My girlfriend and I live in completely different states and I only get to see her every so often-usually about once a month or so. and I know it upsets her, and its hard on both of us. I love her very much, but there's things keeping me here for atleast another year or so before I can come back close to her. Should I go on and wait and see what happens, or make the move and throw chance to the wind?
2006-08-16 09:31:56 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I'd say just drive and go see her...But then again, I drive a truck for a career, so the different states thing doesn't bother me.
2006-08-16 09:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, long distance relationships are very hard to keep but that's not to say that it won't work. Long distance relationships can add stress due to not being able to see each on a daily basis and that's perfectly normal. Depending on your age and if you are still in High School, I'm sure you will have to stay and finish school as I'm sure your parents won't give you free reigns to just up-and-leave just like that. If you are out of high school and working then maybe you can try relocating and if you can't relocate then try finding a job that's close to her. On the other hand, if she is able to, then why not have her relocate? If age is not a factor in this issue then I would say there is nothing wrong with throwing caution in the air. Why don't you both discuss the dilemma and see if you both can come up with a resolve to turn the situation around? Good luck to you both. :)
2006-08-16 09:43:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a situation like that before. And what I did was actually in the end the best for both of us. We ended up "breaking up". The quotations are there because we really didn't break up. It's like we would always love each other and care and did the same thing as if we were dating, but we could date other people. Our love was strong. So strong that waiting that year made our love for each other even more special. (( plus we didn't date anyone -- a personal choice )) Listen to your heart. I mean if your suppose to stay at where you are maybe there's a reason, maybe even a reason to move on.
Listen to your heart no matter what.
x3
2006-08-16 09:42:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that she is the one person on this whole world that you are meant for it is you should throw caution to the wind to go be with her. If you are not sure yet, do the smart thing and make a solid life for yourself before you bring her into it completely. There is nothing wrong or right with either choice. It's you who has to live with your heart. Can she come and live with you for the year you have to be away?
2006-08-16 09:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by ttti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That totally depends on what is keeping you where you are. If you have a really fantastic job where you are then I'd say wait. If it's just because you're afraid to make that big of a commitment then I'd say wait. If it's something like you really like your apartment then I'd go. Jobs are hard to come by and you'll need it to provide for yourself and maybe her in the future. If you're afraid of commitment then you're not ready to jump. And if it's your super cool apartment that you don't want to leave then remember you can always find another awesome apartment or even a house. :)
2006-08-16 09:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can be difficult. Honestly, your decision depends on what obligation is holding you in your place for the moment, and how much you like your girlfriend. If your obligation is dispensable, and your relationship is nearing a level such as marriage, then the move could be considered. Otherwise, just wait, and make the move with clear conscience, and free of obligation. Don't get swept up in the moment.
2006-08-16 09:37:52 · answer #6 · answered by the Nightwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should give it time if u really love each other u will give it a chance am in the same condition too but i don't give up on my boyfriend and neither does he so keep up and see were it gets u 2 another year is not that long and look in the bright side u can see her sometimes both of u need to understand each other in this
2006-08-16 09:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by leo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I empathize with you. I don't know what's keeping you there but just try to continue with the way things are going now and if the love between the two of you are real then it will work out. Have you consider her moving there if possible? You have to be able to be financially able to move before you can move so just give it sometime and time will tell if she really loves you as much as you love her.
2006-08-16 09:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay where you are. Your relationship may not work out even if you move and then you've messed up your career or whatever is keeping you. It's not worth it.
If you can stay together through this, you'll be even stronger in the end. It's not like you can't talk to eachother...we have technology now.
Also, perhaps you should talk to your girlfriend about this and see if she is willing to wait.
2006-08-16 09:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fallow your heart, if you love her and want to be with her right now then i think you should just go. Do what you feel, take a risk sometimes you might just be surprised at the results. Besides life has a funny way of working things out.
2006-08-16 09:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Lelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋