me and my sister are think are mum is having an affair she has been acting really weired lately just like 10min's ago we both have been trying to get through to her on the phone but it has been engaged finally just got through to her and she Say's she has not been on the phone yet only her in the house as my dad works nights can any 1 give me tips to tell if she is having a affair or not
2006-08-16 09:00:52 · 43 answers · asked by lyndsey H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No one can tell you whether or not your mom is having an affair. Only she can tell you. Accusations can cause bad repercussions is you're not careful. Your best bet is for your sister and yourself to sit down and have a MATURE and ADULT convo with your mother and ask her why she has been acting so weird and if there is someone else. Make sure you explain to her the reasoning of your questioning and tell her you both feel like you're being left in the dark. Like I said, no-one...what so ever, can give you advice or tips on how to tell if your mother is having an affair....everyone is different, plus no one knows your mom, so therefore...take the adult path.......ask.
2006-08-16 09:08:43 · answer #1 · answered by Casie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not true that you should just ignore her and do nothing. This is your family. You're allowed to tell your parents if you're worried about something. It's always better to talk about something that's bothering you, as long as you do it in a calm, caring way. Your mother should always be willing to talk to you--and if she's not having an affair, I'm sure she'll make you feel a lot better.
I think you and your sister should both get together to tell your mother how you feel. DON'T ACCUSE her of having an affair, don't even mention the words "affair" "cheating" or say anything hurtful to her. Just tell her you've noticed a change in her behavior and ask her if anything's going on. You should let her know you're not clueless, that you pay attention to her and you care about what she does. See what she says.
If after that you two still are worried, you should talk to both of your parents at the same time. Never accuse her of being a cheater, though, because you don't know for sure, and that can be very disrespectful. Just tell them both how you guys feel.
2006-08-16 09:14:30 · answer #2 · answered by Gennie Goose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your Mum started prying into your sex life ?
Would you feel it was an invasion of privacy or that as your Mother she had every right to know all about everybody you were sleeping with ?
If your Mum is having an affair it's a personal matter between the three (or more) people involved.
Maybe your Father knows all about it and doesn't mind.
2006-08-16 16:19:01 · answer #3 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much. I'm sure it's nothing but if you need to put your mind at ease, take an interest in life. Don't go all up on her asking her question after question. Just steadily ask her about her day. A couple questions a day. Every other day or so, don't ask anything though. If she relizes you're getting on her case, she'll be more careful as to what she says. Find out about her friends at work. that might get you somewhere. Ask about each friend, then watch her to see if she acts differently when talking about one.
2006-08-16 09:09:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mind your business!!!!!!! This is not ground you should be intruding on. This is a very sensitive ares and is for your dad- her life partner- to work out. Meddling NEVER works out well and you may not be aware of some intimate details of their relationship that they have not shared with you; which is their right by the way.
Besides who says your mother should be at your beck and cal anyway. She probably turned the phone off just to get a break from all the monotonous request for lip gloss.
2006-08-16 09:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by powkisss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well a change in behavior could mean anything...you have to know her more intimate habits, like seeing condoms around her house and you know your dad has a vasectomy or she had her tubes tied. Or you know that your dad complains of not getting any and you find a prescription for b.c. pills in her belongings. Recent purchases of lingerie when you know she doesn't usually wear that for dad. You will need to follow her every move 24/7 if you really want to know. It could really be nothing at all.
2006-08-16 09:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by want it bad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem last year, just walk in on your mom a lot, if shes at home a lone and your out with frends, come home a half an hour early and surprise her, call her a lot and stay close to her a lot, if she is having an afair, she will stop cuz you and yor sis are wit her a lot and she will know its to risky.
Yor frend, B.D.P, aka Black Dr. Phil
2006-08-16 09:07:13 · answer #7 · answered by B.D.P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Tell her in a gentle but up front and honest way what you ware thinking and feeling. Honesty is the best way to handle it. Just sit with her and tell her how odd she is been acting and you are worried. Then tell her than you are wondering about it. Tell her if she is to just be honest about it because it's not worth hiding. Good luck
2006-08-16 09:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help but think that this is none of your business.
However, why not just ask her? Tell her about what you have observed and then ask her, she will see the reason behind your question, or she will flip out, either way the uncertainty is worse.
2006-08-16 09:07:01 · answer #9 · answered by magerious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was having an affair, she wouldn't have been on the phone.
2006-08-16 09:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by baby1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋