hi, as i had tried to have sex with my boyfriend, it is kind of difficult to pentrate, i am tight from within that my boyfriend causes me pain when he tries to pentrate (you know what i mean) and since we ever tried this, i am not stoping bleeding - did he just break the hymn away, please give me answers quickly, i am a kind of scared in nature and i donot know what to do, he just fingered at first (6 times till now) and the tried a cream to make it easier and it did not work, what can i do to make this thing happen without pain, is it really me that i am very anxious and tight from within, what can i do to be less tight?
2006-08-16 09:08:14 · 8 answers · asked by franky c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
try KY jelly
2006-08-16 09:13:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sumitha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are bleeding alot go straight to a Dr. If it's only a tiny bit, just make sure it doesn't get infected and it should clear up in a couple days - it's just extremely delicate tissue. Make sure he's being really gentle. Make sure this is someone who you feel absolutely 100% trusting and loving with, and that should help you relax. Women give birth to freaking watermelons through that same hole, it has nothing to do with 'tightness', it's just nerves and/or lack of lubrication. You shouldn't be using any sort of cream, get some KY or other kind that works with condoms (which you'd better be using girl!!).
2006-08-16 16:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Molly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was probably the hymen breaking. Some girls have a very thick one and it can be painful. I would have him use fingers again, then try two, work up to three (not in the same day)....GENTLY, GENTLY. Stop blaming yourself for being uptight or anxious! It's your first time, so hopefully he is enough of a "gentle man" to take his time and make it really special. Candles, flowers, cool jazz music.........take me away, baby!
2006-08-16 16:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be a mental issue. If you're not ready or if he's too forceful... whatever the case, it might be a mental thing. I had an issue like that one time too, it was just the wrong fella. Go see your doctor and they'll let you know if it's a physical problem you need to have taken care of. If it hurts, it might be a mental thing.
2006-08-16 16:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by Alanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybee you were no tready. And next time try to relax before to not bee so tight
2006-08-16 16:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by nurf turf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a Gyno
2006-08-16 16:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by MsLysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all MAYBE ur body is not ready for "sex" yet...and if u bleed that means he did open u up...to most girls bleeding occurs to some it doesn't.....and on top of that it hurts some girls a lot to..
2006-08-16 16:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by chaand5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u just started having sex....its gonna hurt for a wile....its normal for it to bleed and hurt for a while.....but if you are truely worried go see the gyno....
2006-08-16 16:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by bleh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋