I just met this guy, he is so sweet, and loving, but there are a few things about his physical that kinda turn me off. I'm not sure if i'm being to picky, i mean no one is perfect, i have my imperferctions.. and he excepts me with mine.... Will i become attracted to his physical?
Have any of you been in this situation before? what did you do? if not what would you do?
2006-08-16 09:21:17 · 24 answers · asked by Unwritten 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unless you want to be shallow and only like a guy for his looks then dump him and go for a guy who looks physically hot but will not be sweet and loving. HMMMMM the choices
2006-08-16 09:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Molly, if you are not physically attracted to him then you should just remain friends with him if that is possible, because if there is not at least some type of chemistry from the door, even just a little bit then there isn't going to be any later on, if anything you will start to put more and emphasis on the things you are turned off by. I know because I was in a situation like this just recently. I met a great guy. He was respectful, polite loving ect. but sence the attraction was not there I just was not treating him like I would treat someone that I was really into, and that wasn't really fair, epecially sence he had romantic feelings for me, again like Molly said there has to be some type of passion and chemistry and just the excitement you feel when its someone your really into or else your going to feel like something is missing, and that is not being shallow like some of the other people said, its being real.
2006-08-16 09:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm interior a similar place you're and asking myself a similar question. i comprehend this guy will decide for to start getting actual quickly and that i'm basically no longer that involved in him. aside from that, he's a great guy with a suitable activity, and he relatively likes and cares approximately me. And yet, my ex, whom i became very involved in, had all forms of subject concerns and this guy is incredibly together and strong. i assume you basically could flow with your gut yet i comprehend the way you experience via fact i ponder whether i'd be letting flow of somebody relatively stable if I tell him i'm no longer involved. you're no longer being shallow. as quickly as you already know for specific that each and one and all the factors which you would be happy in a courting basically are not there, then it's time to end it. I shop questioning i'm going to alter into greater attracted the greater i'm getting to comprehend somebody. And that does form of take place, yet no longer consistently.
2016-11-04 23:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by derival 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force physical attraction. Everyone has their type, the physical characteristics that someone has to have for them to attracted. Sometimes people end up being attracted to someone that is not their "type" but they are inexplicably physically attracted to this new person. If you are only physically attracted to people that look like greek gods and you aren't willing to settle for less, then you might be shallow.
However, if you are turned off about a lot of his physical attributes, I don't it's fair for you or him for you have to fantasize about someone else whenever you guys want to be intimate. What happens when you run into another person nice who you ARE physically attracted to? Do you kick him to the curb then? Can you imagine being intimate with him? If the thought revolts you, you might want to let him go.
2006-08-16 10:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by m&m_manic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if he is a nice person, with a good heart, a good mind, and a good personality, that is good enough. The truth of the matter is this, we are all going to be old, bald, wrinley, and may use the bthroom in our pants but, the heart will still be attractive, so will the mind(when it's working), and the personality will still be good. Besides, when you turn off the lights, it's pure, you can not see so, you won't know the differences at all.
2006-08-16 09:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attraction is attraction....be it physical, emotional, intellectual. If the other two outweigh the first, then I don't see why it wouldn't work. As you get more emotionally invested in your relationship, that person will become more beautiful to you.
But little things that you have issues with, tend to become bigger things in the long run if they are not dealt with.
If you're looking long term, the reality is...we all get old and wrinkly. I would rather be with someone that wasn't as attractive, but treated me well. Rather than someone absolutely gorgeous, but treated me like dirt. After all, we'd end up old and wrinkly, I'd still be treated like dirt.
2006-08-16 09:31:28 · answer #6 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That the best way to find love, because then you know you really care for the person. You shouldnt pass up a good opportunity to be happy. I think once you guys really get serious and he does something so right for you, you wont be able to help but be attracted to him.
Only problem is, no matter how ugly the person might be, they still got it in them to be just as ugly as a handsome person on the inside.
2006-08-16 09:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Elle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As awful as it sounds it probably wont work.. you start to find that you will keep coming back to the things you don't like and it will make it difficult to have a good relationship. Plus you will see guys that are attractive and keep having the what if feelings. People can say that this sounds shallow but if you want a realtionship that will last you have to be true to yourself.
2006-08-16 09:29:04 · answer #8 · answered by Krista S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met my husband i was not physically attracted to him. I went out with him becasue he was interesting and funny. Shortly after that I began to fall in love with him. He became attractive to me. Now I think he is one of the most handsome men and I am very proud of him.
I think it is important to be physically attracted to someone but you can't force it upon yourself either. Give him a chance, within a few weeks you will know if it is right for you or not.
Good Luck!
2006-08-16 09:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want someone, anyone, and you're willing to settle. Don't! Physical attraction doesn't come out of nowhere. Just be friends. Love and passion and attraction is what keeps a relationship going over time, and this one just won't work. Don't lead him on any more than you have, it will just hurt him.
2006-08-16 09:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just go with it, maybe thing will change, i still question my relationship with my boyfriend, there is so much I am unsure of, when I first met him and we were just friends i didn't find him attractive at all, but the more i got to know him the more that changed. and I am hoping, myself that it will change more, and i will some day be completely certain
2006-08-16 09:35:00 · answer #11 · answered by midesweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋