My sister is 20 yrs old we just found out she might have cancer yet we aren't really sure yet but she is also very proud how can i help out with out interefering to much
2006-08-16 09:14:38 · 51 answers · asked by Booker 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The best way to be there for her is to pray, pray, pray.
You can also just be honest with your sister and tell her......I know that you like to handle things on your own and I will respect that. Just know that I am here for you if you ever need me to talk or for anything. Tell her anytime, any day, for whatever reason.
And then make sure when she does call that you keep your word. Don't put her off when she calls if your busy with something else. But whatever else you are doing on hold and talk to her.
2006-08-22 09:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my sister and my mother both had cancer .the best thing for you to do is to be there for her in what ever way she needs it and dont worry about interfereing (unless you try to control her ) .whatever the treatment may be , be there for her in all kinds of ways help clean her house when she dont have the energy to do it ,if she is crying and wondering why her? just sit and listen dont try to give your opinion on why there is no answer hold her hand and tell her you will be there for her .i am not sure how old you are and that but if you are able to drive take her out when she seems down in the dumps just basically be a loving and caring siblng to her .this is if she does .til you know whether or not she defitnitly has it just listen to her voice her fears .do not be worried about being obvious you are her brother you are there for her .and there is nothing wrong with showing her love.i know if she does the following will be hard for her and everyone else in your family it also may help to set her up with other people who have gone through it so she can have an idea of what all to expect.my mother had colon cancer when i was 12 i am 35 now .she is alive and i love the fact that i did not lose her then. i do remember it being a tough time in our family emotionally, pysically,and finacially .my sister had uterine cancer just 5 yrs ago she is doing really well and again it was emotional to everyone even though she is married and i was also we had our seperate lives it hit us all very hard . the best you can ever do is to be there and cherish what you have .treatments have come along way but i do know they take a lot out of a person .so support her in what ever she opts to do and help her through it emotionally and physically . i wish you luck that it isnt cancer and if it is i wish a speedy recovery and a long life for all of you .god bless you all .
2006-08-24 07:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by blackfoot124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some advice from someone who has had to battle cancer. I had more respect for those who were honest enough to talk to me like I was the same person I always were. Let her know that she can and will always have your support but never make her feel as if she is dead or dying. If you have questions ask her but let her know it's because you love her and want to understand what she is going through. She can survive this that is the first thing you must understand. The second is she is the same person inside and out. Like I said I had cancer at 16 and now I am 32 and still moving strong. She can do it to with your help.
2006-08-23 05:47:52 · answer #3 · answered by jozetta W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister will let you know how she wants to be supported by the way she acts. When I had cancer, my favorite thing was when people sent me cards. It didn't ask too much of me, like talking on the phone did. Answering email was too hard for me (no energy) but I LOVED cards and loved getting flowers even more! Give her little inexpensive gifts every once in awhile to let her know you're thinking of her. If you live in the same house, do extra special things and make her feel comfortable (like run upstairs and get a book so she doesn't have to). If she has cancer, she has a rough road ahead, but she'll appreciate your support even if she is proud!
2006-08-17 08:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by J.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took care of my father (he had cancer and died from it). He was pretty proud so I would just be there for him. That can be a bigger help that you might imagine. Do things that you don't need to ask about. Like if she needs something and you know it and she has not got it yet, get it for her and say something like "oh here you go, I picked this up while I was out" Just keep it casual because weather or not she ends up having cancer she is going to feel "different" and the best thing you can do for her is to do your best to make her feel normal, like nothing has changed. That is powerful medicine man. Good luck and best of wishes to you and yours.
2006-08-16 09:25:29 · answer #5 · answered by Roger C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I urge you go to Yahoo or Goggle search about what kind of Cancer she is getting,what stage and what is the treatment.?Right now Standford Medical Center has found the study going on and it seems cancer cell stops growing for a patient.So I urge you to research for her and I believe in Prevention.You need to advice her about her diet has to be change totally.You can save life by step ahead I urge you to call the hospital ( Standford Hospital. and ask for info line,then you will get a second opinion.New technology can make a difference in your sister life. You have to initiate her for exercises.You also be there and give her more attention because, Cancer is not just a cold but it is painful disease and people can loose his or her life.
2006-08-23 19:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her when she needs you, and let her know you ARE there 24-7. Don't try to be overprotective, they catch on! Treat her normally, but don't hide the fact that she might have cancer. I have had cancer 4 times, 2 diff kinds, and my rock,(my husband) always says after the tests"we will worry about it when we know for sure!" He's right, we get so caught up in the what if's, that we forget to live and love the people next to us. Just be you and let her be her. She'll let you know when to step in.
2006-08-23 18:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by bootaboutit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about being obvious. Tell her you love her and that you want to be there for her, no matter what. Then do it. If she does have it, learn as much as you can about her diagnosis. Help her get to her appointments and deal with all the crap that's coming. Let her rant to you. Be her advocate with medical personnel, because she'll need one - there'll be times when she just doesn't have the energy to call a bureaucrat or uncaring nurse or other provider on their sh*t, and if you educate yourself you can do it for her. I cannot tell you how much that means (I have several chronic illnesses myself). Just be there.
And if she doesn't have it, go out and celebrate with her. Let her know how glad you are, and how worried you were about losing somebody you love so much.
I'll be thinking of you and your family.
2006-08-16 09:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be sure to always have a shoulder for her to cry on if she needs one without saying so...
Treat her like the strong, proud woman she is, but also be slightly sensitive to her needs...
Show her that there is more to life than dealing with cancer and show her good times (have fun & enjoy life)...
& most importantly, in your own little ways show her that you always love her...
2006-08-16 09:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey all you can do is love her and be there for her. My daughter had stage 2 ovaian cancer. I had all the churches praying for her. You might want to ask the Lord to guide you with your situation. My daughter is fine now. I thank the good Lord for healing her body. I will pray for her also. God Bless you and your sister.
2006-08-23 16:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋