Okay, here is the situation. This girl i like is 13. I'm 15. She used to be all over me, i mean, we would always do everything together, and we would stay up really late at night, and talk every night. Well anyways, people started talking about it, and she really backed off. So I asked her out, she said I dont know. I thought it was a nice way of saying no, but she told her friends she might like me. Well it's been about 2 months now, and she has completely backed off. I mean she recently got back from Costa Rica, and we hasn't even talked since, and she got back on Sunday. And rumor has it that while there, she was all over these two guys in my youth, just like she used to be with me. Well now her friends say she dont like me at all, and just dont wanna hurt my feelings. But her and her mom are really close, and her mom says she's just scared, and cant decide between me and these other guys. But she says she duz like me. What should I think. I mean i just cant move on.
2006-08-16 09:04:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean i've liked and many girls, but none like her. There is just something about her, and I know I sound crazy since I'm only 15, but i'm being dead honest. I would do ANYTHING to get her back, will she come back around? And what should I do? I mean because, it was obvious she liked me, she even sent me a song one time, and I think she was trying to say something to the effect that she likes me, just doesnt know what to do. But i missed the point. Well now it seems she has lost those feelings, for no apparent reason, so what should i do to get her back??
2006-08-16 09:07:45 · update #1
You want honesty. She is too young to know what she wants. You are too young to know what is going on with her. She is going through a lot of changes. Give her time. Don't be too pushy. It is very likely that you two won't be together in the long run. But that is not a given. Leave yourself as well as her some breathing room to grow and learn.
2006-08-16 09:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you REALLY like her! Well, I think you shouldn't look too desperate to see her or talk to her. Maybe you should text her or e-mail her asking her about her trip, and how she's doing; after you get an answer, then you could talk to her more often, but only as friends, you don't want to overwhelm her. The thing is, don't worry about what her friends say because in the end, it's really up to her to make a choice and I think she likes you, so you'll probably discover that as you get closer again. On the other hand, you are way too young to be that worried, I guess age doesn't matter when it comes to love, but you have to keep in mind that you have many opportunities ahead of you, so rejection is just a way to learn. Te same goes for her, she probably got scared because she was having these intense feelings for you and she's way too young, so give her time, you have a lot of it. Good luck!
2006-08-16 16:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like shes afraid of having a real relationship, afraid of dating (especially dating an older guy!). she liked you better as just friends for now, so thats how you should keep your relationship for the time being. im 13 and i dont know if i would want to be in a serious relationship either, even with someone my age. notice how she backed off just after you asked her out. shes probably new to the whole "this guy really has feelings for me" thing and is probably afraid of whats next. so tell her that youre just fine with staying friends, and you might just regain her friendship.
good luck!!!
2006-08-16 16:11:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to be 13, you have so little experience in dealing with your feelings and expressing them. I think you should write a hand-written note (so it's spontaneous and not edited a thousand times) telling her how you feel. Put this under your pillow tonight and sleep thinking about her. Read it the next morning, and then if it feels right, mail it to her. Don't drop it off! Send it US Mail. Then you must NOT do anything until she contacts you.....she will. GOOD LUCK
2006-08-16 16:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on and date other people and if she comes around and comes back make the decision at that time. But if you wait for her to come around, you might be waiting a very long time.
2006-08-16 16:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really "get her back".
You should back off for a while and see what happens to her love life. If she likes you a lot she will come back for you, but don't be clingy cause a lot of girls hate that..
2006-08-16 16:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Easier said then done.....As soon as she finds out that you don't care she will come running. Girls are stupid this way. I should know I am a girl.
2006-08-16 16:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hopefully ur not like other guyz - liking girls younger thn u juz so u can take advantage of u....i think she still likes u....giv her a lil tyme n ask her again - good luck
2006-08-16 16:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by angelpinkgal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know man, girls are tricky, i guess it depends on her personality, is she the kind of girl that would look for a good time or someone to love?
2006-08-16 16:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her, simply, if she still cares about you in that way, and if so would she consider going out with you.
2006-08-16 16:12:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋