see a change but it seem like as soon as she uses it she has to go again.

Answer 1

I tell my son that when I hav eto wipe his butt. There could be lots of things she's talking about. Ask her dad what he thinks.

Trust what she tells you but at the same time keep whatching her actions. At some point if you continue to feel uncomfortable take her to see a doc. That's the only way to be sure.

You don't want to keep putting things in her head because it could end up hurting her more than you think.

Answer 2

Well be hopeful don't think the worst. Most likely they probably weren't supervising her well, and let her watch something inappropriate on television. Maybe a teenager turned something on (possibly a rated r movie or something similar) and then told the little girl to promise not to tell that she got to watch the movie. Talk to the girl about how some things are not nice to say, and show her the nice way to pretend to change a dolls diaper, or change the dolls clothes. Also remind her that she doesn't have to keeps secrets, and if there is ever anything she wants to tell you not to be afraid because you promise you won't be angry if she tells you the truth.

Answer 3

Children are sponges, my suggestion watch her for a bit longer and keep a record but in the meantime don't make a big deal out of any one thing she says because this will either cause her to clam up or make her say outrageous things even more so to get the attention from you. If something has happened she will eventually show you in actions or verbally. Another thought, children at that age are naturally curious as well, so be prepared, she might have seen something she wasn't supposed to and be modeling it as well. Best suggestion, no worries, because if something did happen you will find out about it and then you can take action. Prayers =)

Answer 4

Sounds like something COULD have happenedm but if it is not clear what she is saying, the bend over thing is enough to make me nervous.
You could have a Child Protective Services worker look into this,
They would of course examine her for any signs of molestation. They woiuld probably investigate all involved. Also, if you went to a doctor or social worker, it would be their obligation as a mandatory reporter to report the situation. You really don't want this to be happening in your family, either way.
If your niece continues to say these types of things after another visit, I would definitely report it to CPS.

It's also possible that a cousin or little friend did something to that nature. Either way, it is still molestation or sexualizing no matter how old the child is.

Answer 5

She is only two; she doesn't know well enough to give you a proper answer to whether people have touched her or not. What you need to do is ask the adults she has been spending time with. In private, seriously ask them if they have been doing anything innappropriate with your daughter, or if they ever did or said anything innappropriate with her present. You need to do this with every adult who could possibly do anything to her.

This is pretty much your only option, because since she is still practically a baby, she doesn't know the difference between someone wiping her butt for her and someone touching her for pleasure. And she is too young for a counselor to help, as well.

Answer 6

I believe in situations like this it is better to err on the side of caution. No need to make any accusations at this point, but trust your instinct and talk to her parents about her concerns without trying to point the finger at anyone specific. She needs to talk to a child psychiatrist who is trained to deal with situations like this. If something did happen and you did nothing you will never get over the guilt, if nothing happened then you will be accused of being protective of your niece, which is a good thing.
I had a similar situation with my little cousin. nothing concrete i just had a gut instinct something was funny, i told my aunt, and she sent him to a counselor and as it turned out i was right, but they caught the escalating molestation before there was ever penetration. Molesters start out slowly in order to gain the trust of a child, then they test limits to see if what they can get away with. Action needs to be taken right away. I hope everything turns out ok.

Answer 7

It is probably nothing but it could be something. You take her to a Doctor with her mother and explain that you're concerned about her strange behaviour. You don't accuse anyone of molesting her - if there is any real evidence that needs investigating the Doctor will be trained to see it and call in the police.

Answer 8

My sons friend who is 4 and my daughter who is 6, well I found out that he had been touching her privates. I was so upset. I went tthrough how adults should not touch her there but never thought about other kids. It was more on the side of him "checking" her out, but I immediatly confronted my friend about the situation. You need to talk to your babies daddy and his sister. If they have your daughters best interest at heart they will check into it for you. You need to safe rather than sorry. I hope you get to the bottom of all this.

Answer 9

My daughter said a boy told her to "look at his fish" and that he touched her "down there" I was freaking out so I turned the daycare in, which is where she said it happened and they investigated, Also I took her to a children's services type place that specializes in figuring out by just talking to a child if they are in danger, they talk to them alone and play with toys and just hang out then they do a physical check which the parent can be there for. STAY CALM because if you freak out or ask leading questions you can mess up your chances of actually finding out ok...seriously just take her to a place like this and let them do the work. PLEASE FIND A THERAPIST PLEASE....I had a girl at my daughter's school say something strange to me too and I talked to her teacher, the principal the school therapist...i called everyone don't be someone who says I WISH I WOULD HAVE DONE SOMETHING....please please!!!

Answer 10

Take her to a child therapist...they are taught how to relate to children and get the correct answers out of them...whether it be that she has been molested or whether she hasn't. Also take he to a gyn or her pediatrician and tell them what is going on...have them check for her hymen. I would only do that after she talked to a therapist though...no need scaring her further until you know something more. I will pray that she hasn't been touched!!